How best to tell wife?

I have learned that some women will never shine up to this. I think that that is one of the things that you have to prepare for. In effect, expect the worst, hope for the best and shoot for the middle.

In my case I got the worst. My wife said in therapy recently that she felt trapped, betrayed and that if she had known about this from the beginning she never would have gotten together with me. Expect that for some women this is a leap they cannot make.

I feel now that honesty is the right thing, that you should be open and tell her. All I am saying is you also have to accept that it could be the deal breaker. As long as you are prepared to accept the possibility that your marriage could end and then do your best to work through all of the issues that will come up and do your best to work through them so that you marriage won't end then you will be fine. There will be anger, upset, distrust, pain, but that is the price we have to pay for who we are.

I have accepted that my honesty with her was the right thing and that the end of the marriage may be my consequence for being who I am. So be it. We have to be ourselves and if our partner cannot accept that then we have the wrong partner. We also have to respect who they are, who they want to be and who they want to be with and as difficult as this may be for us to accept, it may not be us. Once the truth is out the real test of their love begins.

Huggs
Melissa

Here is may situacion, I can figure out very complex algebra ecuations, I'm the best at wath I do in my line of work, ( it a small state ) if some one come to me with a proble I can give the best advise, most of our firends se me as a model father and husband, but I 'va tryed to find a fool proff way to say it And can not find it. and think about it at leats once a day. I just don heva the ............. to do it most likely I never will..

Almalove