Facial Hair When Dressed in Public

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Originally Posted by Amelie

As far as saying one should be laughed at if they are different from the mainstream, is totally ridiculous. Let's say straight conservitive type people come into my neighborhood, dressed in their conservitive clothes. Can they be laughed at because they look totally different from all the other people in the neighborhood? Maybe in your area, people are laughed at bacause they are different, but not in my area. This just makes me so glad that I don't live in the stupid areas of this country.

As far as saying if one can't take the heat then stay out of the kitchen is totally wrong. If you read the posts on this forum, most CDs can't stop themselves from dressing. For most, this is not a hobby, it is a life-style that they need to fullfill. CDing is not something that can easily be given up, even if there are idiots in the world.

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You need to read my posts MORE CLOSELY. I NEVER said that someone SHOULD be laughed at. I SAID that if a person deliberately dressed like a clown or freak in a public venue, they WILL be laughed at. Im not saying that it is "right" its just a fact of life.

I also NEVER implied that a person Should NOT be "different" IFthey wanted to be---only that they should KNOW to expect ridicule as part of the price they pay for looking "odd". I am refering to people who DO KNOW BETTER and who CAN help themselves.----like the guy who dresses as a "bearded lady" in public---or even a non-CD thing like a Circus Clown. ( Are we to tell society not to laugh at a clown?) I DO NOT refer to people who are mentally retarded or physically handicapped who CANT help what they look like.---Sure, we shouldnt ridicule them.

Yes there are CD's who cant help themself---but I DO give them credit for knowing the difference between looking like a more or less "normal" woman and a sideshow freak---i mean, people PAY to see such things at carnivals. The Bearded CD has a choice whether to wear the beard or not, not like he has one arm or something.---And i support his right to WEAR his beard and CD if he wants to---Only he MUST know if he makes that choice, he WILL be laughed at.--if he can take it---more power to him, but I dont think he has any grounds to complain IF he IS laughed at---what does he expect?

Getting back to handicapped people that cant help their appearence. Its not generally something the public laughs at, like a clown for example. But what if he went around actually waving his stumps in peoples noses and saying --"hey look at me . Im different, Im handicapped"? Handicapped or not, the guy would be considered very 'rude", and treated accordinly.----So as it is with SOME deliberate "freaks" (who CAN help themselves) SOMETIMES they are percievied as not only being just freaks but FLAUNTING it.----which is yet another reason they might earn scorn or ridicule---as being deliberate provocateers---They KNOW how the public will behave to them also.

Of course, US CDs HERE are more tolerant than the general public. WE are NOT the general public, but we know what disturbs them and how they react to certian things.----We DO have choices and rights but Id like to think, that given our knowledge of general society we exercise those rights with discression. I know what wil happen if I jump off a roof, but I still have the right to do so--and if i can take the shock of landing on the ground, well and good, thats the price i pay for indulging in my jumping habbit--I expect to pay that price, and it may be worth it for me. But if I cant take the impact or dont want to experience it--I also have the choice NOT to jump.---one can't change human nature any more than one can change the law of gravity--so we shouldnt bother.---only use our own judgement.

Sometimes I don't feel like covering what little facial hair I do have. I believe that it depends on the individual and how they identify. If it's coming from a person who is attempting to make a mockery of transgenderism and doesn't identify as anything other than what they presenting, then they should be punished. If this is coming from an individual who could clearly pass, but chooses to blend characteristics from both genders, then I say go for it.

I do it occasionally to to instill a questioning of society's gender expectation in the minds of those present. Think for yourself and question the authority of gender and society. Attempt to blend in with whatever gender you like, but chances are, in the end you will be read as male somehow. Might as well do whatever you like and have fun, within reason of course. Mix it up.


Charlie