[SIZE="3"]Gotta get those liones of communication open and keep them open, otherwise it is the kiss of death. It doesn't matter if CD is envolved or not communication in a marriage is paramount.:drink:[/SIZE]
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[SIZE="3"]Gotta get those liones of communication open and keep them open, otherwise it is the kiss of death. It doesn't matter if CD is envolved or not communication in a marriage is paramount.:drink:[/SIZE]
Reading your thread made me angry. Here's a guy with a great wife who seems to be very understanding. From your other post I believe that I have read, you have been trying to talk for a long time now. I'm sorry, but it's time to tell him to take a hike and not come back until he gets his head out of his ass. Yes, he is a crossdresser and you accept that. But he is also your husband and if he can't fulfill that position, it's time to get out. It is not fair for him to clam up and take you down his road of fantasy. Everyone seems to be worried about him and I think you have been more than willing to help him. Your here asking questions, which shows me you have been trying on your end. Please don't be upset with us crossdressers. There are many of us that still can be the men our wives married.
P.S. If you do give him the boot and you still love him, give him the chance to come back. But make sure you set up some rules or consouling.
Best of luck
Sandy
I agree with MJ - you need to tell your Danielle exactly what you just told us. You need to say it with the same attitude of honest and hurt feelings and not with anger if you can help it.Quote:
Originally Posted by MJ
I can't speak for comments Danielle may have left on others pics, but I can tell you that I also have connected to a few of those "date a TGirl" or "URnot alone" type pages. I have done it on the advice of others as a good way to find other Tgirls or get advice from them on where to go and what to do when I travel. I wouldn't take visits to these sites as 100% proof that Danielle is actually looking for or offering a date with others.
My best guess is that normal vanilla sex does not interest him anymore, he has fantasized about more exotic situations and wants to try them out. That does not mean he wants somebody else but rather he wants you to participate in his fantasies but feels rightly or wrongly that you would not agree.
Did you ever have sex while he is en femme? If not then why not suggest this to him. If his eyes light up then you have your answer.
One issue with crossdressing is that CDs can spend a lot of time dreaming up exotic, intense fantasies that can make reality look dull in comparison. If he is getting off on these fantasies then his sexual focus may be shifting away from vanilla sex. This is quite a common problem with all men.
Tammy, it is hard for us to know all that has happend with you and Danielle or how you communicate with each other. It may be a case of the pink fog or it may be just stupidity on his/her part. Men can be vague at times and not realize what they are doing. That doesn't give him/her a free pass however. I think it is best for you to initiate the conversation and discuss your needs. It seems you have been very supportive and you should expect no less.
Good advice---and darling you should also be dressed in your sexiest lingerie with dramantic makeup---I've reasonably sure that will spark his interest. I wouldn't be too concerned yet about his internet browsing----I've been on the CD dating scene for about 8 years now and have talked to literally thousands of T-Girls on line who have sent Me detailed descriptions of their fantasies, including heartfelt pleas to meet with Me for fun and games, yet when the time comes relativly few of them show---about 1 out of twenty maybe. I suspect if you were to take a poll here and get truthful answers you will find that out of the group of girls who have expressed an interest in dating another T-Girl, very few of them have actually gone out and done it. In fact if you were to get them at a truthful moment, you would probably find many of them have even gone so far as to make a date then either not show up for it, or make some half baked lie of an excuse at the last minute--the absolute height of bad manners but it just goes to show you how far in the closet many of us are. I would suspect that your SO has absolutly no intent of straying from his relationship with you---in fact the odds are against it. Good luck on the dressing up etc.Quote:
Originally Posted by Roxi Loh