Quite a few times and I'll never do it again. It gets expensive. Billie Jean
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Quite a few times and I'll never do it again. It gets expensive. Billie Jean
Purge free for XX years! (a girl isn't suppose to tell!)
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Originally Posted by kylebball2006
Better yet..
Ever thrown out all your femme things an NOT REGRETTED IT??????
Didn't think so...
My life is pretty hectic and sometimes I think of purging not because of guilt but mostly just getting on with my life. Sometimes I think i will be fine without being a CD and so I think of purging. I have some stressful situations in life going on and I cannot afford to drift apart too much.We'll see!!!
More than once. Now a days that will never happen again
Purged once about ten years ago when I got embarrassed and ashamed I couldn't control my urges. Purged again about seven years ago when I was getting divorced (again) and was afraid that if the future ex-Mrs. Starr got hold of something it would cost me more money in spousal support than what it would cost to replace the clothes, et cetera. I lost one really beautiful wig in that episode, that I still cry about, and a really sexy mesh see-through body suit, too. The dresses and jeans were mostly thrift store and EBay second hand stuff, but the shoes, oh my Goodness, the shoes! $$$$$$$
Have finally adjusted to who I am, what I am, and have quit trying to analyze why.
still new to this and ive done it 4 times already!
Purged twice. Then about a year ago I was dumping everything until my wife talked me out of the craziness.
Yes I did it twice but still the woman in me fought to live. Cindy.
Never thrown them out and so never had the regret because I know I would for sure
Purging - its one of those things that we go through, due to guilt, fear...thinking that we'll "cure' ourselves or due to the demands of our spouses. It can be quite an expensive reality pill to swallow at times when we realize that it seldom works. I've done it three times so far. I estimate the last time was several thousand dollars into the dumpster. The urge comes back despite my love for my wife (who doesn't tolerate).
Next time, try a storage rental place for a "trial" purge.
Did it once, and will never do it again.
Too expensive $$$.
Even if the stuff just sits there between periods of time is better than starting all over again.
Did some purges a couple of times back and always srtuggled to get back at some point. So now I just put it away. Not like we can live in a world where there would be no girly things to intice us so might as well not blame the things when I feel the urge. I have to look in the mirror and think about what and why, do and don't. Thanks Dr. Valeri and others for that knowledge about it being inside not outside of me. Never been mugged by a corset that made me wear it, but worth wishing for!
Purged! You bet! Once when a counselor advised me to stop the lying, come clean with my wife, get rid of the clothes and beg her forgiveness. Start over again. Lost a nice human hair wig. She didn't forgive me--we continued tense as usual. Then again(once I found the forgiveness was lukewarm) I didn't purge the rest of my stash.
An earlier time, before Janice knew anything at all. I had a makeover, wig style and photo shoot, in several outfits at a Glamor shots imitator. I looked so pretty. I hid the 8x10 pic in an old college textbook. Later I threw out the pic--thinking, "Why save this picture, it can only be a liability." I wish I had a 15 years younger pic now. Sigh.
I have purged several times over the years, in every case it was because I found what I thought at the time was my true love. In the end, it cost a lot of money to start over so I won't do that again. :)
Who hasn't? Several times over many years......really silly when I think about it.......:doh:
I threw away my first pair of high heels because I did not think to store them in my car.
Of course, I wish I had them back. :(
Oh but of course. I've lost count of the times I've amassed a collection only to throw it all away whilst on a guilt trip thinking that I could 'cure' myself. Needless to say, I never did and never have and the collections just begin again...
3 or 4 times have done this. Yes i regret it because when you find something that looks pretty and fits right you hate to part with it. I had these knee length black high heel boots is the biggest thing i regret throwing away. Had too my wife was snooping around trying to find my stash. If she found them she would of did it for me. She found my purple dress and forms and threw them away. She is not tolerate of this behavior especially at the beginning. She has made some very small baby steps in letting me wear a night gown to bed, I had to settle on a cotton night gown. I want a strappy night gown that is satin then I woulkd be happy. I want to show off my cleavage.
