As many have done, I started at an early age, too. Purged a couple of times. But with and accepting wife and a few friends I came out to, I am comfortable with the cd life. I probably won't ever quit and I really don't want to.
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As many have done, I started at an early age, too. Purged a couple of times. But with and accepting wife and a few friends I came out to, I am comfortable with the cd life. I probably won't ever quit and I really don't want to.
Can I give up crossdressing?
Yes. I have done it dozens of times.
Then you have not truly given it up. You may have put it on hold a while but you keep coming back to it apparently.Quote:
Originally Posted by Michelle_Anne
IMO crossdressing is a part of how a person is wired, just like sexual orientation (again, IMO). One doesn't choose to like the clothes of the other gender, they just do. This is just like sexual orientation, one doesn't choose what gender they are attracted to, they're wired to like a particular gender (or both in the case of bisexuals). I didn't choose to like women's clothing or be attracted to women, I just do happen to like wearing women's clothing and to be attracted to women. On the same note, my homosexual male friends didn't choose to like men, they just do. My homosexual female friend didn't choose to like women, she just does.
Once society understands this then maybe crossdressing and homosexuality will become more accepted. But I honestly doubt society will ever accept these things fully, especially crossdressing.
Honestly? No i couldnt i have come to the point in life where as i know this is me and am very content and happy. If i was 20 yrs younger i would more than likely be living fulltime as a female.
Won't give up something I love doing, even if it's behind closed doors most of the time.
Never ... Why would I want to give up something so important to me!
hugs - maggie
recently about crossdressing. Like, why do I do it? But I've always liked women's clothes and makeup always noticed fashion, always envied women for their creative expression in creating a "look". As an artist that impressed me. Anyway, I tried giving it up and did sometimes for years because I knew it upset my wife (now that I'm separated it's different) and because it seemed like such a chore to hide it and prepare myself when I had so many other interests.
But why does it come back? Why can I not give it up? Because it lies at the center of my identity as a feminine male. I like being male but I'm very feminine though good at pretending to be very masculine. I don't want to pretend so why give it up? Why give it up until I really want to give it up? There's something very mysterious and profound about the whole gender-bender adventure we are on. Let's see where it leads.
Can you give up crossdressing?
Absolutely no!
Do I want to give up crossdressing?
I've suppressed it many times. but not anymore. I'm getting too old to fight it.
Do I feel my crossdressing has affected me?
Constantly and more each day. Been having some real ups and downs lately.
Why is crossdressing so difficult to stop?
I gave a little freedom to the girl in me and she has completely taken control. She is fierce!
Is it still a big secret?
Unfortunately yes. It's my biggest hurdle at present.
Will you always be a crossdresser?
Always. Mind, body and soul.
Would you ever reach out to help others who are crossdressers or transgendered?
Right now I'm in need mostly but I would love to help others. I care too much of everyone.
Don't know if I could give up dressing. I think it is apart of who I am and I become miserable and stressed if I go for long periods without doing it. Just going out dressed for an evening can put me in a happier more relaxed mood for days.
I am convinced that I can give it up but the incentive to do it (give it up) has to be better than the incentive not to give it up and I don't see that happening.
Do I want to give up crossdressing?
No and that is the key, It I really wanted to I could, but I really like the way I feel and for the most part look.
Do I feel my crossdressing has affected me?
Crossdressing has made me the person that I am. I have been dressing and wanting to be girlish since I can first remember at 4 or 5, maybe younger
Why is crossdressing so difficult to stop?
Because of the way it makes me feel. I like the feeling of the clothes as well as how I feel dressed. It is an escape for me. It helps releave the stress of being a man. I feel that most of the time I am a very Inadequate man.
Is it still a big secret?
Yes only my wife and few family members know
Will you always be a crossdresser?
Yes, I just like it.
Would you ever reach out to help others who are crossdressers or transgendered?
Yes that is what this site is all about isn't it :-).
BWOemerger
i think if it was wrong i could, but its not so i wont :)
Personally, I have never been able to give up crossdressing even when I was married (twice).
Now it is part of who I am, so why would I want to give that up.
