Chantal,
On many parts pf the continent they don't have the same problem , if the queue is too long at one of them ( usually the ladies ) they will skip over to the other one .
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Chantal,
On many parts pf the continent they don't have the same problem , if the queue is too long at one of them ( usually the ladies ) they will skip over to the other one .
Chantal, I'm not the preachy or confrontational type. And, altho I hang with lots of T girls, most of them wouldn't care which toilet u entered either.
But, to be completely honest? A few mite mention the danger u could encounter entering the Men's Room dressed because they were worried about u!:hugs:
I don’t throw safety out the window, I tend to do judgement calls. It is understandable for a person to voice their safety concerns with my choice and I would definitely thank them and explain that I had deemed the place safe or a friend or two were present in the washroom as well. However, this individual did not mention any concerns for my safety at all in her preaching. Her focus was all based on how I am harming the right to use the restrooms of the expressed gender.Quote:
Originally Posted by Princess Chantal
This whole bathroom thing is so overblown in this country. If you're comfortable going into the men's room so be it. If you're dressed, I've never seen a ladies room without stalls or a door, so you're doing your business in private. You come out rinse, check makeup and out you go. Where is the problem?
I use the ladies room if there are no single stall bathrooms. Even used the NY Port Authority terminal ladies room during the AM rush hrs, waited in line, did my business, checked my hair and make up (BTW lots of big mirrors on the wall) and walked on, not a word or dirty look at all.
Restrooms are furthest from my mind when out and about. It was the transgender person that made the big issue of it all. To me it seemed like she took issue of me maintaining my male identity eventhough dressed up in a respectable full feminine manner. Matter of fact sometimes my friends within the transgender community diss my choice of not abandoning my very masculine wallet at home when out and about. Especially my choice of when I keep the wallet and cellphone in my back pockets of the jean skirt or jeans and not carry a purse.
Here's my take, its your business what restroom you go into, but if you choose to go to a restroom that doesn't match the gender you are presenting as then you'd best be prepared to explain yourself to the many people who feel as if it is their business. I personally find the entire gendering of restrooms kind of dumb, and I can't imagine being offended if I were to share a restroom with a woman, but I think most women would feel far more strongly about sharing a restroom with a man.Quote:
Originally Posted by Princess Chantal
In your pictures you don't look like a man, so it may turn heads when you go to the men's room.
It doesn't seem to be as big an issue in Canada as it is in the States, but as long as you are careful about not putting yourself in danger, then go ahead and do what you like.
For what it's worth, you look and pass well enough, you easily could use the ladies room without anybody even noticing. I think that's what you should do. But I'd never intervene and preach to anybody. Ultimately, it's your call.
Some of us are obviously a "man in a dress", either by choice or the fact that we just could never pass as a woman. In this case, given no unisex or family restrooms and nowhere else to go, the men's restroom would be the best choice. Now if you pass or come close to passing, the women's restroom would be the better choice.
Restrooms should be something you think about before you go out as you're likely to need one at some point.
It’s about having a choice. Feminism isn’t about forcing women out of the kitchen and into the workforce. It’s about giving people an option and allowing them to control their own lives. This person telling you that you should have to use the women’s room is being just as oppressive as those who would tell you that you can’t.
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This is kind of the point isn’t it? That no human being should have to be afraid to go out because they don’t know what the “bathroom situation” is like?Quote:
Originally Posted by Krisi
There are reasons why there are men's and women's restrooms in the first place. If there weren't, there would be one and a sign saying "you all".
It's unrealistic to think that you can use whichever one you want to and in many places the wrong choice can put you in jail. Society has rules and just because you believe they are wrong doesn't give you the right to ignore them.
Now when we (crossdressers) decide to present ourselves to the public as women, we have a problem when it comes to relieving ourselves. That's when my advice in post #34 comes into play.
I often wonder, how likely is it really that going into a men's room en femme will result in violence? If a place is really that seedy, where men will flip out and immediately resort to violence when they see a dresser enter the men's room... is a place I don't ever want to go to, regardless of how I am dressed.
I'd rather use the men's room, personally, though I have used the women's when I was sure I'd be ok. I fear the law (regardless of what's on the books) more than I fear immediate violence in a men's room.
I use the women's room if presenting that way. It would feel weird using the men's en femme
Isn't that like saying the majority of people who go to war don't die, so why avoid war zones? It's great to think you only go to genteel places where you would not be in danger, but I know some lovely people who I won't be around if they've had a couple of drinks. It doesn't matter if those drinks are being served in an elegant restaurant or a seedy dive bar. Since there's no predicting individual outcomes, you have to minimize the odds. What that means is up to you.Quote:
Originally Posted by Vickie_CDTV