The best part of being here is surrounding myself with others who have been CDing for many years and still not a reason why! I came here looking for answers, maybe a cure lol. I have instead found acceptance and kindness, who needs the answer?
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The best part of being here is surrounding myself with others who have been CDing for many years and still not a reason why! I came here looking for answers, maybe a cure lol. I have instead found acceptance and kindness, who needs the answer?
If asked, the most honest answer is I have no idea. I might elaborate on the variety of hypotheses that are floated, but to my knowledge most supposed explanations fall into the categories of speculation, rationalization or self-justification.
He doesn't know I CD, which is good, but my best friend asked me why I wear a toe ring. I said "Why not?" And that was that.
I overheard a girl about 7, while I was on a 3 hour ferry ride ask her mum "why's that man dressed like a lady?". Her mum looked traumatised by the question.
The little girl got my attention, so I turned to her and got on a knee to her level and explained "god gave me a really nice mans body, but he gave me a smart girls brain"
The girl was satisfied, mum smiled a "thank you" to me.
My answer, is the answer for young children.
My answer for an adult female maybe " I just really love how fantastic and smart women are, that I want to be one".
My answer for an adult male might be " It's just less stressful than being a male"
My answer to a biologist might be "why scratch an itch?"
My answer for my wife is a bit more honest "I don't know why"
I have gone over that question with my therapist.
Some ways I think it might be easier but,
I love dressing and being feminine, she(my therapist) asked me why I like chocolate . . . I told her I just did and we both laughed
Well I tied myself in knots over the why question for a long time, then just accepted it?s who I am. Once I?d done that, life became a lot easier.
Being a Scientist, I can't stand not to know "why" for ANYTHING, especially in a personal matter. It started as "Curiosity" when I was 12, was an "erotic escape" for a while, and stabilized as "a vacation away from myself" (and maleness) which allows me to COMPLETELY "unwind" and "De-Stress". the "pleasant feelings " or eroticism and "feeling pretty" also lurk in the background making the event even more enjoyable. Basically I am an "escapist" becoming NOT who I am if only a few hours and be relaxed with no worries and concerns about my male self. Yes, I am aware that there are several DIFFERENT motivations for straight males to cross-Dress. Some are the exact opposite, feeling their "fem self" is their "true self" and CDing is something to "come home" to. others get a Humiliation/SM "kick" out of it, while others enjoy the "risk taking" HIGH. Sometimes it is as simple as a erotic fetish or of simply enjoying the "feel" of the fabric. I would not go so far as "there are as many reasons as there are CDers" for doing it, and "Everybody is different", but there are likely 10nto around 15 or so reasons for doing it, depending on the person. Of course with Homosexually, Transsexualism, etc. there are other factors at play unique to those "conditions", which would not really be termed "cross-Dressing" as such in terms of the NOUN (Formally called Transvestitism), but they might also cross-dress (Verb) for "identity" or other reasons.
WHY??? Quite simply because I find the cloths more comfortable that male cloths and I enjoy experimenting with make-up etc .....So WHY NOT
I am 60 years old and I still keep asking my self why. I am seriously considering finding a therapist. All I can say is I really love the feeling of wearing a bra and a pair of panties
When my current wife asked me why, I gave the best answer I could give her.
For some reason it relaxes me, and I feel more comfortable wearing women's clothes.
I also told her I wish I knew why women's clothes does this to me, but I wasn't sure and I'm still not sure.
I enjoy the way it makes me feel; I love exploring that other side of me, which a long time ago I forego trying to deny. I may go for some time between being Deborah, but I always come back and it is almost as exciting as the first time!
Why? I don't know. I don't really ask that question much anymore. I finally just excepted that it is or has become part of me.
I must say that I have had most or all of the reasons Marina wrote about and perhaps a few not mentioned. Whatever the reason(s), I know that I have come to embrace it. Those who clean my house after my passing are going to be left wondering. But that is for another forum post I suppose.
hello,
My wife has never asked me "Why?"; she says "it's only clothes!"
For decades I was asking myself why, and never found the answer.
Then I stopped worrying about the answer and just accept it like my wife.
luv J
Because I am somehow hard wired this way. I found it very enticing as a young child and nothing has changed for 60 years.
In fact, it has become more central to my life primarily due to being happily single and having my son spread his wings and leave the nest.
I couldn't reasonably explain the why to another without understanding it myself. I just know that I thoroughly enjoy it.
