we have been married for 36 years, my wife knew about my dressing since before the wedding. She is very supporting, and buys about 95% of my clothes.I guess I'm very lucky to have a very understanding wife.
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we have been married for 36 years, my wife knew about my dressing since before the wedding. She is very supporting, and buys about 95% of my clothes.I guess I'm very lucky to have a very understanding wife.
Been married for nearly 19 years, known about Nigella for 18 1/2 years. Love her for who she is and not what she wears and wouldn't have it any other way.
Hi Korinda my wife is around 90% o.k. with my dressing some times she wants her husband not Angie at this time she is not cool with it in bet but I get a good amount of dressing time :hugs:
Angie G.
Count your blessings, I'm married, my wife would never accept it in a million years. I can't begin to tell you how fortunate you are. Count your blessings.Quote:
Originally Posted by korinda
I have been married for almost 19 years now, and my wife is very accepting, always buying everything for me, wether we shop together or not,she has only ever asked for two things from, 1,i always give her some male time if needed (as she would let me dress 24/7) and 2,any photos taken are kept private,so i haven't had to make too many sacrifices in life as sharon.LOL.Sharon.
Thank you, Bev.
Another thing that I do that I feel is important is that I work very hard to let my wife know how much joy her acceptance of Stephenie gives me. I am soo happy that I do not have to hide and sneak around and I let her know this as often as I can. I tell my wife that her acceptance of me is like a song in my heart. And this is really true, it IS a song in my heart.
I think Stephenie is a better person than Steve was and I try and show this to her everyday.
Lovies,
Stephenie
Not married yet, But my Fiancee knows and is very supportive. At first she had some resverations, but she got past them with time, and now, we go out dressed on a monthly basis.
[SIZE="3"]My wife knows that I dress up. She says that it's just me and she doesn't stop me from dressing. We have been married over 26 years and we love each other. She even borrows some of my outfits.
Gennee[/SIZE]
My wife knows and even helps me do shopping. We've been on e-bay looking at wigs and brought one. We also brought a head so the wig could fit on it when I'm not wearing the wig.
She's my heart and we talk alot about the crossdressing which helps her to understand me.
So glad to hear of the acceptance. My wife of 21+ years acceps and supports me in my CD ways. I knew about it before I met her and diclosed it early in our relationship. She made the wedding night really sweet for me as Tiffany. She and I have aggreed to limits and what she will and will not tollerate and as long as I don't push the envelope all is well. Hugs to all.
Wife knows and accepts. She even uses it as a carrot in front of my face. "Hey if you get these chores done today, you can put on my nylons and anything else you want tonght!"
Of course, like all women, she is a bit fickle. Last time I asked, I got a firm NO! I We went shopping the other day at VS, and I bought her some really nice lingerie, and she hid it from me, so I don't wear it.:mad:
It'll be 31 years come the 21st since we were married. She's know for at least 30 years.
My wife is tollerent, and somewhat accepting. She'd prefer I didn't, for sure.
I wear panties everyday, and a nightie every night. I wear other fem items around the house as I feel like doing. We've been out together with me enfemme.
[SIZE="4"]I told my wife before we married. Our 30th anniversary will be next Feb. She is supportive and accepting. Would she prefer that I was not a crossdresser? No doubt. But, she knows that I am and accepts that. We shop together sometimes; at times, she's brought home "surprises" for me. Her enthusiam for my cding runs the gamut from engaging in some activities with me to distinctly annoyed with it. All in all, I feel very lucky to have her. Olivia[/SIZE]
Dear Korinda,
I have been married to the most wonderful women since we both were teenagers, and that is a long time. I pushed my nature out of sight for far too many years, hiding not only from my wife but also not accepting it myself. Lying to oneself is really the pits! I expressed my feelings and the true gender of my soul to my SO about a year ago, it was not the smoothest of moments; having kept from her what was in my heart seemed to be the biggest issue. Of course there was the concern; are you gay! Do you still love me, etc. Having talked through those issues we now have an even better relationship than before. Judith has been so understanding, that does not mean that she thinks it is the best thing that has ever happen to her. But she is so wonderful about me expressing the gender that I have always been, but hid so well. My career does not allow me to dress, so I have to keep dressing to the weekends and special nights. She has supprised me with some undies and makeup, but will not buy me "girly" magazines like Cosmo. When we are in the check out line and I nudge her to grab one of the mags. she often gives me the LOOK. I can not ever trully express how wonderful I feel now that I can trully be me, Josephine, the woman that has been locked inside and just screaming to be allowed to be. Sorry for such a long reply.
