Daisy,
That's great. You are a rarely well adjusted person. I would definitely hang with you if we were local.
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Daisy,
That's great. You are a rarely well adjusted person. I would definitely hang with you if we were local.
Well, my actual situation is worse. I'm a transgender under HRT with evident boobies growing and a lot of feminizing things.
At the beginning my confession was being bisexual and crossdresser.
Things have evolved since then but the basic point for me is to have clear that is love what keeps you both together. Both must do some sacrifices. Mine was to renounce to meet guys for sex and I did it. Hers was let me dress at home. At the beginning was my make up and dressing style that made her feel uncomfortable, of course! I was dressing to tease guys.
The next of the history is not relevant here now but I don't understand when some husband say: my wife let me do this or that.
Marriage is a consensual agreement based on love to share the life. Everybody age or gain weight, everybody has the right to change...
This situation is difficult for the wives.
There is an "extinction effect". This means you can get used to anything if it happens often enough with no ill-effects. If she sees you often enough, the anguish and angst wears off. It is just you in different clothes.
One of the best things that can happen it that she meets other wives of CDs online. And it is better yet if she meets them in person at support group meetings. She will gradually become relaxed--and not fear the idea that other women know that her husband is a crossdresser.
At a TriEss meeting a few years ago. The wives got together in a corner and traded favorite receipies. The "guys" got together in dresses and stood around talking about motorcycles and welding.
In my situation, my wife is DADT. But she is Ok if I go to support group--if I dress at the site. She is getting insistent lately that I have too many dresses in my storage shed.
My dressing always felt like it was going to be a behind closed doors affair, took off in a big way though when I went to a support group and for many years that was enough for me,but I developed real friendships and began getting out in the mainstream, slowly at first.Then I met my wife and before long she wanted to accompany me out dressed and once she found out that we were just ordinary ppl from all walks of life we shared some great times in and out of tg company.Sadly through I'll health she hasn't been able to accompany me for a few years now,and i know she misses it
Sophie