Crossroads with wife, she's fed up.

Life is GREAT.. !!!!!

And for the original post ...ya' just gotta figure out if you are the sucker or the suckee .... not that it really makes any difference in the long run ....

[QUOTE=paulaN;883873]Yes she is fed up with my cd'ing. She wants me to stop shaving my legs and armpits. Stop wearing panties. She wants me to stop everything. Except of course when she says it's OK maybe once or twice a year I can have a dress-up day. /QUOTE] :thumbsdn::thumbsdn::thumbsdn:

Might as well ask you to stop breathing, Hun. Once or twice a year???
Many of us would rather die! I know I would!

I wish you well and pray that this conflict passes and an
amicable solution can be reached.

Keep a Positive attitude.:happy:

Sorry to hear about your situation Paula.

Karren had a few good points. :thumbsup:

Can you live with a compromise? What if you could try a counter-proposal that sweetened the deal just a bit? She said you could still dress a few times a year, so I'm guessing no purge, that's a plus. My wife is pretty supportive, but doesn't really like seeing me all dressed up, though there are exceptions. So most of the time I dress alone, but I am free to go out, have friends, no need to hide the link to this site :D, dress when she is not home, I am free to shave, and I only own womens underwear. I'm sure I have it better then most, but still most of my CDing is done without my wife. I don't know your whole situation, and certainly having things (shaving, panties,...) taken away is a real :thumbsdn: but can a compromise you both can live with be reached?

I wish you well on your journey. :hugs:

I think that maybe she doesn't understand the whole concept behined this cding.When i first told my SO about my desire to wear women's clothes (only because she found my stash) I explained to her that i had those feelongs since i could remember.It's wasn't because i was gay or whatever,it's was because there were times when i felt that i was born a women.It took her a while to grab hold of that,but now she just call me weirdo and that's the end of it.I love her and if she ever was to tell me give it up or divorce,i would give it up.good luck/

I agree with Karen here. Since I am a newbie, I asked questions about moving forward with my wife here, and the one thing I was constantly reminded of was, go slow. So, that's what I have been doing. I have backed off a bit. Not pushing the subject as much. Since she knows you dress, has put up with it till now, maybe, you need to look at yourself and how you might have contributed to this. Have you been more outgoing and outward about your dressing lately? Has the discussion about you shaving your legs been had several times before, and YOU keep doing it, despite HER disapproval when you wear shorts. Like Karen said, okay, chill out until fall gets here, and make her happy. You said you love her very much, enough to let her go; do you love her enough to keep her happy and keep her your wife? Only you know the answer to that. You are married obviously to a lady that can handle this, maybe only in her own way; try working with her, which may mean you don't get everything your way....As far as the booze goes, all I can say, as the family member of several alcoholics, stay sober sister, whether you stay with your wife or not......good luck to you.....