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I am male and to everyone I know that is obvious, but sometimes it feels like an act, and I'm just passing time until I get another chance to be Diane. I'm not effeminate in any way as a guy, but far from macho either. Given the choice, (though I don't seek transition) I know which role I would prefer long term.
What's wrong with just being one's self?
Like I said, even GGs have days where they do not feel or dress particularly feminine.
Even males are encouraged to embrace a softer, somewhat "feminine" side on occasion.
So, let's not perpetuate stereotypes. :)
I dress every day, but a lot of times I don't feel particularly feminine. When this happens, I sometimes think to myself "I might as well be wearing male clothing." But the instant that thought hits me I recoil with horror: "Male clothing. Ugh! Why would I want to do that?"
Sometimes I think that my desire to wear female clothing isn't so much a desire to be feminine as it is a desire not to be wearing weird clothing all the time. To me male clothing is weird clothing and female clothing is normal. I can still do drab when necessary, but it's never what I prefer, and my "masculine persona" is an act and nothing more.
For myself the balance between M and F is more an identity issue, and not just clothing. The issue is not sexuality either, again my self identity is a hybrid with variable M and F energies.
I like the way my feminine and masculine sides are blending recently, but it is definitely interesting watching how they each play out in my clothing, movement, and even behavior. Just gotta watch and see what happens, I guess.