Wasn't it Mark Twain who said "Quitting [smoking, in this case] is easy -- I've done it hundreds of times". I used to purge when the guilt feelings overcame me. Now I accept it fully (:cheer:). Like others have said, when I think about the amount of $$ I threw out, I realize how silly it was. Well, maybe not. Some of the stuff I bought when I started was pretty trashy, and I wouldn't have gone out and about with it even if I had the nerve. Now I accept that they are my clothes, and I'm much more choosy about what I buy and wear -- and the only time anything goes is if it is worn out or out of style. (Just like a woman!)
I've purged more times than I can remember. Thankfully, I've matured to the point that I realize that is not a solution. I have accepted this part of my life and will never do it again. I still miss a powder blue dress I tossed 5 years ago. It's gone forever.:sad:
Yes, a few times, had a black dress that could have been made for me, plus many other things I loved, all gone.
When I was a novice cross-dresser I tossed ONE dress. My wife was away for a month visiting her family during the summer. I bought a dress and wore it in the apartment. No bra, panty or slip-just the dress and stockings and garter belt. The garter belt and stockings she had bought me. At that time she and I really did not know what a cross-dresser was. Before she came home I tossed the dress. I think the purge was out of disgust for my perceived sexuality. Back in the early 1970's cross-dressers=homosexuals. Now I know better, and, would NEVER toss out my feminine clothing. Now the only garments or shoes I toss are those that are worn out or do not fit.
Before I accepted my need to dress in feminine things, I purged a number of times. No more! It's way too expensive to replace everything.
I've thrown away a few early items, but then they were cheap and didn't fit well, so no regrets.
But thankfully I haven't had a purge proper. Might as well face facts, my crossdressing may wax and wane, but it won't go away, and why should I want it to?
I've 'thinned the herd' a few times, reducing my inventory by a few dresses or shoes I rarely wore, but only one time did I truly purge. That was the day after my wife of (at the time) 17 yrs discovered my stash and was dumbstruck/angry/upset/ etc. I showed her that she came first in my life and threw away everything but my pantyhose. The pantyhose were part of our compromise...she could handle me wearing pantyhose, but she couldn't handle me dressing completely. I was actually OK with that situation for a few years, then the urge came back. I started acquiring a dress here, a skirt here, and now have a small wardrobe that she doesn't know about. I feel terrible dressing behind her back again, but she just can't understand why I that ingrained desire won't go away. But that's a whole 'nother discussion!
My biggest regret from that purge? a lovely pair of leather pumps that fit size 11's like a glove. I've never been able to find another pair that were so comfortable since!
I had a purge on the week end but it was all drab ! I enjoy that far more than purging any ladies clothes.I am determined to avoid purging my female wardrobe as has been done on a few occassions in the past.Yes some items need to go but mostly old make up and clothes that are are past their used by date /or unsuitable .:battingeyelashes:
Done it and regreted it several times in my life, but not anymore, I have accepted the inevitable truth
Who among us older than 50 hasn't ? It's been a LONG time but yes on several occasions, hopefully our younger TG's can learn from our idiocy. I'm seeing the new generation becoming very savvy and short cutting our mistakes, becoming more self accepting & confident at much younger ages.
I once threw away a dress that fit me perfectly, and was really hot looking..I thought I was done dressing,,WRONG..I wish i stilll had that dress...I don't care who knows anymore..I'm keeping my dresses,,,,and my nightys..
Before I went in the service I had to throw everything away. It pained me no end because I really had a lot of neat stuff then. Couldn't leave it in my parents house because it was too small and the chance of them finding everything was too great. Had to wait over three years before I could finally dress again.
I have thrown away my stuff heaps of times but not anymore
I havnt dressed for a few months now but I still have my stuff
I have purged several times in my cd life. I wish I had that black all in one smoothie and the open toed heels. I loved those things. My mom found some of my stuff when I was at home. She asked me about it but just said put it away. I purged to make her happy
More times than I care to say, now I just pack it away knowing the urge will come double or more.
I really need to go ahead and convert a spare room into a walk in closet and keep all of my feminine things in there as my feminine self has more clothes and shoes than my male self does.
