I don't crossdress. I wear clothes that I like.
I don't crossdress. I wear clothes that I like.
Hey, I would love to write lots of sex escapade stories about having sex with women. Sadly, I can't find a whole lot of them (I have yet to find even ONE in real life) who want to have sex with crossdressers (kind of like unicorns; I've heard and read about them, but have never actually seen one). So if you want more heterosexual crossdresser sex stories, you'll have to go out and preach to the straight females about how wonderful we are, maybe set up a 'Meet and date a crossdresser' kiosk at some 'all female' schools. But I don't think anything we do, will change what most straight women find to be a huge sexual turn off for them.
For me. My cross dressing grew out of a desire to physically manifest the feminine feelings I had when I was with a man or talking with a man online. Even though it was a bud before that. It didn?t flower until I accepted that I was bi. In my experience the CDs who advertise in personals are looking for that feminine validation or escape from their male role. The stories are part of that too. Of course I generalize so it is probably not true for all. But in the end it is all just a fantasy looking for fulfillment.
Greek and Roman mythology gives us the tale of Hercules and Omphale, in which Hercules allows himself to be sold into slavery to an Asian barbarian queen for 3 years to atone for murdering his friend, during which time the queen seduces him, and makes him crossdress constantly and do household chores and spin wool, while she walks around in his tough guy clothes and dominates him.
Eventually they marry.
Unfortunately, it's true that most "crossdressing" or "TG" stories are just thinly disguised MM porn. But if you're persistent enough you can find some good stories. You've got to be very persistent though.
I don't know about books but I do know about the real world.
They are BI, like me. In addition I'm TG. Most of my boyfriend's are BI men.
The internet is about making money. So if there's money to be made it'll be there, pretty much that simple. Like those annoying pop-up ads.
It's obvious that there is no absolute correlation between how we dress and sexual orientation. I think it is interesting, though, that getting fully dressed up and going out goes hand in hand with really feeling like a woman. I wonder how many who fit that description have accepted physical contact/attention from a man, while not feeling drawn to it in any way when not dressed.
All but one of the CDs I have met are bi. Let's not kid ourselves here, get talking to pretty much any CD and you will find they are willing to blur the lines for another CD or man (while still maintaining that they are straight.) Now I'm only basing this on those who venture out obviously and am not commenting on those who get all their kicks from the clothing itself. Where there's smoke, there's fire.
As someone who writes erotic fiction, I can tell you that the offerings out there are as varied as the authors, each story has it's own life and many writers a specific specialty, you can find whatever you are looking for. Please don't judge all writers by the limited sample you have seen. Most of my stories focus on transition because that is something I deal with on a daily basis and some of my writing is an attempt to deal with the confusion and frustration of not being able to go where I really feel I want to go, some of it is just because I think it would be a good story.
Perhaps the writers you sampled are in the same boat, exploring aspects of their lives that they need to better understand or maybe they just think it's hot and their existing fans and followers encourage them to keep doing what they are doing.
Having said that, I have also written some very well received science fiction that includes some pretty hot sex between a human female and a blue alien, so there is that, as well as some 'generic' hetero romantic erotica.
My point is, If you are looking for CD romance that includes hetero sex, it is out there, please keep looking, I'm sure the authors would love to hear your feedback on their work.
Like ShelbyDawn, I also write erotic fiction. Some of my stories are about cross dressers, some aren’t. Some of my stories have male with male sex, some don’t. As someone mentioned most are fantasies with some autobiographical portions, some are pure fantasy. I am fairly certain that the woman who wrote 50 Shades of Grey was moving her fantasies from her mind to a computer and eventually to paper. I am willing to bet that the overwhelming majority of the people who read that gave never participated in BDSM relationship.
Hope everyone has a wonderful day as does whatever makes them happy and works in their personal situation as long as it is consensual adults.
I think your "sadness" comment at the end is a bit harsh. Yes, there is a lot of crossdresser and man erotica out there, whether it is stories, pictures, or videos. I personally enjoy those when I'm in the mood for that media. In addition to that, I have posted stories myself on a few sites that were merely recollections of my own experiences in real life that I thought others might enjoy or be inspired by to go and take a chance with exploring something they're curious about.
