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Last weekend we went for a drive to a small town in the country where they have nice shops and restaurants. Its about a one hour drive from home. On the way there i was telling my wife about how many people are crossdressers and i dont see any. Well we arrive there i take 2 steps out of the car and i see this six foot five inch woman, wearing a very short skirt and high heels. As i was walking closer to her i realized it was a crossdresser. I didnt know what to do, i wanted to say something like,good for you, or you look great,or look iam wearing a bra and pantyhose too iam like you. Instead i chose to respect her privacy. I didnt even want to stare to much not to make her feel uncomfortable. My wife had noticed that her partner was a cder also, i didnt notice because i was looking at all the bags in her hand from all the cloth shopping she did. I dont know what to say or do when i see another cder, its a tough call.
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If I were the CD'er seen at the gas station and referred to as "the feral cd" and happened to be on this board and read the post I would be very upset. We dislike being labeled because of our CD activities yet one of our own labels a sister. That is sad.
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Well, maybe. I don't know. I saw a CD leaving my local grocery store last week. Funny, I have only seen persons whom I know are crossdressed in public a few times. Either they pass well, I just don't notice, or there aren't that many. This gal was kind of obvious, though. She was wearing a pink floral dress in that old style awful polyester, and wore her antiquated purse hung over her forearm, like your grandmother would do. She was walking with a woman, and neither was saying anything. They got in a car (the GG drove), and drove off. I felt something akin to pity for both of them for some reason.
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I just want to let folks know that I wasn't using the term "feral" in a negative manner. I was just referring to someone who has managed to escape the closet and get out. It's possible I sounded judgemental about her choice of a short black dress and heels at noon, but since I was wearing jeans, an aloha shirt and hiking boots, I was probably more jealous than anything else. She had more courage than me and I think my fear of talking to her reflected two things; first, I didn't want to make her circumspect about getting out and second, I would have outted myself as well. I guess I need to decide to make a bit more of an effort to not just talk the talk, but to walk the walk as well.
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Feral ???? it must mean something different over the other side of the pond.
Feral over here means wild beast, not domesticated or cultivated ... used usually a pejorative adjective.
As for interaction - well I don't talk to everyone I see. I smile a lot (women smile so much more than men) when I make eye contact. I may say a greeting "Good morning" etc.
But this is an oft repeated question here ... there is no "right" answer. Follow your usual behaviours I suggest, regardless of gender presentation. I present 24/7. Personally I don't want need all and sundry thinking it is an invitation to start a conversation. Just treat me "normally".
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[QUOTE=Mirani;2281254]Feral ???? it must mean something different over the other side of the pond.
Feral over here means wild beast, not domesticated or cultivated ... used usually a pejorative adjective.
It means the same thing over here is why I had a problem with the description.
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It seems to me that words have a much broader meaning nowadays so we must assume the OP did not intend to offend anyone.
Anyway, I spotted a local transgender person (MtoF) and her female partner earlier and decided to speak to them, I started with "excuse me, have you got a moment", they stopped to speak so I continued "I hope you don't mind but I spotted you in the village and I just had to say hello to you both", no adverse reaction yet so I continued "I have also seen you both at a meeting in Llandudno, about two weeks ago, in the evening. Allow me to introduce myself....." etc. Well what can I say, they were so pleased I made the effort to introduce myself and they will be in my shop very soon, no doubt because they now know it's CD/TS/TG (whatever) friendly
