Originally Posted by
Vivian Best
CT, I'm sure the shock to your wife was severe, I know it was for my wife! Our difference is that I've been a CDr all my life. It doesn't matter how long you have been doing it it still is a shock to them. One guiding thing I continue to try to get my wife to understand is that I'm still the same person I've always been, I have not changed! True, you've learned something about me you didn't know and you probably don't like it or understand it.
Your wife learned something you did that she probably doesn't like or understand either. Whether you continue down this road is up to you and you only. To me, you do not sound like a very good candidate to be a CDr, but again, that is up to you. What is important to you? Is your wife's feelings important enough to you to figure into your decision making in the future of crossdressing, if that is the path you decide to take. Again, it is your decision. I did not have the luxury of making a decision like you have to make, it was made for me internally by something I do not know how to control or rid myself of. It is just part of me.
Many of us that have been crossdressing our entire lives have experienced pain beyond belief because of what we do. We've tried to find out why, but there is no answer! We've tried to quit, but you can't! We can only cope and hope. And, finally, we accept ourselves for what and who we are and live with it. Also, remember just because we like to wear women's clothing does not mean we are necessarily going down the road to become a woman.
Again, to me you do not exhibit what I would call a crossdresser, you had more of a "fling"! What ever your decision on your future, you and your wife, need to remember you are the same person, with the same feelings, the same love and commitment to her as before.
