The Ultimate Ultimatum - How would you respond?

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Originally Posted by livy_m_b

Say you came out to your wife or gf and her response was "Ok, I get it. But I don't agree you can just switch back and forth on your own agenda. Make a decision once and for all and stick to it: Male or female, which is it going to be?

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Well, you can always turn it around and demand that SHE make up her mind: she must always wear either skirts or pants, she can't switch back and forth between women's and men's clothes, no jeans for her! ;-)

We are all different. In my case, I feel I'm somewhere "inbetween", neither fully male and certainly not fully female.

Patti

Livy,

I'm just responding to the question (I haven't read all the responses). My first inclination is to say "if she's your girlfriend, dump her, and if she's your wife, you've got a long road ahead." But, I don't agree with this approach. 98% of women will be disapproving, that's just the way it is. You'll get the negative view at the beginning. Go slowly, it may take many months, but in time, she will soften her stance. Hang in there!

Reject the ultimatum. You have both male and female aspects. Being forced to be something you are not is neither fair to you nor destined for success.