Plus, nobody's asking!
The Why? A noble but endless quest, that will probably leave you with more questions than you entered it with. And what is really meant by Why? Where do you stop? At "Because it makes me feel good"? Or at "This is a map of my brain. X marks the crossdressing spot."? After all, some may one day ask you "why do you like strawberry ice cream?", and you may be as much challenged to explain why your particular brain does.
But that should not stop you from trying! You will learn a lot of interesting things about yourself in the process. Some journeys can last a lifetime and never reach their destination, but that doesn't prevent us to enjoy the ride.
When I get to asking why, I simply go into my dresser, select some deliciousness, put them on and go about my business.
That usually settles the "why" pretty quickly. because when I dress up, all the why's go away and everything is replaced with a most fabulous awareness of why.
The funny thing with me was after a year I told my wife and I was always trying to figure it out and relieve us both from this extra burden on our lives. Instead she told me to stop trying to figure out and stop feeling guilty and just enjoy it when opportunity comes. So that was over thirty years ago and I still don?t know why.
The Question "Why?"
I have had my very good friend ask me this a couple of times.
When the topic comes up. Just recently this did come up.
I don't have a real good answer for this. I did tell her the honest truth.
When I am dressed it definitely relaxes me and is like a little escape from the normal stresses of life
I do enjoy that time, and dread when it is time to change back to guy mode.
We talked about this very thing for a bit. I don't haver a real good answer/
I told her that you could do research for years and probably could not come up with a good solid answer
every person is differant and all have their own reasons that drive them.
But for myself, it is relaxing and I so enjoy the feeling of being dressed.
So much better than wearing guy pants and a t-shirt.
I dont have a good reason for myself. And told her that. other than I just enjoy it.
Someone in this thread said it is like why does someone like a certain food.
I guess it would be along that line.
I suppose I could flip the coin on her and ask why she only likes to wear pants.
Or why does she lean towards a brown purse and not a black one.
Why do I dress, because I like to.
It confuses me too sometimes.
And I am the dresser. :heehee:
I suspect that at some point in our lives we have all confronted this question. As many have already expressed, why we "crossdress" is a dilemma with no simply, satisfactory answer. As a result, I have personally come to simply ACCEPT this as being who i am AND a part of me. End of search!
Personally, I don't care why.
I didn't consciously choose to cross dress.
I just feel privileged to be able to experience the sensations and emotions that it brings with it.
I love being a CD.
It?s hard to explain. In the end I said I do it because it makes me feel sexy and alive. Life is too short. Much love to you . ❤️
Here you go. This is very scientific. I once met a girl with an RV on fire and........Quote:
Originally Posted by Suzie Petersen
No wait, that's a different story.
Having pondered that question for a while I've nearly unscientifically concluded that my interaction with mom and sisters influenced this wonderful activity. All the scurrying around and aromas of beauty products and seeing the preparations for female presentation and even helping as the youngest. Very impressionable for a young boy growing up and collecting data while running headlong into puberty. Geez, I could have probably been as good of a beautician as I was in my very masculine career. I just remember all of that and how pleasurable and important it was to be beautiful and then it was never my turn. Damn it. But after I secretly had my turn, I carefully returned everything back to where I found it.
ultimately I think we all need to give it up and just settle on "I like it"
Ha ha! Oh yes, the "RV Microwave Fire Coming Out Party" story, indeed a different one!Quote:
Originally Posted by CarlaWestin
I did not grow up with sisters, and I don't remember my mother being overly feminine on a day to day basis. She was home with us through my upbringing so she did not have to get ready for going to work.
I have seen some pictures of her when she was young, and she was beautiful then.
I do not have any memories of a specific moment or event that triggered the desire to dress as a girl. But when the idea first got into my head, there was no turning back. Only option seemed to be fast forward and accelerate! I am still developing the female side of me, and her presentation.
Whatever started it, at this point in my life I do it "Because it makes me feel good", like DianeT and others already said. Aside from that, there is also an element of wanting to perfect the look, experiment with hair and makeup to see how different I can make it from my male presentation. Some element of how good can I get at doing this, like can I walk in those 4" stiletto sandals? Can I wear them all day and not be uncomfortable, can I _______ (insert anything here that is specific to a female presentation).
I hesitate a little calling it a hobby, but I do think there is a bit of that in there too, for me.
At least there are similarities to other hobbies I have where I always aim to perfect the result of what I am doing.