Really depends on my frame of mind at the time.....
Sometimes it's purely the sexy feeling of the clothes and being fem. Other times it's purely escapism. The odd thing I am experiencing now, is a change in my sexuality relating to "turn-ons."
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Really depends on my frame of mind at the time.....
Sometimes it's purely the sexy feeling of the clothes and being fem. Other times it's purely escapism. The odd thing I am experiencing now, is a change in my sexuality relating to "turn-ons."
Like many others, it started out being very sexual for me. The only time I dressed were for sexual reasons. Now it's for the enjoyment of being able to present my feminine side strictly. I've finally accepted who I am and the pleasure of being the real me far far outweighs anything else. I would have to say that being the woman I want to be is my reasoning today.
it started out as a sexual thing years ago,but for years now its just an expression of who i am,and i get no sexual pleasure out of it any more.i just enjoy being a little feminine.
For me I am reminded constantly of fashion, women, CD's on the net, legs, breasts, etc. It all adds up to this warm, feeling and leads me to my closet to dress. Something new always excites me more than old, but something favorite does the trick also.
I used to think I was creating the lovers I always needed & wanted (in the mirror).
Love....
What's the difference if you like doing it do it. And don't worry if you want to play when your dressed. I think your overthinking this hun.:hugs:
Angie
When I first started wearing lingerie 10 years ago, there was a sexual thrill, an excitement. As I have progressed to dressing fully en femme, it is more of a desire to express my strong feminine side. There is a real comfortableness in being dressed as a girl, and enjoying the different fabric, nylons, panties, bras, makeup, jewelry, wigs, corsets, etc.
Dressing as a male is utterly boring. Socks, boxers, pants, shirt... done!
Dressing as a female - very fun, exciting.
Now, to round it off, comes the voice coaching and learning more femme movements and "ways". It's all a progression... and a fun one!
First off, apologies in advance. I tend to write long winded explanations and it's not good lol.
When the thought of CDing crossed my mind, it wasn't sexual at all. I just got out of a long relationship with my ex-fiancee and needed some sort of way to boost my confidence and self-esteem back up. For the past few months since the engagement was broken off and we parted ways I changed my entire male wardrobe to refresh my image but felt that I needed to work on those two facets of my personality and at the same time do something that I've never done before.
So when an opportunity arose where if I CD'd in public with no one in my group chastising me for what I'm doing or otherwise, I seized the opportunity to do it. That's when other answers as to why I wanted to CD came trickling in. Questions like, "Can I look good with the outfits I'm wearing," or "Can I pass as a GG," came to mind and were answered thanks to what I did. I was also reminded that, a while back, I had a fascination for gender ambiguity thanks to the rise of the internet and the blurring of identity online. All I can add to this is that I'm thankful that I had a supportive close friend who could catch up with whatever I'm thinking and was a "Yes" girl when it came down to me.
What's weird is that I thought that my friends would think ill of me by actually continuing to CD past that day, but their reactions were both funny and encouraging. They know that I'm still a straight guy inside and that I'm trying this out to both better myself and enjoy the advantages of my youth.
Are you talking about that tingling feeling I get all over my body, emanating from somewhere between my legs (where the junk is stored)?
Omigosh! That's sex?
Then howcum it grows tremendously just after I step into my heels? My feet are as far away from Pleasure Central as you can get!
'Tis a puzzlement.
G
[SIZE=3]Personally, I am certain that when I began at a young age that much of it was sexual in nature. This continued for quite some time as I always enjoyed the "thrill" of dressing. Whether this was the feeling of the clothing or the forbidden nature of cross dressing or a combination of both I can't say and at this time don't care.Quote:
Originally Posted by E6_Secret
As I grew older and matured I found that the sexual aspect faded. I came to realize that it was the expression of some deep seeded feminine aspect of my being that guided me to be the "woman" I am today. Nature, nurture, genetics...I don't know, but I do know that I feel more at ease with myself as a woman than at any other time. This peace is what I seek and enjoy now.
Perhaps the other facets we necessary to lead me to this realization. In any case, it is no longer sexual or fetishistic, it is simply an outward expression of who I am.[/SIZE]
Certainly wasn't sexual when I started I was too young. Through the teenage years it appeard like it was, but I didn't need to be dressed to enjoy sex, then or now, so I think it was more likely that I used to get turned on because thats what happens any how, at that age. These days being dressed is just about being me.
