Bernadina...LOL your funny...
He's really PO'd at his sister though....
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Bernadina...LOL your funny...
He's really PO'd at his sister though....
Sherry-Stephanie,Quote:
Originally Posted by Sherry-Stephanie
What, you don't cook or you don't have a maids outfit? Your BIL being PO'd at his sister is his problem! Your soon-to-be ex has the right idea about him. Just remember, God loves us all! Well, maybe not him!
Hey....I'll be in hell too! I'll see you there! Don't worry, all the cool people are in hell, and the boring, ass-kissing, sheep,... goto that boring place. Whatever! ....12 years of catholic education has worn thin, and I'm sick of feeling guilty about being me.
They have one "hell" of a crossdressing club in .....hell. LOL.
I cannot, nor do I want to know a "god", that rewards and punishes it's creations. Life is hard and I do my best, hiking about this crazy rock and trying my best to follow my own commandment.........."Don't Be A Dick!"
That covers the whole gammet sister!
I did 12 years of catholic school in Boston of all places...and only had one encounter with a frisky priest....
The plot thickens... some good Thanksgiving suggestions there, and maybe send him a copy of Mark Twains, "Letters To The Earth" for Christmas :D As much as you love him he is not blood. I almost had an encounter with one of "them" too... last time I set foot in a church. dd
I'm sorry about your marriage. Guess this means you won't be going to church with your brother in law.
Remember Milton..."Better to rule in hell than to serve in heaven.." :)
There is NO crossdressing club in Hell! Duh, it's too damn hot to wear clothes, and even your makeup would melt. O.K., O.K., maybe a bikini, but that's it.Quote:
Originally Posted by jazmine
All the cool crossdressers go to Heaven. In the best orchestras the chicks who play harp wear formals.
Hey, "Birds of a Feather"--- sounds like a plan! Have fun,be careful, and remember where you parked the car!:thumbsup:
Hay you go girl.:hugs:
Angie
And he's perfect?:hugs:
Angie
He better hope his God is as intransient as he thinks or he may find he has a lot of explaining to do...
Great attitude, embrace life.:thumbsup:
Are there actually people who care what their in-laws think?
And with him thinking you are going to hell, that is a popular belief of many devout religious folks, they think everyone but them is going to hell. The BIL is not God, it is not his decision what happens to anyone after death.
god attitude your wife has to your BL .. none of his damned business ....... sory about the split ............ hope it is as amicable as those things get hun :hugs:
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Originally Posted by TxKimberly
I agree with kim, it is a sad sad day when the end of a mariage happens. I do hope the new living arrangements work out for you both
Sounds like a good thing to me. You can shed an obnoxious in law even easier than a cheating wife.
D'ja delete his number from your cell phone yet?
Or his "friends" piccie from your Facebook? LOL!
These religious people do have a queer idea about who goes to hell when you consider all the evil done in the name of religion over the centuries. We could probably all be counted as saints as compared to a lot of them. However saints who like to have a good time (slightly fallen saints maybe).
Sounds like you are better off out of that family.
Have one of these :drink: and move on.
It seams from my own experiances, families are the worst critics and road blocks we face. Years ago I was ostracized for a choice of religion and have not recovered even though it has been 30 years. CDing may bring out the same misguided feelings from the same individuals. Sad to say that is their choice and their loss.
Keli
Hi sherry
Sorry to hear about your marrage its sad indeed
IM a christian to be saved is a gift
For anyone to say your going to hell (ive been there)does not understand what jesus did on the cross He died for all sin that all may be saved
that all who accept his gift may be restored to a sinless state
For me I closet crossdress
sweater dress,blond wig,6 inch high heels
we could bring up scripture and argue lets not
hell is a place without god to cry all the time forever over I had a chance to accept Jesus as my savior and did not Would be very sad
heaven is a place with god All who have accepted jesus as savior we go to heaven AND we come BACK to A RESTORED EARTH!! WITH GOD
Its a gift for all to accept The choice
When I get to heaven I will be in awe of his presents THE desire for me to sin of any kind will be gone Ive had a taste of heaven and hell
In love SISTERS choose life
Terri
I didn't read EVERYthing in this thread.... BUT.
If you and she are both bi... And you both are OK with extra marital affairs.
And you still love and respect each other.
Why bother with the divorce?
ESPECIALLY if you will never get married again?
With the state of both of your healths, you may need each other again one day.
Leave each other ..Have fun.. And stay in touch.
Interesting to say the least....But and that's a bit word at the moment...it really is....
Hurt feelings crossed words things said out of anger and frustration and self doubts....plans for going this way and that way....but conversation all along...one of our trade mark qualitys between her and I.
and a long conversation this morning when she came in at 5:OOAM from being out for the evening - early morning...a couple of hugs and some kisses and promises that we'll always love each other regardless of what happens or what direction we go in....and a large pot of coffee....and an hour and a half later we came to the realization and conclusion that neither one of wants or can stand to be without the other....and our love is still strong for each other regardless of how it's dfined....so we're going to give each other their space and free leash but stay together...not even think of divorce probably never will...and work through this and once the dust settles at some point down the road and it will be a whole lot sooner that later because the wife is thinking that maybe this being foot lose and fancy free isn't what it's all cracked up to be....when the dust settles we'll see where we'r at and go from there...at best our relationship will be proven to be stronger than we thought and at worse we'll be ach other's best friend....and that won't be a bad thing....
See where we go....
Good for you both, Sherry. I so wish you the best of luck. If I weren't headed off to bed I'd relate the story of the time my wife and I had the same conversation. Don't let go of one another.
Hugs...Joni Mari
Sherry, I can only wish the best for both of you. Your story started off sad, but what a great ending! I have always said that open communication will solve lots of problems, and your story is proof of that. It is also proof that true love can overcome many obstacles.
