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Just showing up as Wendy! That's called an ambush, and that could go from fantasy to nightmare real quick. And I have to agree, as these are mutual friends of yours and your wife's I would not even think about ti with out talking it over with her. You might not care about lossing this other couples as friends, but your wife might, and there is no way they would not tell there husbands, why whould they keep quite about it, I am sure it is not their fantasy!
I never had that desire ut I think you should give it a shot!!! Wear something pretty!! But don't look prettier than they do!! lol They might hate you for that....
Karren
Goes for me too. I often have to drive my wife and several of her friends to a restaurant or club for their evening out and wish I could join them 'as one of the girls'.Quote:
Originally Posted by erinwoodrose
Love Maddie :hugs:
I must admit that being out in public en femme and spending time with GGs when doing so, is one of the most favorite things I like most about CDing. I absolutely love it when my wife and I hook up with a group of friends from this very board from the San Francisco area. Out of the 6 of us that usually attend, 3 of them are accepting GGs. One time we went out and one of the GGs brought along one of her friends and that night the CDs were in the minority!
But to answer your question ...I would be a little bit cautious about this. I definitely wouldn't show up en femme unannounced, that's way too risky. I'm assuming your GG friends already think of you (somewhat) as "just one of the girls" and therefore not threatened by you being a guy in their girly group. I think I would wear something obviously femme (like maybe a pink sweater) the next time you have lunch with them and see what sort of comments are made, (if any) next time wear some eyeliner with your sweater. If nothing negative happens you could mention that it's not just sweaters and eyeliner that you like to wear.
Coming out to GGs friends is not the same a coming out to partners and SOs. I think it's easier because there's no intimate connection involved.
Since I came out I have talked to many of my girl friends and they get all excited about it. I even got invited to these little makeup parties they throw before they go out! As long as they seem relatively open minded I wouldn't sweat it.
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Tess
Wendy, I like Suzieq's advice, best, and all had good input. On the lighter side, in jest, just show up, at a restaurant, as Wendy, and when they react, say,"SMILE, YOU'RE ON CANDID CAMERA'!
Love to do it with my best friend Barb. But women like to gossip. I wouldn't want the whole side of town to know.
HI;
I also would love to open up to my ladies freinds , and be one of the girls , but as most have said you have to take this slow , As for myself I have tried with this with a few and receive some mixed results as ,but I,am just waiting to see if anything come of it ,if not I will not push it as would not want to lose there freindship in any way. This subject and the replys have been on my mind for along while and as been vert helpful and I to say thank for being it up.
My love to all
Terry xxx
HI;
I also would love to open up to my ladies freinds , and be one of the girls , but as most have said you have to take this slow , As for myself I have tried with this with a few and receive some mixed results as ,but I,am just waiting to see if anything come of it ,if not I will not push it as would not want to lose there freindship in any way. This subject and the replys have been on my mind for along while and as been very helpful and I to say thank for opening it up.
My love to all
Terry xxx
I have thought about being in this type of situation, enjoying a social gathering with it being something that is totally normal and with me being dressed totally femme, me also being totally normal and being accepted as Fiona. You have to hold on to dreams as they just may happen !
Huggs :hugs:
Fiona