I say be the force for change you are looking for. While you alone may not be able to forever erase the stereotype of the gay crossdresser, you can be one more person out there creating content about how a man and a woman can enjoy this.
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Originally Posted by AngelaYVR
Make that two. Dressed or otherwise, I've no desire to interact sexually with another man. My attractions and fantasies including when dressed are for women.
I do understand what you mean, however, in that boundaries are more blurred for others.
Being a chick with a dick for an attractive bisexual woman I admit appeals. :D
I enjoy reading erotica on the 'net. I do look for CD stories, but finding a heterosexual story where the wife is a loving participant is very rare. If it is a hetro story it usually involves femdom, where the woman humiliates the CD'er. Other than that the rest at all homosexual. My estimation is about 75% gay, 24.9% femdom, and .1% hetrosexual.
I find the Nifty archive an interesting mix of stories.
JC honestly, I don't wonder why people associate CD'ing to being gay..... That's just the stupid stereotype of the majority of society. Also, I wouldn't put much stock into the bull that you read online of other people's opinions on crossdressers. People are going to be judgemental, they're going to hate and well, no one can really stop that although I do wish all hatred would stop.Quote:
Originally Posted by JC
Now me, I am a heterosexual CD'er and 100% attracted to GG's..... I have, on more than one ocassion especially online, said that an article of clothing does NOT determine one's sexual orientation, we determine that ourselves. Just because we're CD'ers does not mean that we're homosexual, bisexual or transgender. So yeah, I wouldn't believe all of the bullcrap that I read online. LOL
Now, I love to dress and present as a woman from time to time in public becuase I have a very strong feminine side..... Again, it doesn't mean that I'm gay. Perhaps I was born with a feminine side and maybe with some estrogen in me? I honestly don't know, but I embrace my femininity and I love to be feminine.
JC, I've done that and completely agree with you here. It's incredibly sad that this misconception still remains to this day. More proper education about Crossdressing need to be done it would seem.Quote:
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Agreed Kimberly. The same goes for me and i'm guessing for most of us on here as well.Quote:
Originally Posted by Kimberly A.
It is apparent that many here profess to be gay, bi, curious, or what ever so the professions that the majority of CD's are heterosexual is dead wrong if the forum represents the CD populationQuote:
Originally Posted by ShirleyN
Just so you know, I just read a lovely story on literotica.com about a wife fully accepting her CD husband; the sex was kinda hot, too. You can find whatever you look for.
For me - AGE does it
I knew a guy who had a regular family and at the age of 65 "suddenly" realized he was gay (although he never had these feeling when he was younger).
As a young (3-50 years of age) CDer, I was never interested in guys, but after decades of enjoying women (and I might add my interest isn't a high anymore), I often wonder if satisfying a male would be easier than trying to maintain solidity.
Who knows, 1 day I might find out, or maybe not, maybe Viagra will become important instead.
I am a totally heterosexual Male who likes the feel of woman's clothes.
I have written two erotica short stories but have not published them. I have given it to less then 10 people. Those readers have requested more.
I have not tried to write a Heterosexual CDer story. I have plenty of research material in the form of how I live day to day. The challange is how to make it interesting enough for strangers to want to read the story. Questions that need to be addressed are like "why does that het-CD even dress?". I can see the whole story, but not enough to carry the story. The CDing would just have to be a side quirk of that character.
I do not see, anywhere in the future, anything that will remove the link between CDing and perceived sex orientation.
As long as the media continues to use their present concepts it will never change.
There are lots of heterosexual stories. There are more bisexual or homosexual stories. You just have to look for them.
fictionmania . tv has stories and you can search under keyword for heterosexual. Some also include bisexual (why?) so just ignore those, but you'll have more to look through. Also check Emily Masters.
This an open forum and not closed yet, thus I will give my two cents. Its the internet aka wild wild west. 1st amendment at least in the USA. Like the TV, change the channel etc. I suppose a man who dresses, lip stick etc and makes love to his GG all while dressed is a Heterosexual OR lip stick being gay for his GG.....Reading is healthy and keeps the neurons firing whether its War and Peace to fictional stories on Cdrs or non fictional CD stories lol.Quote:
Try it ... Go to Google and search under cross-dress story, Sadness
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