I will have to add my name to the list, but that purge allowed me to focus my thoughts on my true feelings and build my life as I wish
Huggs Fiona
add me to that list, but it has been a few years now. I think it is part of the some what unnatural cycle we go through. The pleasure and excitement of dressing up then the guilt then the purge then regret. The key is to learn from it and realize that there should be no guilt and that purging won't make that thing inside go away. My tip - get a storage unit and if the urge to purge takes you, put it in a box, store it away and then you wont have to go and buy all those things away. There is nothing worse than trying to replace that outfit that you look and feel great in only to find you can't find similar
Even when I had the desire to purge, I didn't actually purge...I knew that I'd regret it, as the urge to dress would inevitably return.
More than once. Dresses, skirts, heels, hosiery, a couple of open bottom girdles I would love to have back. One item I tossed which I truly regret was a beautiful red Cato long sleeve blouse. Pleated front, shoulder pads, hidden buttons. It was exquisite. Usually wore a neutral bra and camisole under it. Matched it with a black knee length pencil skirt, off-black pantyhose and black heels. Oh how I would love to find that blouse again.
Yes, indeed. Sometimes, the hiatus is quite long (for me it was 8 years) but that old Pink Fog comes down and you get right back in there again. The reason I purged was that I was moving, and I was afraid that the box with my stuff would be placed in the wrong area, or get opened in error. I lost about 8 corsets, a dozen pairs of stockings, dozens of panties, a shoulder length wig, and other stuff, some of which was quite unique. I think I could have managed to keep the stuff somewhere else, but I wasn't thinking clearly. I won't ever do that again, though.Quote:
Originally Posted by SarahMarie42
There is only 2 reason I purge:
1. Force to by SO
2. Worn out items that I want to replace
I don't think roomate should be a problem as he has no business snooping around your things. If you accidentally left them around, so what if he found out. Is he going to throw you out or he volunteer himself out?
I purged one time (not of my own choosing) never again though will I purge.
I did it once, biggest mistake I ever made. I got rid of clothing, jewelery shoes underwear, EVERYTHING! That was the most stupid thing I ever did. Took the longest time ot replace all the items, never able to replace my favorite outfit---- one my wife bought me. One of the mistakes in Life, hope to never do it again!
well im happy to say as of now my roomates have moved out and im filling up the wardrobe pretty quick again. and the one constant thing i read here is that i cant take away the need or void i have to dress. im 26 now and while i care if people find out.....im NOT THROWING OUT ANYTHING!!! i miss some of my outfits BADLY. i had so many. female cop outfits and a lot of lingerie. over 2k of stuff. ive bought 2 sets of high quality breast forms. 400 a piece. there no FEELING like wearing breast forms. none period. We all fantastize obviously about being a woman and without forms.....while i like the clothing.....it feels empty. so next up i think im getting the new models at breastformstore.com...800 bucks a pair. REAL BREASTS link here: http://www.thebreastformstore.com/br...?cid=HomeRight and it will be the last set i buy. i want as real as i can get. anyone have reviews of these!?!?
No purges here. My mind is too logical I guess.
To me that is analogous with throwing away all your food, stove and refrigerator as a diet strategy. Or having all of your teeth extracted. :heehee:
I stick with more rational behavior and solutions to my personal issues... like smashing my fist on my keyboard when it will not cooperate...:D
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Can honestly say I've only parted (in a purging sense) with 2 pairs of panties over the years both at the VERY early stages of this... and it's kinda funny but I still wish I had them back, I suppose for sentimental reasons now that I've fully accepted and am enjoying being a CD!
Honestly I cant count the amount of stuff I have thrown out. Its been over a year since I've purged and have learned to just bag up my things and put them in my storage out back. Im getting a lot better about not throwing my things out, i can only imagine the collection I would have If i had never purged.
OMG Yes, i lost my favorite pair of F-me boots that way :(
Purges are so costly. I have found that by replacing all that I own of certain items has prevented purges. I own 1 pair of mens underwear for the off chance that I would need them. Most of my socks are women's it makes purging more physically difficult when after you purge you don't have underwear. I think that purges come more often when you are new to CDing once some level of normalty settles in you work through the purge. I still feel the purge need from time to time when it comes on I put on a less feminine pair of panties and remind myself that my true self is not the outcome of a purge but what I am when I am dressed.
I purged a couple of times before I recently accepted myself & broke out of the closet D: costly! If someone was going through a meltdown I'd recommend purging everything into storage.
I've never had the need to purge, but then I've only owned my own collection for less then 8 months and I live on my own.