How and where do you hide "her" stuff?

I had that moral dilemma when I once did an answer to a post here where I explained how to cover your tracks with alternate emails, computer logins etc. My wife told me "you are helping others deceive their wife". I said "yeah, but also avoid their young children finding out" (children were mentioned in the thread). She said "yeah but also the wife". I munched on it for a few minutes and decided that she was right and I deleted the post.
Btw there is no way you can recommend a good place for hiding inside another's house because that thing is the least universal thing in the world. How good a hiding place is mostly depends on who lives there (and who visits, too) and their exact habits and you don't know the first thing about them. So I would say that taking any advice here on that topic is a probable recipe for disaster with a variable realization delay.

So I do not have a partner, but I do have a room mate I split rent with so my situation isn't exactly the same as I have some general line of privacy to my room, which is flaunted at times. I have a series of toolboxes which lock with a key. I keep the keys on me and have them locked cause 'tools are expensive and dangerous so nobody should use them without my permission' and such. Ultimately only one toolbox has tools the rest of it is 'her' stuff as you put it.

I've found my SOs things that were hidden i told him
It only chipped away at our "trust" I feel like if he hides
these things, what else could he be hiding? I know about
his fem side...so why hide things??

For some of us hiding is the only way. I have been caught numerous times with small items like pantyhose only to find them cut up into tiny pieces. So much for acceptance. The talk did not work for me.

My main stash is stored in the attic. It is Covered with plastic and then with extra fiberglass insulation on top of the plastic. Nobody wants to touch that stuff so it has been pretty safe. Having been caught with smaller items over the years, I can give one tip. Keep everything in no more than one or two places. More places things are stashed will increase the chances of being found and you will eventually forget where everything is.

I would prefer to not hide things but it is the only way for me.

Sandi

I kept mine in the attic access. Now she knows I have my own closet.:hugs:
Angie

No good answer for you. My drawers are in the dresser drawers, hiding in plain sight. Unisex shoes and boots are under the bed or on the closet floor. Girl jeans are piled under the guy jeans. The majority of my girl shoes, bras, camisoles, nighties, skirts, dresses, and tops are in the downstairs bathroom, where I shower; under a desk in "my corner" of the basement; or in boxes and bags in the garage. When/if we clean out the garage, I will have to make other arrangements (and probably downsize).

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Originally Posted by mylilsecret8

I don't understand why so many have to be so judgmental and forcing their opinions on others. Tiffany did not ask if she should have the talk, she simply asked for assistance on how to hide her feminine things. We don't know her situation and where she is on her journey so why try to steer someone in a direction?? I've seen this on so many posts, including from administrators. Shouldn't we be here to assist and support each other?

Tiffany, to answer your question, I often hide things on top shelf that are unlikely my wife will look. I'll mark a box with "electronic parts", "masonry tools", etc. which my wife has no interest. Within the box I have a smaller box that I keep my femme things. On top of the box, I put a bag with the parts and tools. In 30 years, have never been discovered.

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Thank you.
I waned to speak up and say something like that as I was feeling judged.
I didn't ask about telling my wife. I asked where you hide "her" stuff.
If you don't have to hide it, then power to you. But I do at this point and I was hoping to get some helpful ideas.

For those that have made suggestions, I greatly appreciate the feed back.

I will most likely be taking the garage back and creating my own workshop in there once again. It has become a catch all for a lot of random stuff and no one really goes in there anymore anyways.
I will be storing "her" belongings out there in a tool box (for now) with me. Shouldn't be too hard to do since I am only starting off with a few bras and panties.

Tiffany

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Originally Posted by char GG

I am in agreement with those who believe that not keeping secrets is the best policy. It's better to be truthful than to "hide and sneak" which is sometimes more troubling to a wife than the "reveal".

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That may be true. But, what happens after "The Reveal: and "The Talk" and a wife is forcefully opposed to her husband's cross dressing? She destroys the clothes/ She constantly berates her husband. She threatens her husband with total disclosure to everyone. Go to a therapist to get cured? What is the alternative? Is it more than "What else is he hiding from me?" Is the husband's actions one of self preservation? Does he poke the hornets' nest?