With the passing of time, the sexual aspect has ebbed, but not gone away. Now, it's being more comfortable, contented and fulfilled. Bobbie
silkie smooth legs in hose my little feet in heels soft paded bra to me that is sexy even if not passable,:battingeyelashes:
When I first dressed it felt wonderful but I don't know if that was sexual as I was too young. Every day since I've just wanted to be girly and the clothes are just one part of it. That said, I only truly feel sexual when dressed. Guess its chicken and egg, or chick and bed. For me it feels natural to be a girl and the sexual feelings are just one small part of that. x
whoa, those sexual ebbing reports are getting a little too frequent around here. I think I am going to start wearing a mask and gloves on this forum. I do not want to catch anything..lol
I have already resigned myself to accepting the fact that I will probably end up as one of those old men in the geriatric ward running around pinching all of the nurses until the day I die.:battingeyelashes:
When I'm crossdressed the whole day, I observe that I'm used to have breakfeast, lunch and dinner crossdressed. :battingeyelashes:
Then I'm wondering :
Is crossdressing just about eating and food ? :devil:
Also I'm used to breathe all time I'm crossdressed.
Hence I ask you :
Is there a strong connection between crossdressing and breathing ? :devil:
Why would CDers have to EITHER crossdress or HAVE SEX ?
You may do both at the same time or in the row, just as you like. :love:
I'm the same as Stacy and started about the same age too.Quote:
Originally Posted by Stacy L
I started around age 12. At first it was very sexual and that lasted into my 20's. I would dress,get excited,and when it was over I couldn't get the clothes off fast enough. Probably a guilt thing. As I aged it began to change and now at 61 it's pretty much a transgender thing. I still get a thrill from it from time to time but it's not the motivation anymore.
I started when I was nine. I am now 61. It has always been sexual for me, the feeling of sexy lingerie really did it for me and still does. However, as I have got older, it isn't just sexual. I find I want to dress fully because I love to feel fem. If I could I would dress fem 24/7.
I started when I was young about 10 or 11 years old. since that time I have progressed along the time line to dressing about once a day and the sexual thing was when I was younger, now its about the clothes and lingere, yes the lingere, I have collected quite a huge collection. The other day I was at a small shop and was looking at another slip and the lady told me they were not making to many slips these day as the ladys are not wearing them so much and I told her that I have about one hundred slips in my collection and counting, she was astonted that I had that many. She said most girls only have three or four at most.
Sorry for rambling on.
Laura Lee:heehee:
When I started at 6, it was well before anything sexual, later in my teens sexual feelings crept in, the older I became the less sexual and more the need to feel feminine. Now solely to feel feminine.
Well, currently it's just purely sexual for me. And I really don't know if I would aim for anything higher as I like my male-self. But only time will tell...
This is a tough question. I started crossdressing because it did stimulate me sexually, but then I just began to enjoy wearing female clothing. Inintially it was just stockings and high heels, but then I needed to go further, and further, till I was totally dressed and made up, and at that point, I felt I'd arrived at who I really was. I'm just a female born as a male, and my crossdressing is no longer sexual.
It was almost all seual when I started
Still is part of it
Now more and more I just feel this is who I am
I love wearing, figuring out and learning more and more about my feminine self
At one time it was totally sexual, now its who I want to be. I'm Arlene 24/7. :battingeyelashes:
For me , its part of my sexuality. When I was real young I used to have strange dreams. Which led to me fantasiing about being femed. Which turned into sexual experiances as I got older . I always wondered what it would feel like to dress in woman's clothes. Especially the shoes. My dressing continues to excite me in those ways. I've never really had the opertunity to fully dress though. The thought of being femine and crossdressing excites me.
It ISN'T!:eek:
"Dressing to relax!?" :brolleyes:
Yeah! That'll be the day!:heehee:
Just THINKING about the girl Sherry will become next, is very stimulating for me. When I start dressing, the excitement and an----ti-----ci----pa------tion just keep building.
Until a completed female image is in my mirror!:D
If the day comes that I DON'T get turned on by CDing, I may just give it up!:sad:
Since I'm over 60 now, that day MAY be coming!:straightface:
I'm very much the same. But in actuality, I think it's more sexual for me.Quote:
Originally Posted by brittdoll
mixed feelings for me, but initially when i am dressed i am abit more frisky and aroused!
but there are days where it just more comfy to be in female clothes, especially nighties and gowns for bed!