I told my wife before were married, so she did have any surprises afterwards. She became fully supportive, fixing my wig and doing my makeup when I was going out totally enfemme. She decided that she liked me as Stephanie enough to go out in public with me. We had much fun as two girls shopping, eating, and just having fun. Maybe you will get to that stage at some time!! Gook Luck!!:hugs::hugs:
and she also wants to go out to the clubs with Stephanie as well....
No matter what happens in life the person you fell in love with is always there inside somewhere. We often lose track of them and we get buried in our own world. If people would look in their partners eyes they would see why they got together in the beginning. Love has a way of burning long after the fire is gone Good luck, I am glad you are staying together
Sherry, I will add to the others in saying hang tight and work together. You both love each other very much and yes we have a way of forgetting that but don't give up.
My heart goes out to you both, wish you both the best.
Keli
hoping for the best for both of you .............. :hugs:
Sherry...Huggs ..I told my wife once you could tell whom ever she wished whatever she wished...i took the power away from her! That i refused to be ashamed of how i feal any longer! Good luck!
Thanks for all of your well wishes....it help at this time....
Tonight I am going out with one of my wife's friend and co-worker...a "two girls nite out" to a club thing...so see ...this whole thing is not your "normal" situation here...and my wife knows about it as well and is OK with it....
Anyway, what this whole thing has boiled down to is its a decision that will be taking place for my wife...and not really for me....and that is this...she must decide what she wants....to be in love with me as I am...non fucntioning male, a cder/tgirl...but someone who she admits loves her far greater (and has proven that love over, & over & over again though 14 years+ of being married...) or does she want to be single foot free and able to do whatever she wants with whomever she wants whenever she wants...but as she is aware of she can't have ehr cake and eat it too...she can't be out there being a party girl going out with guys and having me at home waiting for her...Yes I am doing that at the moment and will continue to do so for a while more...how long???? well it's not a time thing as much as it is a where are the heart(s) at thing...there will be a time that I will reach where she is coming back to me or she is moving away from me and I will decide this....
Is my heart (and hers) with each other as husband and wife...if so my heart (and love) will be with her....but if she wants to be free then my heart will be in Florida...and I'll be gone...
She admits that she's enjoying being single...but she's also finding that it's not cracked up to be what one thinks it is when one is not out there...and she realizes that I may be gone from her one day and that scares her..and she admits that she can't imagine me not in her life...and she feels like her right arm would be gone...
I've talked at length with one of my peopel at work who is a very close friend, also a pastor who does counseling to married couples...
He knows my wife, has met her and spoken to her on a number of ocassions....
He says that if any couple can pull this off...the letting go being free and then coming back w/o any reentment over the fact of what went on while in the "free state" it will be us....and he feels that in a short time after she's had her chance "sow some wild oats" she'll make her decison and it won't be for "singlehood"....and what will come out of her decision (it's really going to be her's more so than my decison here) are two people who are much stronger individually as well as our relationship becoming much stronger....but if she decides that singlehood is the way she wants to go then singlehood it will be...one can't be married and not the other here...then I'll decide where i go from there...and obviously as I stated before if my heart isn't with her then my heart will be in Florida....
If this holds true, I see us renewing our love and commitment to each other and accepting both for what we are and who we are...simple as that...
So as you can see with what I have written thruoughout this thread this is one of those really different situations between a couple...a husband and wife....and the reason that I am sharing this with you all is so that if you find yourself in a marriage and there are problems developing with you and your wife you might be able to use my difficults to draw some understand and wisdom in addressing your issues and that I am pleased to be able to do here...
So it's just a matter of time before this all gets sorted out and a decision is made....nut it's going to be interesting at least from this point forard...for my wife although athe moment has her cake and eating it as well, that will not go on forever...for at some point and time she must decide...singlehood or me...and she realizes she can't have both....she jsut nowmust decide which is more important to her...and that's what she is doing at this point...
Nothing more and nothing less....
Again thanks for all the well wishes and support...
Stehanie...
3 divorces? ( Or, 2 FOR SURE, and 1 maybe?) One, was TOO MANY for me!:brolleyes:
So, when u started the thread, u seemed to accept that it was time to split up and move on with your lives, individually.:straightface:
U sounded hopeful, positive, and anxious to move on.:thumbsup:
Now, your wife has decided to keep u hanging, and that's OK with u?:eek:
It DOESN'T sound like a workable situation to me. But, HEY! ANY WAY two people can live together and make their relationship work, well GOOD FOR U!
Personally, when the SEX STOPS, I think the marriage is over! U can stay, for WHATEVER reasons, but you'll just be roommates!
And THAT wouldn't work for me!:doh:
But, if it does for u, Sherry! Go for it, girl!:D
LOL Sherry....the sex stopped for us 11 years ago when I became paralyzed....from the waist down and it killed the nerves in my extrmeities and yes it affected that extremity as well so the sex stoped then....but we still survived.
I still feel the same way that I did when I first started this thread...the only thing that changed is we've talked a lot over the past few says or couple of weeks....and she's not sure what she wants at this point. So I'm willing to give her some space and time...and see where this goes...neither oen of us is in a position to simply up and go. My job is going to be ending in a couple of months as well so I'll be looking for something new. I might need to hang out here anyway....then again I might be heading out for some new place to continue my life with...
So nothing has to be done at this moment...no rush....no must do it right now!!!!
Yup I'm OK with that....I'll give her time to see where she wants to go with our marriage...see if she really wants to be single or not...that's how much I love her....I think I can at least let her take a bit of time to decide. MY ego isn't that big that I need to put a dagger into our marriage immediately.Quote:
Now, your wife has decided to keep u hanging, and that's OK with u?