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I agree. there are a bunch of sites that give CDing a bad name. This site is simply wonderful and I am soooo glad I found it and all of you!
As far as dressing "quality" goes, I dress respectable most of the time but trashy will sneak in every now and then 'cos its fun
I go for classy myself.
<-- Sadly that pic over there is not me. It's what I WISH I looked like! But yeah, the classy, "nice girl" look. I guess you might say that that's what I prefer to think I look like on the inside. ^_^
I've never been attracked to trashy GG's. Professional, classy and all put together is the only way for me.
Why would I want to look like a cheap hooker?
My POV is that it depends on how I feel.
Dressing trampy is fun sometimes, sometimes more classy is how I feel.
Same with attraction to GGs.
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Originally Posted by Amanda Styles
"sigh" For funs! :cheer:
I have good news and bad news for you! :) The good news: you look like a GG! The bad news: you look like my high school principal. :O But there's more good news: she's a classy lady too! :DQuote:
Originally Posted by Amanda Styles
Can we get away from "hooker" references? I know we all have our own idea of what looks good and I still don't see why dressing "Up" in a short skirt and heels makes you trashy but honestly the hooker thing doesn't even ring true. I wonder how many here have even seen a real hooker? 90% of them look like destitute women on the street. Another Hollywood myth that really does not need perpetuating.:brolleyes:
Perhaps I should amend that post a bit, especially after reading Lorileah's response . You are right, trashy does not equate with hooker. I do love short skirts, tight tops, high heels and being made up myself.
So I guess I have a trashy side to myself as well. I stand corrected. :) The last thing I want to do is offend anyone here.
Thanks Bailey, maybe 2009 won't end so badly with confidence bolstering compliments like that.Quote:
Originally Posted by Bailey_in_Mansfield
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Originally Posted by Lorileah
I'm just learning to use this site, and I am trying to use the quote function. I have to agree that just the act of wearing a short skirt, and tight top does not make one "trashy". What I wanted to say was my daytime look (if i went out) would be more business or age appropriate. I know all women have a side they present to the world and one that is reserved for elsewhere.
For me, fishnets are what make the "trashy" look. *shudder*
Well see that's what being a woman is so fun, and really annoying. We can dress how we feel, want to be seen as, or for the function we are going to and what we are doing that day. A cd is a horse of a diferent color, while a woman, she is only a 'side' or part of the whole. So, 'dress up' is more the norm than for a ts. But rather than try to point out the silly little diference's lets try and enjoy each other for the sameness we all love and enjoy. I have a picture of me (TS) and a good friend (CD) at a party where we both wore the same dress. And you can't tell who's who just because of the dress now can you? Carol
And the best thing about being a woman is female perogative. I can do it because...
" I wanted to..." is all I need to say... Carol
I see hookers all the time here in Las Vegas, there's quite a difference between the street ho's and the high priced call girls. prostitutes can be trashy or classy with the best of em. The trashy ones are pretty easy to spot standing on the corner or walking down the street with their junk hangin out. From my own personal observations ..it seems to me that the older the prostitute, the more she flaunts her stuff. face it..she getting up there a bit,maybe doesn't have the figure that she used to, and then there's the competition from the younger girls to contend with. Being that there are a lot of prostitutes here, police and hotel security deal with them regularly they sort of have a feel for what to look for. Profiling if you will. ( it may not be right, but it happens) . If a woman meets certain criteria, or draws attention to herself via the way she is dressed, they may not say anything, but you can be sure that the eye in the sky is keeping a close watch on her actions.The girls that dress in a more subtle manner can slip under the radar, the younger girls ... well their younger, who doesn't like to look at at a young girl in a short skirt? Even so, if they are dressed way over the top. they too will rate a second look. maybe "dressed like a hooker" has a different meaning here, but from experience in dealing with prostitutes our police and hotel security kind of have the attitude of..if it looks like a duck and quacks like a duck..it's probably a duck. I think that most people have an idea of what they believe to be considered proper when it comes to how people dress when they are out and about,whether it be style of clothing or the dreaded age appropriate. It may not be the same as yours, and if you don't buy into it..more power to you, but it is what it is. If you walk into a casino here wearing Daisey dukes,heels,pantyhose and a halter top, that guy that's following you probably isn't doing so because he thinks your hot! You fit the profile. :strugglinQuote:
Originally Posted by Lorileah
I try to be mostly classy, with a touch of soccar mom, a pinch of redneck, and just a hint of class
I dress for me. I enjoy wearing feminine clothes. Sometimes I feel like being a little ****ty and other times I don't. I don't leave the house dressed in a manner to draw attention and create problems so what does it matter how I dress in my house?
