Sorry it didn't work out but don't give up, there are girls out there who will be able to accept you, just keep looking.
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Sorry it didn't work out but don't give up, there are girls out there who will be able to accept you, just keep looking.
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Originally Posted by EricaLS
On the contrary. Once you hit it off, it wil be harder to tell her. Right now you have nothing to loose. Tell her ASAP so you don't spend extra time for nothing. Just my two cents. If I am going to meet someone I might date then I'd rather they meet Genifer first or right away. If it's not their ball of wax, I'll find another candle.
Gen
Coming from the view of a GG, please tell her up front. I am so thankful that my boyfriend did that for me. It didn't scare me off. I had alot of questions, but, like you and your friend, we got to know each other online (email and IM'ing) and my heart was hooked before I really saw him. When he told me, it almost made sense to me because I knew he communicated better than most men I knew and I knew there was a softer side to him that made him sweet and approachable. CDing can make someone so well rounded. Hopefully she will see that is what makes you YOU!
I think there will be severe trust issues if you don't.
I'm sorry this person didn't work out for you.
I'm coming in here kinda late, but here's my :2c:
I agree with those who advise not telling on the first date. I think people generally don't think twice about stereotypes until their preconceived ideas are changed by personal experience. How would she know how she feels about a CD until she gets to know the inner person? How would you know how open she might be unless you've shared more than a few conversations?
I also do not believe it is wise to share our deepest selves with someone until we have established trust in the other person, and that takes time. How much time depends on how quickly you connect at that deeper level. A few months seems an appropriate amount of time to know.
My SO and I were friends first, but there were undercurrents. I knew him only in guy mode. He told me when our feelings for one another began to escalate. By that time, my feelings were strong enough that I wanted to know more! :<3:
My advice for your next potential relationship is to meet her and IF you like her, relax, date, have a good time, and see where it leads. You may even decide you do not want to bring the relationship to the next level.
:hugs:
"Just showing up in a dress is probably pushing the issue"
I normally wear a skirt and heels for a date with a woman.
It works for me.