It can indeed be frustrating, but in the end I think it all boils down to variations on a theme. Call it what you will, but it doesn't change the facts!
As so many others have pointed out here, I'm just being myself, however you'd care to label me!
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It can indeed be frustrating, but in the end I think it all boils down to variations on a theme. Call it what you will, but it doesn't change the facts!
As so many others have pointed out here, I'm just being myself, however you'd care to label me!
Don't worry about names and labels. Let everyone be what they want to be.
Anne
one says one thing, another says something else, you know who you are and we know who we are we are crossdressers and love it. :hugs:
Yes indeed! Because your choice of words was referred to an action. But I think you might have meant "Are crossdressers only crossdressers when they dress?" and if that was the case, I'm with you.Quote:
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That's not what I meant. I never said only passable cds are "true cds". But I do believe that when you apply a label -such as "crossdresser"- there is a line implicit with the definition. Mine is, those who try to look like a woman, at least in part, are crossdressers. Any definition leaves plenty of gray areas, such as people who wear female clothes but don't use makeup: I'd be glad to call them crossdressers. But again, I sincerely don't believe a guy wearing a bra under a business suit is a crossdresser: in that case the label "fetish lover" seems more adequate to me. Of course your definition may be different than mine: but, like it or not, labels are useful for people to communicate. Otherwise we'd spend our lives asking "whaddayamean?"Quote:
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I'm in! I'm a 10 / 11 depending on the maker. Mine are a bit worn out as I walked a lot in them, and not inside my house. I'm sure most of the airport passengers did label me as a crossdresser (and so did the security controllers, but only because they found my steel clad working boots in my backpack and that triggered a questioning...)Quote:
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Hi all, Well what does it matter what you wear so long as what you wear isn't technically obcene and hurting absolutelly no one. True Crossdresser mmmm I thought there was only the Crossdresser... We are given various names lol, what does it matter... The truth is that those who consider themselves to be a real Crossdresser I guess reckon they are totally out, scene and fully in control of their lives, when the truth is, that no matter how much experience we have, we really never have enough as we are always learning. The danger of believing we know all makes us complacent and that's not good. I like to think that although I have been out of the closet and out daytimes now for a long time, I am always on my guard to present my best, never becoming complacent as that's where mistakes happen... thats where you get clocked... The best term i have heard meaning Crossdresser is "Eonist" as the definition for this word i believe more fits the person a crossdresser is. I agree that some consider dressing a fetish, ladies wear jeans and call it trend.. well maybe we can call ourselves trend setters too lol... whatever, the fact remains.. we hurt no one, we live our life on our terms.... if everyone were like us, this world would be a far safer place..
don't you think if all cothes,undergarments,and shoes were unisex,our backwards society wouldn't label us or give us derogative names nasty looks,and get violently confrontational.
[QUOTE=Sky;585370] "whaddayamean?"
Whaddayamean, whaddayamean? It has been fun cummunicating! I do enjoy having a place to discuss these things.
And thanks for the flowers, they made me smile. Truly, Beth
Who cares we are what we are I'm a corssdresser no mater what I have on :hugs:
Angie
In the words of ultra-groovoi transman Jamison Green, there's no one way to be trans (or a CD).
When I am dressed I thought I was an artifical woman, now it turns out I'm an artifical crossdresser.
What a load of crap!
I love it when someone tries to define crossdressing when in fact, Websters doesn't even define it at all. Websters does, however, define transvestism as
individuals wearing clothing of the oposite sex. It doesn't say how much or how little so I guess that makes all who do that definitive. I have said this before " transvestism is a convient way for the mental health professionals
to lable us so as to gain fame and fortune" so as an alternative, we use crossdressing. So while many may choose to define it, crossdressing is not defined no do I think it can be because the extent to which we participate varries emensely and that's as it should be given our enormeous size.