Does it ever go away?

Yeah, the feeling is always there. There has always been years where I went all out and couldn't get enough and then there was years where there was nothing. As far as what I mainly wear, I just like wearing lingerie because it's sexy and feels very good. I've thrown stuff out in the past and when the feeling of dressing came back I'd get mad that I tossed out all that clothing and lingerie. I've learned not to do that now. I don't think I would need a counselor for my passion but talking with a fellow CDer in my "area". That is what I wish I could do along with going out 100% fem. :gorgeous:

I hope it never goes away..I like being female and i am proud to be transgendered ...I wouldnt trade it for anything and I am thankful to be able to express my femininity:love:

I,ve tried to give it up in the past and purged everything, but not any more. I enjoy it too much now i,ve accepted it as part of being me :D

Hello, I agree with all the other girls, it never leaves!! There are times I have thought that I would trash everything and stop this but.. I'm 46, and sitting here in front of the PC (just got out of bed) wearing a light blue long cotton night gown, the left overs of my makeup (big no no) and my cherry red toenails. I don't see it going away, it just gets more natural feeling. Embrace and enjoy!!! Crossdressing is here to stay! Kaitlin

I´m 50 and I tried to eradicate that desire for almost 40 years. In some periods of my life I was able to control the desire for months, may be more than one year, but the desire was always there and came back. So I decided to accept it. It is there and will always be there.

For some of us, as time goes on, the desire and frequency becomes less, but it is always there to some degree.

Most of MY CD'ing these days is my everyday clothes, women's jeans, sweater, tennies. Sometimes Erin must come out full force.

So just find a spot where you are comfortable.

There are times when this does get addicting. So you are closeted, that is understandable. YOu will have to decide for yourself about this, but if you were able to get out time to time en femme, that helps. Of course after a taste of that, staying home dressed is no fun. So proceed with that in mind...

i have been told by other tvs i've met and spoke to that generally it gets worse as you get older - for me i think the only thing that has changed is that i now feel the need to try going out maybe because i've had that fantasy for years and want to know if its anything like i imagine - i have gone long periods of time without dressing but that was more down to lack of opputunity to do it now i am living alone theres nothing to stop me doing it whenever i want but i worry a bit about where it might lead especially if it becomes detromental to me having relationships in the future could really do with meeting a woman thats into men that crossdress apparently bisexual woman are more likely to be interested sorry got off the thread subject a bit !

At 43 and just recently acting on desires I know I have always been successful in keeping at bay, I am ticked that I didnt act on them sooner!!!! I couldnt be happier dressed as feminine as possible. I do wonder where it is going though, but looking forward to it at the same time. I thought about purging once or twice but decided to try not to dress.........NOT!!!!

My question would be......will I take it further than simple dressing behind closed doors? The thoughts are there about hormones, wearing womens jeans instead of mens and so on.

Jan I'm 59 and it's still here hun It'seasy for me my wife is Ok with it :hugs:
Angie

I can only speak for myself, and I say it will never go away, even if I wanted it to.
I've gone years without dressing, but then something will happen and trigger it. Sometimes even stronger than before. eg: right now I've been dressed fem most of the day for the last 4 days (I change to drab to go out and do some xmas shopping, but have been in panties and bra the whole time, and when I get home I get all dressed again, actually, last night I bought some fem jeans at Value Village)

I hope not.

I certainly hope not!

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I can only speak for myself, and I say it will never go away, even if I wanted it to.
I've gone years without dressing, but then something will happen and trigger it. Sometimes even stronger than before. eg: right now I've been dressed fem most of the day for the last 4 days (I change to drab to go out and do some xmas shopping, but have been in panties and bra the whole time, and when I get home I get all dressed again, actually, last night I bought some fem jeans at Value Village)

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Same here. I went shopping to find a nice, white, {sort of see through} blouse today (Couldn't find what I wanted) and I had on a bra and panties. LOL! Felt good.

It dulls a bit.. sometimes it seems to be gone completely, and I feel like, although I have the clothes, I don't have any desire to wear anything fem.. the longest time I have gone without dressing fully (what qualifies fully dressed, for me) is three months.. and they weren't long "dread without drag" months.. it just never occurred to me to dress up.. never had the inkling to dress up.. and then BOOM!! the rush comes back like a turd of hurdles.. I mean anything can set me off, be it a add in a magazine or a commercial on tv.. or seeing that rare of occurrances a woman actually dressed up... and I get it all back on again and it can last for months, and then be another down period... it's just a roller coaster ride, enjoy the ride..

I'm 50 and it's never gone away, just goes dormant for a bit. I do agree that the older I get the stronger the desire to dress becomes. I like it! Glad I never purged for guilt. I have a babydoll I had since I was 20. Too bad it doesn't fit anymore. LOL

I haven't dressed in over 1 year but i think about it every day. so no it never goes away.:love:

When I was your age, fully in the closet (or hotel and surrounding), I probably wondered the same thing. Fifteen years later, I am out to my wife and am able to order clothes on line and delivered to the house, or even sometimes shop together (though this she finds awkward). I am wearing a new outfit from Kohls right now that just arrived (course SO is visiting her folks and our daughter is in bed). The honesty is refreshing and helps with overall acceptance, including from myself. Joni

God, I would love to go out wearing make-up, stalkings, heels, a dress and a wig. Especially if I looked good. The thing is, I would feel totally insecure, unless every single person who looked at me said something like, "You're a very pretty lady"

I guess what I'm saying is, it would take a pretty damn big leap of self confidence... OR a significant decrease in caring about what other people think, before I could consider being so bold. I've always cared way too much about what other people think.

Jennifer,
I don't think the feeling ever goes away,at least for me it never does. I'm 53 and still the feeling is strong. When I'm not dressing then I'm thinking about it , looking at other women to see how they dress and carry themselves and wondering how I would like in that outfit. I have purged so many times in cannot count, but I regret every time I did. Some of those cloths will never be able to replace. I finallly made peace with myself and am happy with who I am . The only regret I have is not to be at this point alot sooner.
We all have struggled with this dillemma at one time or another but in the end it is all up to you how you control or resign yourself to the fact that you are a CDer or TS and probably always will be.

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I hope it never goes away..I like being female and i am proud to be transgendered ...I wouldnt trade it for anything and I am thankful to be able to express my femininity:love:

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THIS IS EXACTLY THE WAY I FEEL,LOVE MY FEMALE SIDE OF MY LIFE AND AM VERY PROUD IT:love::love:

Hi

I wish I could say yes, but for me I can only manage about 6 months at best.
I talk to my wife about it from time to time to make sure she knows I still think and do crossdressing and when I think she is OK she throws a tantrum, says she doesn't need to know.
From time to time she knows I need to dress and she gives me the time and room to get on with it. I wish she could come to terms and let me dress when she is in but this is not to be. We have been maried 25 years and I have dressed secretly many of these until I came out to her. She lets me dress on my own but will never understand why I do it.
How can she when I don't know.................

No it is a life long desire, there are periods of Denial (denial is a river in Africa) but no end in sight
Joan Az

I am over fifty and it is never far from my mind...even following the amputation of my left leg (above the knee) ten years ago...I just adapted and continue to carry on...and thanks to several very understanding (and encouraging) late twenty-something year old GG's I am able to live out my desires...

NO it never goes away you learn to accept your self and then deal with on a level that you are comfprtable with :hugs:

susie

If its genetic how can it??