I would have done exactly the same. On a slightly different tack, since I've been shaving my chest it's amazing how many times the topic of chest hair has been raised at the pub!
Fran.
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I would have done exactly the same. On a slightly different tack, since I've been shaving my chest it's amazing how many times the topic of chest hair has been raised at the pub!
Fran.
Thank you all for your comments and suggestions
But it seams totally different when talking in a group of guys
Then in mixed company
The topic of crossdressing comes up often at work with the women in the office over morning coffee. Never a bad comment given by anyone so I suspect they have some level of acceptance. I just sit quitely until one woman stated she would love to dress me up saying, "I think you would be lovely". If they/she only knew! Just said yae right.
A few months ago a friend of my wife was diagnosed with breast cancer. So me being the good husband I am, was supporting her by going to her first "chemo" session. Well all the gals decided to have a get-together before and we met them at a coffee house; as we were sitting at the table one of my wife's coworkers saw my shaved legs and asked if I'ld ever done a "little CDing" ..well I almost chocked on my coffee and muster a "ya right" (voice cracking and turning a few shades of red). Then she proceeded to tell me that her and her husband play and that I should give it a try...LOL...that it's alot of fun... "I said... OH sure, I'll have to try it some time" Needless to say I went for another cup of coffee.... Oh well... missed my chance!
NatieBe that sounds like an interesting story, I would have died from embrassment, my wife on the other hand would have taken the oppertunity to have a little fun making me sweat.
This is a tricky situation. If I was notin the life I have now (accepting, participating, and encouraging wife who likes it, plus accepting of myself and not feeling guilty about it) I would not say anything .... I would just listen to what others were saying, and not "get into it" if people were being derogatory.
If it was me with my current wife in this situation, but with people we don't know, then I feel sure we would try to defend the cding position but being (somewhat) non committal.
However, to be totally honest with you, and in total reality, anyone who we socialize with in real life today would already know where we are on this subject and what we think because I would already be in front of them....and I would be dressed en femme. Yes, that's right, what I am saying is I have no social life unless I am Rachel..... and that's the way I like it.
I understand exactly how you feel. When other topics come up I'm as talkative as ever. Be it gay marraige, politics, etc. I often will shoot my mouth off in defense of unpopular stances for the area I live in ex. pro gay marriage. Let the conversation gear towards cross dressing I become immediately silent or will try and change the topic. Jocelyn
i would kind of roll with the flow and if the opertunity came up i would ask if they new some one like that at see what the results would be :hugs:
susie
One time I was with some buddies of mine and I actually brought up the topic. I asked them if they ever saw the show called He's a lady where they took a bunch of guys and made them over. They said no and I had to explain what it was about. They both know I dressed up on a halloween so there was some joking about that and I said I wanted to try it again some day just for fun because I found the responses of people towards me to be different when I look different. One responded with the question is it because they treat you like a woman? I think I just said, we'll just different and the subject changed. Now, based on that informed question, I wonder if my friend ever had the experience.
I TOTALLY AGREE WITH CHERYLT. all these girls, thinking they are men. wearing jeans, tee's, sweats. do they not now that is not appropite attire. only men wear jeans and that stuff. turn the table, then, show em yur legs!! hehe i.e. women can wear mens clothes, but not vice-versa :2c:
Wow this is a hot topic. If that were me, I would go with the flow. More that likely the topic would get changed eventually. If the topic started bashing men CDs, I might be willing to make comments about women CD just to throw them off. More likely than not, the topic is prolly about male CDs. My understanding is that women CDs are more socially acceptable then men that are CD. Yes, if that topic came up, I'd be worried in the back of my mind.
It's a double standard (in my best Forest Gump impresion)
Three other couples is too many people and variables to feel safe with IMO. It would depend on how well you knew the people I guess, but I would have done either the same thing or try to change the topic.
I agree in situations like this it is your wife who must also be considered. This just sounds like it could have been a recipe for disaster so I don't think you were chicken, I think you were prudent.
Now I would be curious about the one couple, the wife who brought it up. Maybe that is a conversation you could have as just TWO couples in a more intimate setting where there's only the four of you. :happy:
Well I do like the idea of turning around on them
And see how they react :happy:
Well if they were people that I even slightly knew they would already now that many times I'll tkae the oppsoing side of an arguement just to be spiteful LOL, not really but I do enjoy a good debate and can usually be counted on to play the devil's advocate position. So if I was in that position and have been severaltimes usually more lrealted to homo/bi sexuality, most expect me to reply counter to normal people. Ie If someone says "Hey who would have ever thought He'd be a queer, he never seemed "limp wristed to me" I usually reply "hey man, I met some when I was in the service, Man! You'd never tohught these guys were sissies they were some macho hombres you know?"
Natalie
In your circumstances (and mine), I think that you did the appropriate thing.Quote:
Originally Posted by Suzie S.
This has come up a couple of times in my life and I've sometimes come out and declared for the side or kept quiet! Hence some people know and some don't! I always think its up to me, however I have a rule that if some one asks a direct question of me I will answer truthfully. The interpretation of direct is up to me though!:heehee:
Sorry I missed this Barb.....I think you handled it right for your situation:thumbsup:Quote:
Originally Posted by Jenni Y
Crossdressers? you mean all those women wearing men's shirts and slacks quote
when the subject comes up freinds or at work i also turn the subject round which in most cases p***** on there fire
and if worse comes to worse i say everyone to there own and leave it at that, not saying eather way
I reckon it would have depended on the direction the conversation was going.
If the conversation was bad mouthing us, then I would have had to make correcting statements. I wouldn't want my wife to get any more wrong ideas.
I also have been in this situation and have said nothing. But there have been times while swimming and on the beach, the subject of my hairless legs has been brought up. Ijust say yes to shaving(actually I use hair remover)my legs and mention that I don't like body hair. Lots of body builders' bodies are hairless and they sure don't get any grief about it
Barb -- Glad I found this thread today. An almost exact thing happened to my wife and me at a wedding reception a year or so after I told her about me CDing.
A neighbor whose yard abuts part of our backyard said something about seeing a group of CD's at a buffet style restaurant in the area. She called them old and said, "Can you imagine right in our own backyard?" Now that last statement was scary even though I pulled the curtains, etc., I did venture out to our attached garage once and I was concerned that she literally meant in her backyard.
Our next door neighbor's wife then brought up a CDer they knew at college in Tennessee who would dress on weekends. Another couple and ourselves were basically quiet during this.
When we got home that evening, my wife asked, "How did that make you feel?" I told her I wanted to say something, but let it ride because I was totally caught off guard and I knew she doesn't want anyone to know that I dress.
So, Barb, I, too, took the easy route that night. Good thing it was early in the evening and I only had one beer. Otherwise, who knows what may have happened.
well Barb we have met so i have to be honest here, as you know me , i would say some of us look good and some of us need help , if it's what they want to do let them..
It has become, the official UNIFORM OF GIRLS, AND GG'S, the t-shirt, sweats, or jeans, and runing shoes. I don't think gg's are trying to look like men. This topic, has been run through the ringer, but, I DO believe, that SUBCONCSIOUSLY, gg's have a little part in them, that says, "See, I can wear anything men can wear, and you can't do nothin about it. I WEAR THE PANTS, NOW, Jack!! Yes, to be FAIR, bring up most gg's "wearing the pants", today.