As for the difficulty in quitting crossdressing perhaps it is because it is
hard wired into our brains
It is pretty much a secret at this time, I have a couple female friends that know but that is the extent.
Do I feel my crossdressing has affected me?
Without a doubt.
Will I always be a crossdresser?
More than likely.
Just joining this forum was a huge step for me, helping someone else who is a crossdresser or TG?
I certainly hope I can
NO have tried always come back Love to crossdress.:daydreaming:
I've tried but it's who I am and it's never going away. Plus I love it!
I never gave up cross dressing... I just take breaks from it once in a while which is my case now. I've taken several breaks before the longest lasting 6 months. I've gone about 4 months now. I miss it but I know its not the end. Its going to feel amazing when I do start up again.:daydreaming:
I once thought that you could, but then I read, "once a cross dresser, always a cross dresser", and the realization hit me like a tonne of bricks...
I tried several times to quit and it just doesn't go away. I have come to terms with it. There are days I hate it (like when I see a size 3 beautiful dress and I know I will never fit into it) but it's how I am. I have a close freind that is very supportive of me dressing and have become a bit more confident in it. I may be still in the closet to all but a small handfull of people, but that's where the clothes are :)
Can I give up cross dressing?
Sure, we all die someday.
Oh wait, I want to be cremated in a dress and heels!
So NOPE!
I want to meet the maker and look them in the eye dressed like that and say really? This is the vision you had for me, so here it is :D
If it were a matter of absolute survival, sure I could give it up. But there would be consequences- I would drink too much, eat too much, become a generally bitchy person all around. I wouldn't want to, though.
I make a CHOICE to dress. We all do. I feel that I am a better person when I have the opportunity to present myself as Robin a couple of times a month. When I deny myself that time, for whatever reason, I become depressed and angry. Still, it is a choice.
I have heard that the crossdressing desire lasts for about 900 years.
ahhh no.
without even thinking about the idea, no i cant. ive been dressing since the age of 12 and its now become over the years a very big part of my life. i am the female i cant see in the mirror every morning.
I tried to purge once and luckily I just stored averything away, that lasted a month, surprised I made it that long. I am a widower and lost my wife of 37 years to cancer. So as time goes on I have attempted to meet a new lady but the rejections have been nearly 100% so I thought if I purged then I wuldn't have to explain my self. Ya know what I am always happiest when dressed even with all the tragedy of the last few years. So I would never quit again and Yes, the older I get the more I want to be dressed all the time.
Shirley
Can you give up crossdressing?
I've barely just begun, so... I guess? I dunno, after my initial stint with it, stuck in my brain pretty deeply and I fantasized about it until I did it again.
Do I want to give up crossdressing?
Not at all. I have a loving, supporting GF and brother who know and it will be just a matter of time til my family knows, so I am on my way to fully embracing it.
Do I feel my crossdressing has affected me?
Certainly. It's going to become a part of my life, if only a small part for now, but it's putting my confidence through quite the trial.
Why is crossdressing so difficult to stop?
Dunno. People like what they like.
Is it still a big secret?
Not really, the most important people in my life know.
Will you always be a crossdresser?
I have no idea.
Would you ever reach out to help others who are crossdressers or transgendered?
Perhaps, once I am more learned in the subject.
its funny to think that none of us know the answer to why we crossdress but at the end of the day we can not stop it if we tried , and the mail thing in most posts is that we dont want to stop it .
it makes us what we are,so it does affect us, i have tried a few times to quit but no more as now i know it will be with me till i die,but thats also because i like it so much .
i have kept it a secret unti now but i want to come out now , so i know how hard it is keeping things bottled up so i of cause would help other crossdresseds if i could .
Can you give up crossdressing?
Now that I have accepted it as part of me & not shameful, I could if I needed to for a really good reason.
Do I want to give up crossdressing?
No, not really at all. I don't think I'd want to even for a GG.
Do I feel my crossdressing has affected me?
Oh yes. I think I'm already a better & happier person for accepting it as a true part of me.
Why is crossdressing so difficult to stop?
If I knew that I could probably stop. I'd say it is because it is fun, and secret & part of me.
Is it still a big secret?
Pretty big. Only my mom & psychiatrist know so far. And of course all my sisters on here!!