I do wear panties daily!
It just feels normal. Nothing sexual about it.
It started one way and then evolved. I guess I am happy as a "well balanced" gender, I would be comfy as a man or woman, but got all the advantage as I am, a little of each. When I finally realized that fem was part of me all the time, I found some peace (I also upgraded my drab wardrobe).
I love doing guy things and dressing girlie girl.
Shari
i have so many ideas but when it comes down to it i just feel so good dressed
I started because it was something that felt natural to me. With the discovery of pornography my cross dressing turned into something sexual. Recently I've been moving away from a sexual act to feeling like it's "right." I still enjoy having some sexual thrill to it but it's been slowly changing to "right" and not just a cheap thrill. I've tried to rationalize it many ways but I've found that I just like dressing like a woman.
all i can say for my self sex has nothing to do with my dressing, I like wearing preaty things,and love wearing heals.
I don't think I can say it's purely sexual. I enjoy dressing, putting-on makeup, and trying to be beautiful without being excited sexually. I can dress, sit at home with a plate of cheese, a bottle of wine and a good movie, and just relax.
On the other hand, I can have tremendous sexual urges when I'm in a narcissistic phase, and the ballet slippers and flouncy skirt and silk blouse disappear to be replaced by 4" stiletto shoes with vamp straps, black body stocking, long goth gloves, and some ****ty eye makeup, and that inevitably leads to the full length mirror, the remote exposure camera, and the euphemistic 'ya no.'
I am active sexually with men, but that's a different dynamic. I enjoy being held by a man, and having his hands and lips on my face and body, and I enjoy very much being the feminine receptive partner during the sex act itself. But, as much of the pleasure is psychological as physical, since during coitus is when I feel most like a woman.
I don't dress like a vamp **** for men: Some variation on the classic ensemble of a black cocktail dress, a strand of pearls and pearl earrings, some good stockings, and a pair of 9 West black, three inch pumps, is what I wear on dates, or when I'm out cougaring. So, I'd have to say that my sexiest and most outrageously whorish outfits are either for myself or for other TV/CD who are similarly in their Tramp Mode, because that's when I'm most likely to be in a Red Zone looking for sex.
Just as an aside, since it's not precisely apropos to this thread, if I'm just hangin' with friends I'm asexual, blue jeans, loafers, chambray shirts and black turtle necks, levi denim jean vests, and the only femme/masculine differences are the wig, the ornateness of the earrings, and the makeup. The odd thing is that when I'm dressed like that I get hit on by guys whether or not I'm wearing makeup, etc. The curse of being a pretty boy or a handsome woman.
I wore my first girdle at about 13 or 14 and loved the control and how it made me feel. I was very upset I did not have my own. Wearing my mother's skirt suit was a real highlight. When I got old enough to buy my own I bought stockings too, like 3 different sizes because I had no clue what size I needed. The first time I slept like that in a girdle and stockings it was wonderful how my body and legs glided over the sheets. Later adding a silky night gown was like heaven. The rest came over time however I still consider a girdle part of me always. Going to the doctor and not wearing a girdle is a bummer. Over time I also started noticing women and their accessories like necklaces and earings. Not to mention shoes and glasses. I have no idea why I look at some women and think GREAT shoe selection and others, what were you thinking. I always compliment women on their shoes and glasses. I think most like it. I LOVE when the compliment comes back. I finished writing, it's sensual.
In the beginning I think it mostly was sexual (at least that is the only thing I remember), but as my dressing evolved I would say it's more about getting a feeling of content, i.e. it feels good and natural to dress up. However, I do have noticed that I have different emotional and sexual feelings and fantasies when I'm dressed as male vs en femme. So probably a little bit of both ...
:iagree: It started sexual when an ex left some clothes behind, but now
with my own clothes it just feels right and evolving each day. Started
with a thong, now I need another closet!
Wow. this thread really has touched a chord with many of us. Me too.
At first as an early teen it was very sexual and directed toward the look and feel of the clothing. For me too it has gradually evolved. There is still a sexual aspect to it (espceially if I havent dressed in a while) but now it is more about exploring my feminine side, feminine behaviour, working on my body etc.It is less about the actual clothing now and much less about any "sexual" satisfaction. It's personal satisfaction by being myself....Dee
For me when I started it was for fun, then as I got older it had a sexual satisfaction to it, now I dress for fun, comfort and because I love feeling femine. I have no desire to have sex with a man though I will not turn my wife down if she wants to have sex with me as her girlfriend, LOL.
