Revealing to wife

So within a week she has done a 180 of the adventure. I am not surprised. To me she is trying to reconcile cross dressing with the man she married. That's hard thing to do. It appears she was inching along trying to accept your cross dressing because she loves you. It's one thing to have knowledge the husband wears women's clothing when alone and in private, and, it's another to have him appear all dolled up. Before your latest update I was going to suggest you just appear wearing women's clothing with padding and padded bra and leave the makeup for later....wig too. Perhaps she would see it is "just clothes." However, that is usually insufficient for the guy because he feels he wants the total experience because it is NOT "just clothes." It is a mind set. And, that is where we get in trouble. We're asking a woman to change her perception of her man.

Is there anything in this for her? Other than seeing her husband wearing women's clothing, makeup, wig and padding? Does she want to live with a pseudo woman? In my mind that is the big difference between a man being transformed into a woman on Halloween and adopting a lifestyle change. I read an article in a woman's magazine which indicated wives form a mental image of their husbands as a woman even though they have not seen him dressed as a woman. For many the thought is a complete turn off.

My wife wants nothing to do with Stephanie. Decades ago I tried for more acceptance. All I wanted was panties for my birthday. Well, panties were linked to the entire cross dressing "thing." I think a woman is more apt to accept her husband wearing women's panties as a fetish which is different than a full transformation. Maybe the same with sleeping in a woman's nightgown and nothing further. Again, a fetish. Before my wife and I had "The Talk" when our daughter yanked a bra out of my storage box I did on occasion where women's nylon gowns to bed. We even shopped together for my peignoir and nylon gowns. She even bought me hosiery and a garter belt. However, all that acceptance went out the window when it became linked to "pretending" to be a woman. She said if she wanted to be married to a woman, she would have married a woman.

I sort of figured at the time my insistence was nothing less than mental spousal abuse. So, the outcome. Stephanie comes out to express herself when her wife is away for the day. Sometimes it is seven hours when she is at work. Next week she will be visiting her cousin out of state. She knows Stephanie will be around for an entire week. Would I like to have her fully accept my interests? Sure. However, I have to accept her declination because that is her preference.