Will you always be a crossdresser?
Most likely unless I end up having SRS. Which would only be after getting married & having children & being a father for a few years. Then I'd be a woman.
Would you ever reach out to help others who are crossdressers or transgendered?
As soon as I get myself sorted out, yes I will. I want to reach out to other Christians (and anyone else) who feel that what they are doing is wrong. Not to convince them that they have to do it, but that they determine where the shame is actually coming from. There is a Christian suicide/depression hotline that is housed very near where I live & I would love to help out there. And make the pharmacy I work at be CD/TG friendly. (I know we already have a couple there & many homosexual male & lesbians.)
I don't believe I can give up crossdressing,believe me I have tried several times.I don't understand why I have the urge but I do and always have since the first panties I put on.I often questioned GOD "why me?".I am not comfortable being "out there yet".I do however enjoy chatting with my friends on this site and I'm happy to do so.I have so many things to ask and understand.I have struggled with CD'ng all my life and still have so many questions that need to be answered.The thing that amazes me is how comfortable and relaxed I am in heels and hose while most I know GG's hate the idea of having to dress like that.I do know I am most relaxed and comfortable when completely dressed which makes me ask"why was I not born a GG?"
Can you give up crossdressing?
No. No more than I can give up being tall.
Do I want to give up crossdressing?
In many ways life would be easier, but since I’ve always been a crossdresser I have no idea of life without being one. But no, it’s too much a part of who I am. I would still be a crossdresser even if I never dressed again.
Do I feel my crossdressing has affected me?
It goes both ways. Crossdressing affects who I am and who I am affects my crossdressing. It relaxes me.
Would you ever reach out to help others who are crossdressers or transgendered?
It’s difficult since I’m only out to my family, but as a teacher (“schoolmarm”) I talk with a lot of students, and I am sensitive to sex and gender identity issues. Either crossdressing gives me greater insight, or the greater insight feeds into my crossdressing, or, more likely, both.
Julieanne
I tried so many times to give up crossdressing i gave up.
I would say this is it and get rid of everything but that lasted about a week because i would see something that i like and go buy it and start all over again so now if i have the urge to quit i put everything away for awhile until i am ready to dress again .
There is no doubt that I am with the majority here
I have had long breaks when I was younger. But no I could not and would not want to stop cross dressing. After coming out to my wife 4 years ago I need not even think of stopping she's great about it.:hugs:
Angie
I have tried to give up crossdressing, a few times, the longest stretch was 11 yrs, but it took its tole on me, I went into a deep depression, and it destroyed everything I had worked so hard to attain. it was Jan 2006 when I was in my deepest despair and alot of soul searching that I finally crossdressed for the first time in 11 yrs, it was the the first time in a long time that I felt like I have come home to my true self, it was like the chains of depression was finally broken, I have come along way from that moment on, I have since come out to family and friends, I am enfemme almost everyday, sometimes because of work I may not be able to cd for a week or more at a time, and yes it does cause me to start getting depressed, so I need to dress to keep my sanity. So the answer is no I cannot give up crossdressing, it is a way of life for me, and it brings much happiness and fulfilment to my life. There is only one drawback to crossdressing, it makes it much harder to find a wife.
Can I give it up?...I think so
Do I want to and will I ever try to ... NEVER, EVER!! :thumbsdn:
I am Cheryl and Cheryl is me. There is no separating my feminine self from my being. As others have said, the older I get the more I need to express this ingrained part of my being. I would never give it up any more than I would try to cut off my arm or leg.
It's taken years to become who I am and I love me! :hugs:
At last I have no guilt, no remorse, no shame and I will not turn my back on that struggle to find who I really am and was meant to be.
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I've tried many times to quit. Did I succeed? No
In the last year, I've had a lot of reflection time and I began reading journals I've written over the years. And I found a direct correlation on my unhappiness with myself that always seemed to coincide with the times I quit.
I realized, these thoughts were not just thoughts, these were feelings of who I am. If this is who you are inside, IMHO, to quit would be to deny your inner self, the true you. So why fight it?
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Do I want to give up crossdressing?
I want to be normal so I woudln't have to live in the closet. But I can't change it so no
Do I feel my crossdressing has affected me?
