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I wasps born underweight. Been a bit skinny and short.
Dominated and bullied by my older brother. 18 months older than me.
Did this have an influence on me? More submissive. Could this result in a crossdressing habit? Fetish?
Are you underweight? Shy? Submissive?
Nerdy? Bookish?
If I were submissive, I'd be wearing nothing but men's clothes because that's what she'd prefer. It actually feels like an act of courage or strength to own my taste.
If she were to be the one to initiate, react to or insist that I dress, it would be a positive, and I'd submit, but it would reinforce my own proclivities rather than imposing something.
Yes I agree. I think they're connected.
I'm quite a dominant male until bedtime when I become submissive partly because of my petite physique and lack of masculinity. I had already been dressing from a young age when a girlfriend suggested I wore her clothes after an unsuccessful session in bed and it worked a treat with her dominating. Since then I always take the submissive role. I am quite convincing too for an older person.
I think crossdressing and submissiveness are connected, and I think it's part of the spectrum autogynephilia (AGP).
Those of us with this condition (and I include myself) are aroused by the thought of our feminized self, and a large sub-group of us are aroused by being submissive as well.
I think it's a genetic condition leading to erotic targeting of what we're attracted to (the feminine) and transposing it inside ourselves. There is actually quite a bit of writing about AGP and D/s practices in the medical/psychological journals.
It's very tricky navigating relationships with something like this: being aroused by a fetish is often concerning to women if we reveal it to them, and hiding it is problematic as we all know too well.
No one asked my opinion anyway when it started to rear it's head in adolescence.
This thread has brought up some thoughts about the idea of my being 'submissive' and whether that leads to crossdressing. I don't think I would ever have considered myself to be 'submissive' but I can say that for the first few decades of our marriage I was very accommodating to my wife's charm. Then there were a few years where the charm betrayed a darker side. I was not particularly manly but more androgynous than feminine. After seeing the darker side of how my wife saw me, I pretty much let some of the more masculine parts die. The feminine aesthetic seems to be more of an assertive thing in my case. I went from trying to please to exploring what I liked. She hasn't been thrilled and I'm not inclined to try and please her anymore. I love her. She loves me. I wish she loved this part of me. But, it doesn't feel submissive at all.