My marriage is over too.

It's nice it's not a nasty doings. Still sorry to hear this news hun.:hugs:
Angie

I can relate and in fact it brings back memories of my divorce, although not for cding. It isn't easy to give, in my case 28 years, of yourself no matter how imperfect you were. And then there is the whole kids thing. Your most recent post, Paula, brought tears to my eyes. I know it's really, really tough right now. The range of emotions are deep and varied. I can't give much advice, but I can say for me it was just as well she ended it. That reality may need time to happen in your case. Married life was not good for me, and that is an understatement!

I hope you both use this forum as much as needed. Also, if their is someone else you can have a physical conversation with that would be good. They need to be a good listener.

My heart is with you. And, I give you a big hug.

P.S.

Thank you every one. Thank you so much. One thing I know for sure you can't find a better bunch of people any where. People have just dropped me a note saying sorry. Lots of you I have never even talked to before. So thanks again.
Well I don't know if it shows, but I am feeling so much better today. I'll tell ya yesterday was so so bad. The last time I was in that kind of shape was when I hit bottom on my drinking. Which I have just celebrated 5 years last week. Woo Hoo!!!!
Today I'm back to my old self (for the most part). Today it is ok to be transgendered. It's ok that my marriage of 31 years is gone. I'm going to be all right. I am looking forward, forward to what I don't know. But looking forward. I know what I can look forward to. I was planing on getting my ears pierced on the day of my divorce. That's what I will look forward to. ttyl paulaN

Hello Paula!
It sounds oh so hard to be ourselves, open to our wives and still stay married. It is my belief (GG's jump in here) that our SO's have the Prince charming, big guy savior mentality about us when we marry and just cannot handle the girl in bed with them later. If the tables were switched, I would have similar problems. I'm so sorry for your turmoil and having to deal with a breakup. Divorces are always bad, no matter how civil. I wish you all the best.

Paula, I feel so sorry for you, I remember well just how bad it was when I separated from my ex. You're going through the most difficult thing anyone can. But remember, this too shall pass. Yes, you are going to feel sad for quite a while, this is normal when a relationship ends. You need time to 'heal'. You will feel better eventually, but it's going to take a while. Hang in there. Enjoy whatever little things in life that you can to cheer yourself up. I wish you the best.