It has in many ways, but has never changed me really as a person
Why is crossdressing so difficult to stop?
Because women's clothes feel so good
Is it still a big secret?
Oh yeah, but I plan to come out in June.
Will you always be a crossdresser?
Yes
Would you ever reach out to help others who are crossdressers or transgendered?
I wish I knew some locally I could meet.
Do I want to give up crossdressing?
Not really, This is a part of my life that I actually enjoy, Why would I want to give up one of the very few things that I enjoy
Do I feel my crossdressing has affected me?
Sure it has affected my life. If it weren't for those time when I get to dress and just relax, then I probably would have gone completely crazy by now.
Why is crossdressing so difficult to stop?
Because it is a big part of my life and one that does not give me too much stress
Is it still a big secret?
Too big of a secret. My wife knows. But that is about it.
Will you always be a crossdresser?
Pretty sure that I will be till the day I die.
Would you ever reach out to help others who are crossdressers or transgendered?
Probably not, Still pretty deep in the closet.
give it up.....why?
it is me.
would love to help if I can,
but for now Loni is trying the next big jump for her.
she has pocked her head out a bit, now it is time for a walk down main st.
as another said " the older I get, the more it is" or something like that.
when the spring dresses come out and the days have warmed up a bit, Loni is going shopping dressed....no more need to shop in drab.
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Can I give up crossdressing?
Can I make the conscious decision to never put on another article of feminine clothing ever again? Yes. Could I ever reach a point where I didn't wish I still did or want to? Could I ever walk through a store and see things I would have liked and not want for them? No, not any easier than I could remove note by note every piece of music I've ever played or heard. If I made that decision to not wear another thing could I be strong enough not to eventually let bitterness and unhappiness bring as much negativity as the clothes may have? I am not sure I could.
Do I want to give up crossdressing?
Sometimes when it has been the big red bull's eye that was easier to attack than the actual issue.
Do I feel my crossdressing has affected me?
It has to. It's made me take a hard look at who and what I am and what I'm willing or not willing to be.
Why is crossdressing so difficult to stop?
While I don't know for sure if it's something I was born with or not I do believe there is some basic component of my personality that allows me to be softer and more gentle and nurturing. I feel it is that same softness that allows for the wearing of a dress rather than running screaming in the opposite direction.
Is it still a big secret?
The people whose opinion really matter know. My parents, my wife and the kids that live with me. Some of my co-workers know or at least suspect but it's not out in the open at work at all.
Will you always be a crossdresser?
Probably up until the point where putting on a skirt and heels isn't crossdressing any more. :D
Would you ever reach out to help others who are crossdressers or transgendered?
All are welcome to any help or comfort I can offer.
I stopped when I was younger for a while, but I couldn't fight it for long. It's had such a huge effect on my life, and I don't think I can stop (I hope I won't stop, too)
Can you give up crossdressing?
No
Do I want to give up crossdressing?
No, in the earlier years I tried, I'm most here would agree you don't loose the desire.
Do I feel my crossdressing has affected me?
I'm sure it has, but it is the sum total of who I am.
Why is crossdressing so difficult to stop?
I believe I am just wired that way, you just can't give up something that is a key piece of you.
Is it still a big secret?
None of my "regular" friends know.... at least I don't think they know.
Will you always be a crossdresser?
Never dabbled in it until I was on my own, I always would wonder what it would be like to wear dresses. I originally did not understand my secret desire to dress in women's clothes, I guess that's where the seeds sprouted from.
Would you ever reach out to help others who are crossdressers or transgendered?
I feel I am still at a point where I get advice rather than give advice. If someone needed my help, I would gladly give it.
No, I don't believe I can quit Crossdressing. It's part of who I am am who I became. I am hooked for life. I love the soft feel of womans clothing.
Can you give up crossdressing?
Personally, I don't think so.
Do I want to give up crossdressing?
Definitely not.
Do I feel my crossdressing has affected me?
Not in any negative ways, but it has definitely impacted my life for the better... nothing major, but it's lots of fun.
Why is crossdressing so difficult to stop?