I think that the OP was geared for how one dresses outside of the home.Quote:
Originally Posted by suzy
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Kelly
hello everyone, this is my first post so i am a wee bit nervy, but just wanted to add i think everyone loves to fit in with being classy!
but now and again we all like to dress a bit naughty(trashy) am i right ...lol.
all the best kt.
I really should be used to being the "odd man out" by now or woman in this case! :p
My girl asked me the other day, can't Samantha do her hair in a more classy style? Sadly most of the time the answer is no! :devil:
The 2 things that originally got me interested in crossdressing in the 1st place are fishnet stockings, which I wear almost every time I dress and big giant 80's/early 90's hair. I guess I'm just not a classy gal :D To each her own...
So...If I am a hooker in LV and I dress like "Mama" form Mama's family, I can get in and get out without anyone noticing...Yeah, except the graft you KNOW security is getting to allow hookers in the casino :brolleyes: The lesson you are giving here is dress like you are from the farm and the "eye is the sky" won't follow you? Also BS and you know that too. From the minute you walk in that casino as a CD or even a TS you are nailed. As you state not right but he way it is. Face it in Vegas you are watched.,..yes even you as pretty as you are. But that's Vegas.Quote:
Originally Posted by kellycan27
Well she looks classy enough in that avatar, Samantha... But have some fun with your girl's suggestion! When she asked if Samantha can do her hair in a more classy style, I think she was looking for an answer like, "Well, what do you have in mind? Why don't you try it out on me?" :)
Hmmmm, interesting thought Bailey :) She did my hair once, but she has hard time styling it, our hair is very different texture wise. Still, not a bad idea :)
No, it's not BS.. if you dress like you are from the farm you aren't going to garner more scrutiny than if you are dressed in a way that that they would describe as "hookerish". Put on any kind of spin that you would like. Even if the eye in the sky did clock a cd or TS..it doesn't matter, they're not looking to keep cders and ts's out of the casinos.. they're trying to keep out HOOKERS. The hookers that are aloud .. are done so in a pre-arranged fashion and are known by security and by the pit bosses. Even those girls are required to dress in a fashion that doesn't scream hooker. Security and the pit bosses don't want unwanted attention payed to these girls by customers or the higher ups.Quote:
Originally Posted by Lorileah
Remind me to stay the hell away from Vegas!Quote:
Originally Posted by Lorileah
Don't let that scare you Amanda. As Kelly pointed out, they aren't out to get the CD's. They do watch you more closely but if you aren't there to cause problems you will be fine. Most (and notice I said MOST) casinos will allow you to have fun and be another patron without hassle. The point was that they let hookers in too, just look the other way and as Kelly pointed out that is the "arrangement". Hookers bring men into the casino, often whales, and that means money. And as Kelly pointed out these pro's don't dress like the hookers you see on TV, they are "discrete". But do know, you ain't fooling the experts who get paid to see things, they can tell you are a TG, just like they can spot a hooker even if she isn't wearing a mini and 12" heels.Quote:
Originally Posted by Amanda Styles
personally i hate clothes so like to wear as little as i can get away with:devil::D
Most everyone on this site is a class act, like I think I am.
My preference is the classy, dignified look. That goes for the genetic ladies as well. While there is nothing inherently wrong with it, the trampish style of dressing doesn't do anything for me.
I decided before I started, that I wanted to be able to pass anywhere, anytime. So I analyzed what women my age wore, and when, their level of make-up, hair, ....etc... The looks I liked, and those I didn't. I didn't WANT stares from anyone, and don't get them unless someone's trying to be friendly. I go with class dressing but not overtly sexy in any way.
Does that make sense?
Ya just gotta know when and where you can show up looking trashy. Thats what trips up a lot of CDs/Tgirls. Don't freaking go to a nice resturant wearing a tiny miniskit, crop top blouse, tons of bling and wild makeup. On the other hand, lets say a fetish party like 'Skin Too' ...well then crankup da bad girl look and have fun!
Samantha you are a very classy girlQuote:
Originally Posted by Samantha Girl
There is no issue AT ALL with the way you dress...
some people will always disagreee. oh well
btw....on topic humour..
When we went out for my aunts 50th wedding anniversary, my aunts daughter in law showed up in a black leather miniskirt, fishnets...etc...she was very dressed up and very sexy
my jaw dropped as i pictured myself in that get up...
the family recoiled and my aunt and said...AND I QUOTE
"jes-s mary and joseph give me strength, she looks like a god damn ***** at a christening"
:devil:
Remember that we dress for many different reasons. Some are content to slip on an ankle-length dress and flats, no wig or makeup, and be happy. I'm happy for those who do that, but it doesn't do it for me. I dress for pleasure - my pleasure - and I'm happy if others like it too. I describe my dressup and makeup style as "overdone". I'm not trying to be trashy, but others will see it that way. I like high heels, somewhat higher than "classy", and short skirts a little shorter than "classy". Most of all, I love makeup, heavily applied bold eye makeup, long eyelashes, and deep red lipstick (overdone) but applied as perfectly as possible (classy). I think of this as my "femme identity". I have dressed this way in private countless times, but have also gone out this way many times, and, yes, received some attention (positive, I'm glad to report). I would not get as much pleasure dressing up if I toned it down.
