When Your SO Doesn't Know

It is hard to come out to your SO, my ex was the first gg I told and it did not go well, she felt betrayed when I told her and confused. We stayed together for a few years after but she was never willing to accept it. I did as she asked... to never do it around her, but then it came a point that I had to promise never to CD again. She felt that if I loved her I would stop... I told her it is not that easy. In her eyes it was like cheating. It was not a good experience.
So again telling someone is hard, you never know what kind of response you will get.
It will be difficult but when I am in another committed relationship, that I think could last, I will be upfront with her. By doing so, the relationship may be ruined, but at least i'll know and will not be hiding anything.

Well I have to say I didn't read every 1s reply But my 0.02 It was easier tell my wife I was bi ( right before we got married) then telling her I was a CD ( and it blow her away)She knew I was Bi when she said something about wearing her panty's and I cep saying no I said U may not want to go there That just kinda gave me the opening and I ran with it so glad I did Good lucky hope I help alittle

I never told my wife for numerous reasons. Number one was I thought I could stop and there would be no need to tell her. I would sometimes go for 1 or 2 years without dressing but the urge would always come back.

Then we were in the relationship so long and all I could think about was her leaving me. I am so glad she knows now. I wish I had told her when we first met. Things might be different now for better or for worse. She would have been able to decide if she wanted to be married to a CD instead of being thrown into it years later.

We meet in the early part of 1975, and married in August. During our short courtship, CDing didn't enter my mind. We were both in the Army, and I had no chance to dress unless I went home on leave. Heck, I can't even remember if I did dress when on leave, but I do know my stash of clothes had disappeared. Since I didn't even think about it, I never mentioned it. I told her shortly after we married, due to some dressing opportunities she sort of created.

I do not think it is case of being deceitful or whatever. When I started dating my S.O. 8 yrs ago, Sarah was well and truly repressed. I think "Oh by the way Honey I might turn T/S or something somewhere in the future" just did not figure into the equation. Had I had an Inkling, I would have told her.. I have lost too much in my life by not being what I wanted to be or being honest with myself, and I don't mean just Crossdressing,

Sarah R. :bunny:

I've always been honest. The first time was the worst... made a right hash of it. Still she was ok... even after all the giggling (well we were very young). Nowadays I use it to great effect... Curiosity often wins the faint heart. ;)