It's either an addiction or just simply part of who I am... one is called an addiction for a reason.. and the other is something you can't really do much about. And since it's not a harmful addiction (unlike smoking which I quit years ago) I figure what the heck!?! :)
Is it still a big secret?
Well, out to the wife now for a couple months, otherwise still a secret, and will probably remain that way. I have driven en femme before on long trips, but that is about the extent of my "outings/outness."
Will you always be a crossdresser?
I suspect so... Had it not been for this forum I would have thought that when I got older (I'm mid 30s now) that the need would dwindle, but after seeing all the folks here in their "golden years" I look forward to this even more so when I'm able to do it without worrying about the kids :)
Would you ever reach out to help others who are crossdressers or transgendered?
Absolutely... I might not "out" myself in the process, but I would not fear any public ridicule over helping someone in need regardless of the circumstances.
VS Fan
Can you give up crossdressing?
Frankly no. I gave up trying after too many years in denial.
Do I want to give up crossdressing?
You might just as well ask if I want to give up living.
Do I feel my crossdressing has affected me?
Yes, it has released me from tensions due to the denial, but at times has caused me other tensions - especially when I have been in a pink fog
Why is crossdressing so difficult to stop?
Because it is hardwired into my being
Is it still a big secret?
More so than I would like :sad:
Will you always be a crossdresser?
I may give up being a crossdresser a few years after I die. Alternatively, if I get to the stage where I need to transition, I may no longer consider myself a crossdresser once I am fully woman
Would you ever reach out to help others who are crossdressers or transgendered?
I already do
I can't quit. I've tried. I purged several times years ago and it was a big waste of money. I threw away clothes of mine in the seventies and the eighties that nowadays go for big money on Ebay and in Vintage clothing stores. I would have to quit if they made it illegal or threatened to shoot me but I would still think of myself as a crossdresser and I would be good and p_____ o__ about the whole thing and I would look for ways to make myself heard and I would argue the point.
I'm like everyone else here. No I can't quit. And more importantly I don't even want to try anymore. For a long time I felt like there was something wrong with me because I liked to crossdress. Now I figured out that the only time something is wrong is when I don't. I don't dress every day as much as I'd like to go 24/7 but I probably dress at least 5 times a week because of the situation I'm in. I feel like something is missing when I'm not dressed but it goes a lot deeper than that. Anyways to make a long story short- NO I can;t give it up.
Samantha if they made it illegal I would have to hide like normal; if they threatened to shoot me I guess I'd have to decide what my funeral outfit would be. Knowing the :D sarcastic me it would be the black lace dress my wife calls "Grandma's Funeral Dress."Quote:
Originally Posted by Samantha B L
Could I give up crossdressing?
No, but I could and do "supress or conceal" it enough to avoid any social consequences for myself or others.
Do I want to give up crossdressing?
No
Do I feel my crossdressing has affected me?
Yes, from the day I began and will continue to for life.
Why is crossdressing so difficult to stop?
It is a paraphilia and has all the normal characteristics. It has a deeply "engrained" origin, compulsive nature and very low success rate in eliminating it from a person's core behavior ritual.
Is it still a big secret?
Yes, aside from the internet world.
Will you always be a crossdresser?
Yes, at a minimum.
Would you ever reach out to help others who are crossdressers or transgendered
Isn't that what we are all doing here?
hello,
could I give up - probably not - but why would I want to?
I do wish I could stop shopping though (just for a while)!
luv, J
Yes, I finally gave it up for good last August...So I no longer CD as a man & never will again...:heehee:
That's what you wanted to know, right??...;)
Why in the world would I want to? I have been doing it for well over 60 years, so why stop now? If the right person asked me to, I would stop immediately! But she has told me that she would never ask me to stop dressing as a female! I love her!!
I have a serious question:
Why would anyone want to defy what one's imagination and human spirit conjures if it is not hurting or affecting someone else? Did your brain do something to you cause you to embarrass yourself?
A clothing designer sits at a table to design something that was intended to make women look attractive to men in order to have his/her company dole out a nice paycheck.
Secondly, if crossdressing is so controversial, why do we continue to base our judgement on what a lot of the public thinks, when that chunk of the population has zero ...."0" understanding exactly what crossdressing is, and why men do it?
Men....ugh!!!