Hi Korinda, married 18 years, wife has known about it for two years. She tolerates it, and gives me time to do it. She has seen a few pictures of me but has not been with me while I am dressed. I am in a little different situation because I would like to be a female. That is hard for her. She said she could even handle going shopping with me in girl mode but the idea that I want to stay in girl mode is too much for her.
Korinda,
I am Bernice's SO. As he/she said, we have been married for over 30 years. I have known about the CDing since before we were married. Most of the GGs who post here seem to be accepting. That doesn't really come as a surprise to me. Several of the CDs have posted about problems with their SOs. It seems to be mostly when they keep it a secret for a long time.
From your post, it sounds like your wife knows about your CDing and you are talking about it. Those are good steps. I agree that you should encourage her to join the forum. From personal experience, I can tell you it may take a while for her to feel comfortable joining in. Bernice has been visiting this site for quite a while. I didn't keep track but I think it has been a year or more. I knew about it and was encouraged to join. It is only in the last couple of weeks that I started to post and I had only seen the forum a few times before that. Just let her go at her own speed.
Sometimes it helps just to know you are not alone. Certainly your wife is not alone. There are several of us on here. I have not yet visited the GG Forum but perhaps that would be helpful to her.
Good luck.
Debbie GG:hugs:
I'm one of the lucky ones. My wife not only accepts but enthusiastically participates in the fun! She was looking to date a cder before she met me and she says she could never be with a "regular guy" ever again.Quote:
Originally Posted by korinda
My wife knows about this part of me. She prefers not to see any of it, and we both agree that it should be kept from our daughter until she is old enough to understand. She has been agreeable to me joining a local CDers group but doesn't want to go, even though spouses are encouraged to come. So that's one more county heard from.
Nancy
I told my wife the night I proposed to her. That was 16 years ago. Her biggest concern was how hard it was for me to tell her. My big fear was that she wouldn't marry me or worse, not see me any more.The best thing I have ever done was to tell her. This woman helped me to understand what I am all about. She gets upset with me when I have a moment of doubt about who I am. I am so very blessed to have her as my best friend.
I dress to varying extents every day. The only thing that my wife doesn't care to much for is nail polish. So I don't polish my nails very often. Very small sacrifice on my part, don't you think?
From THE HOME OF THE MASTERS,
Davida
I told my wife a year before we got married she's very accepting has bought me clothes borrow clothes pics outfits for me to wear on my night out helped with makeup .Asked if she would go out with me and she replies she doesn't know how she would feel around other cd's.I only dress a few times a month but keeps me happy
Was married for 30 years, she knew, didn't like it, stayed hidden 'till she passed. Love and xxxx, Lily
My wife and I have been married for 37 years. She has known about my dressing all along. Her degree of support has had its ups and downs over the years. She doesn't have any problems with me keeping my body shaved or me going out and about with my friends dressed. The past couple of years she even hosted an enfemme New Years eve party at our home for our CD friends. However, she does not care to go out with me while I am dressed. This is mostly to do with possible recognition concerns. While I would love to have her company when out, I count my blessings for the support I have from her.
What an astounding post Bev! You should move this to a separate thread! You've put into words what I've thought SO many times.Quote:
Originally Posted by Bev06 GG
My wife is very supportive and does buy me womens clothes sometimes and brings them home for me to enjoy but at one time she was very unsure about it as she did not know how far i was taking it. One day when i was out she looked at this site and it realy helped her to understand. It is something you have to take step by step and for me that is showing her i still love her dressed as my male self as well.
Me, married for more than 5 years now, still in the closet since I know she wouldn't understand. Probably she will never now about it. It's good to know that many girls out there have supportive SO's... as someone said early on this thread... count your blessings.