Conservatively dressed gg's see other gg's in high heels, short skirts, and heavy makeup, but don't feel compelled to tell them that they're giving all women a bad image. So why should we do the same?
Thanks Kaitlyn! :) And that story is hysterical! :heehee:Quote:
Originally Posted by Kaitlyn Michele
Well said Nicole, I'm with you :)Quote:
Originally Posted by NicoleScott
"The best part about being a woman is my perogative to have a little fun!" Those words are from my favorite philosopher Shania Twain. I like to say that I have different sides. I am generally told by my friends that I tend to dress too conservatively when I'm out at the clubs. I am referred to as the Church Lady or head of the PTA. I do tend to dress more conservative or in my soccer mom attire when I go out shopping, to the grocery store. Thats because I wish to fit in. Thats only part of me though. Yes I do like to dress trashy looking at times and even "like a hooker." Not one of the common street ones, but the leather mini skirt, satin blouse, over the knee stilletto boots, fishnet stocking ones. It feels great to be noticed and get a little attention at times. The hookers you used to see on "TJ Hooker." I guess what Im saying is why not enjoy the ride- why limit yourself. Even GG's get to play dress up sometimes.
If a person is dressing in the privacy of her home, then whatever gives her that feminine, comfortable glow is what's right. If you're going out shopping, to a club, or a party, then being appropriately dressed is only good manners and good taste.
I have sexy outfits that I wear in the boudoir and for my own private naughty photo shoots, I have blue jeans and chambray shirts for outdoors, and cocktail dresses both long and short. Would 55 y.o. G Lady in good shape wear a fishnet mini to the party I'm attending without looking ridiculous? If "Yes," then so can I, if I think I can pull it off (what's that phrase, "Mutton dressed as Lamb?").
I try not to go overboard on the CD/TV weakness of shoes, too. Most gender women who are 5-11 wear flats or low heels, and I do too, except when I'm trying to look like a 'Ho. Nothing screams "party girl" quite as much as a pair of inappropriate shoes. As a matter of fact, I've never quite found a satisfactory answer to the question of when six inch heels are appropriate, although I think that I got a clue when I bought a pair of lace-up fetish boots (white wet and plastic) and got a complimentary whip inside the box http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...lies/happy.gif
You have to play to your audience, too. I live in Manhattan, most of places I go to can be fairly outre' (a primary reason I moved here from the midwestern 'burbs to put up with $3500 a month apartment rents), and some of the stuff I see will not play in Peoria anytime soon.
I just wish there was some way to deal with my voice as easily as the clothes. When I'm not careful I sound like William Warfield singing "Old Man River."
I think it is up to the individual on what they wear and they should not be judged on that . i would never consider that my way is the right way for every one, but just for me.
This is something I have thought about myself for quite along time, and developed quite the theory about.
When I see a cd/tv/ts out and about and dressed "trashy" (as in absolutely, unfathomably out of place with the surroundings) I think its because their idea of going femme is jumping directly to one end of the spectrum. Both genders have a spectrum with Conservative on one end and Trashy on the other, with society being the way it is I'm not entirely surprised this happens as the "Trashy" side of the spectrum is becoming more common.
When I first started dressing seriously during my teen years, it was always about the high heels, short skirts and revealing tops. Looking back, I realize I did this because that's what I had pigeon-holed being a female as. Skirts and Heels are absolutely feminine, therefore to be feminine, I have to dress like this. Today, not so much. Example, I've been lounging in cutoff shorts with a new pair of low top Chuck Taylors. Not the stereotypical female ensemble, but feminine nonetheless.
I also think this happens as a result of not growing up female and experiencing the slight changes in clothing based on age and setting. Its quite possible I am alone in that theory though.
Personally, I always put form ahead of fashion. Do these stiletto boots I just bought look hot? Most def! Do they look good on me? Totally! Would I wear them in at the office or at a funeral? Not a chance.
I also think whats making things worse is that a lot of the clothing websites that cater to our community put fashion ahead of form.
So, that's my theory. Me and my one-woman army will get off the soapbox now.
I must say the trashy clothes, and especially the shoes, are the ones I covet the most. That said, I also get excited by the idea of passing in society - to be able to take a 5 hour train ride en femme, flipping through Cosmo, checking my nails, legs crossed, prim and proper, is also very exciting.
If i dress trashy, it will be just a hint; say, white blouse, curvy pants and conservative black pumps. But as I cross my leg, you may see the flash of fishnets at my ankle. Just keep'em guessing. :)