The desire to be seen

This is an interesting thread for me as I get back into CDing... during my "Phase I" of crossdressing I was at my parent's house and NEVER went out. Phase II was in the city where I went to clubs quite often. Third phase was around the house again with a few forays out. Now that I'n at it again, getting dressed up and hanging out at home is simply not doing it for me, I want to get out en femme again. My situation means that I will have to be thoughtful and discreet about how I go about that, but if I can't, I may as well not dress. And that's not happening.

Sounds lovely......but from my perpspective it would be more about being aaccepted as a woman, not just being seen. Knowing my luck I'd get smacked around the head for being a perve because i look like an ape :D

Oh, I definitely am in the want to be seen camp! When I get a chance to dress, I usually get out from about 10am till 4pm. I have a list of my "target areas", where I know there will be some shoppers walking, and traffic backed up, and moving slow.I love seeing those heads turn as I walk by!Might be the main reason I'm out there! 180 degree difference from the drab me:devil:

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Originally Posted by Sweet Cindy

Going out is a huge rush! I hardly ever get the chance but I doubt I could ever get enough. Being trapped in the closet is like having a nice car you can't take out of the garage.

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Ha ha. That's a great way of putting it! I really need to get out more!

My own experience has been similar to that of some of the other girls. Just stepping outdoors is exciting.

My first time out, I walked around the block in the middle of the night. I was wearing a denim jumper, a pink sweater, nude pantyhose and pink pumps. To say that my outfit was out of place is an understatement. Only one car came by and I ducked into a space between two houses; which in retrospect was probably unnecessary and silly.

My second time out, I walked the dog on the sidewalk along a busy street at night. I had on a black skirt, a white blouse, white opaque pantyhose and black flats. A few cars went by; one honked.

My third time out, I walked the dog through the park. I don't remember exactly what I wore, except that I had on nude pantyhose, navy pumps, and a black rain coat. Not out of place at all. The path bordered the back yards of some residences. As I was walking, I hadn't noticed a man standing in his yard until he said "Good evening." I mumbled something back and kept walking. That one was exciting because it involved actual contact.

My fourth time, I again walked the dog around the block at night. I wore a black miniskirt, a black sweater, black opaque pantyhose and black flats. So a fairly normal outfit. One car went by.

My fifth time, I walked out of my hotel, got in my car, and drove to a Dairy Queen (somewhat appropriate, don't you think) and went to the drive-thru. That was exciting. I was wearing a short olive skirt, a green sweater, taupe colored sheer pantyhose, and brown clogs.

Now my out in public time includes being partially dressed on my way to work early in the morning. No risk involved here, except on those mornings when I need to purchase fuel for the car. I was seen wearing pantyhose and pumps. No one has ever said anything to me.

Occassionally in the past, I would arrive at work early in the morning fully dressed. I did this a few times until they installed electronic locks on the doors and security cameras in the lobbies. Now it is too risky because building management can review tapes and they can have a record of who entered at what time. I can't take that chance anymore.

Anyway, my point is that being out in public is exciting, and being seen, or better yet, having contact, is exhilerating and intoxicating and it only makes me want to do it more.

I do suspect, however, that the more you do it, the less exciting it becomes. I think I'll risk that.

Have fun.

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Originally Posted by Nattastic

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I found a lot of truth in another posters' stating that, "people really don't care"........ :)

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Originally Posted by KateC

If no interaction, usually people don't care... unless you're cute/attractive etc.. or don't pass that well... people claim I'm "cute" or whatever on this forum but I think otherwise, I guess that's why they look at me more.

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I am not too sure about this "don't care".
Is it meant that they do not care that you are "dressed" ?
Or is it that they do not bother to see the detail, tht they just see another fem person ?

~Samm

Samantha I don't think it is a don't care attitude but more of they have their own agenda and you are not part of it. If one does not fit into the daily plans or needs in most cases they really don't exist.

Take for instance when you were checking out of the major department store recently did you note what the person in front of you wore or was doing? Probably not unless they were making a fuss (like with children or on the phone) or they looked out of place (Wearing a red nose, white makeup and floppy shoes). Then the "I don't care" part may have kicked in but more likely the "Why are they in my space" thought was there

Lorileah, methinks that you have put it into words that mean the same as those I used....but I like your definition better than mine.
Thank you.
~Samm

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Originally Posted by Karren Hutton

Ohh yeah!! Once you've been out and about enfemme.. Setting around the house all dolled up just doesn't cut it any more!! And its like a drug.. You got to do it more often and more flagrent!! At least it was for me...

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Found the "and its like a drug" part to be true.. even if it is just wearing my heels in public..