This morning while driving to work, I remembered when I was a teenager and I slipped on my mom's nightgown and panties while my folks were away for the weekend. I remember what a sexual charge I got out of it, it felt like I crossed the great divide and into new territory. There was such a sense of mystery, taboo-ness, and sensualness from feeling sheer nylon tricot & silk.
Now there seems to be less or no sexual thrill, not that I can't make it so, but it has become more my personal style and an embodiment of who I am and want to be. Now I wear what I like because I like it. Every time I take my shoes & socks off, and I notice my toenails are magenta, I say to my self "oh, how cute!", then I somehow completely forget about it. There's no sexual charge there, it's just "hey, I like it".
I love watching women shop. They seem so unbound and free, and go wherever their impulses lead them. Even when they're shopping to impress people with their outfits, they indulge and immerse themselves for their own satisfaction. That's how I want to be.
My first memory of dressing is from when I was 4 years old, at that time there was nothing sexual about it. Wearing my Grandmother's pantyhose was simply something that I felt I wanted to do.
As I grew older, the urges were still there. I simply wanted to wear anything I could get my hands on at the time. It progressed to the point of painting my toes for the very first time when I was 13 years old or so, and later experimenting with make-up. Confusing things even further was discovering my interest in dating girls. However, something in the back of my mind was telling me that instead of wanting to date the pretty girls, I maybe secretly wanted to be them. Confounding things even further was discovering copies of Penthouse and Playboy that my Dad had hidden in his dresser drawers. Wow! I went out fully dressed for the first time when I was 17.
Coming of age in my late 20s allowed me to explore the sexual side of crossdressing. Since my Mom's DNA seems to have dominated, I definitely had the edge in passing rather well. Long story short, I actually had the prescription for HRT in my hands and filled -- I tossed them after a moment of clarity where I realized that I didn't want to live to a ripe old age as a transgendered woman.
For me, there was a definite sexual motivation and thrill to dressing. We all have our reasons for doing what we do, the inner peace of mind comes from being able to balance the fantasy with the reality.
Patti
It started as a sexual thing for me but now a few years later sex has little to do with it. I just enjoy being dressed as a woman when the opportunity is available (like right now). All the little things seem to add up to one very enjoyable experience. I have given up trying to understand why, just enjoy the time I get.
To me I like wearing because I feel good wearing the clothes..
For me it started too young for it to be sexual. Have to admit wearing the clothes, sexy underwear and makeup does get it going though. Lucky for me I have a support spouse.
In my mind there is a very sexual component to it!
I look at my wife with extreme desire, so I want to look in the mirror same!!
As Christine has matured I do see a better thing in the mirror and acceptance at home has helped.
I too was 9 when I first cross dressed. I asked my mom if I could go out as a girl for halloween! I have forever wished it was not just a halloween trick! I guess for me Hallowwen comes many times a year now :heehee:
Dressing isn't sexual for me. I mean yeah I have sex dressed but that's not why. Being dressed like a girl is more comfortable and, to me, more appropriate. And even with sex it just feels like I'm in the correct position.
Yes, definitely sexual for me in a wonderful and profound way.
In fact, in my early crossdressing years I would have never
imagined that dressing up could not involve a sexual aspect to it.
The arousal and drive was simply overwhelming and powerful.
Interestingly, though, as the years go on, the sexual component
remains but is not the sole and inevitable focus of my crossdressing.
Now, I crossdress occasionally due to the need for sexual arousal
and many times just for the wonderful feelings of calm, exploration
and transformation.
What a long strange trip, indeed.
To me I was pushed into it when I was young 10.My older sister had no friends and I played with her Alot.When time came that she got I just carried on.I Like it alot but been working all the time i Just dont get to do Anything.
I believe the two are one and the same. I feel very much the same way about CDing - it definitely gets me sexually stimulated by making me feel more like a woman and getting my closer in touch with my inner womanly self. It is the inner woman expressing herself and asking to be set free. I am always wearing lingerie, day and night, both under my menswear when in public, and with make-up, heels, and pretty girly things at night in the privacy of my room.
I think you should continue exploring this female side of yourself by letting her express herself as freely as she pleases.
When I started cross dressing it was almost purely a sexual, forbidden fruit sort of thing. Now it is less this and more about the clothes, comfort and being a girl.