Nope. I just want the same latitude in self expression that women for the most part have.
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Nope. I just want the same latitude in self expression that women for the most part have.
Hi Kathryn,Quote:
Originally Posted by Kathryn Philips
It's so weird that your description of what you want is exactly what I have been living for the last 5 years. On weekdays (day time) I am a woman and everyone in this space believes that I am a 100% woman, none of them knows that I am still a 100% male under my makeup and female clothes. On the other side, when I am not dressed as a woman, I am a 100% male and no one knows about my secrete of dressing.
However, having been a '100%' woman for 60% of my time and enjoy life as a woman, I really want to be a woman all the time but I couldn't due to family situation. I don't know what to do now but just let nature take its course...
One thing that I have always been grateful for is that I have been happy being just who I am. Yes I veer in different directions, but I am able to do that whenever I want. So, no I don't want to be a woman. I am quite happy with the self discovery I am able to go through.
Honestly, I do want to leave my current field and start hormones and get breast implant's. However the only surgery I would want "down there" is to remove the "boys". But that will never happen because even though I do "want it". I'm still comfortable where I'm at in life.
However if given the chance to do this life over again, I'd choose to be a woman in a heartbeat.
I've no great philosophy,I love my Femme side and Indulge in it as much as possible,I am happy that I get a lot of time to dress,My Wife is fully supportive and encourages me to express my Feminine side,but I have never entertained the thought (despite many ppl thru the years trying to convince me otherwise)of Transitioning.I would lose too much (wife,son etc) and thats something I would never risk
And To be Honest theres things I would miss being able to do as a guy,my Wife too is happy with the situation the way it is and I wouldn't change my life for anything
Sophie
Like so many have said, I too have no desire to go the SRS route and turn my life upside down. In many respects, I identify as TG and would not object to the idea of being born female. But I was born male and I have been blessed with a stunning family.
OH!GOD help me, Yes I really want to be
Several have mentioned this idea but here's the problem--this dialogue would never take place, you would never be a crossdresser and had you been born female, you have no idea how or what your life would have been at all, and you certainly would not be here. You might just be nancy down the street and nobody would be the wiser.Quote:
Originally Posted by Jill Devine
There is absolutely nothing that can turn a male into a female,except into the female of one's own fantasy, and as someone said, there is a great variety of interpretations about what exactly is a female. IT simply turns into a label and has no real meaning.
We all imagine a female in our mind that could be us, but that doesn't necessarily conform to reality.
There's too many existing components to my persona to resort to being one gender only.
I cannot be happy being male.
I cannot be happy being female.
So I'll be both.
gender fluid this is called...works for me. :)
right now as I feel at this moment the answer would be a definite YES. I love everything female; the clothes and everything that goes with it. In reality I know that could never happen. I am 59 years old with a 5 year son which I love so much and wife who I'm not sure wants to be with me or Not. If I was younger the answer would be a definite YES
If we're being completely unrealistic here, if there were some technological or supernatural means of switching back and forth, i'd say that there is almost a 100% chance that i'd put in some heavy time swapping back and forth.
Being a strong male father and husband and protector-provider has it's advantages. Being a nurturing, expressive, creative, caring and faithful female soulmate has it's advantages. I choose both. In fact I find that I can't be only one of these for any length of time without the desire to be the other. It would seem unsettling to be split this way but it really is the best for me.
Yes! Maybe not to transition fully, but certainly a little help with some breast enhancement, facial surgery, and throw in a few "natural curves"! Definitely want to live as a woman full time!
Hello everyoneQuote:
Originally Posted by Miranda09
As Miranda and most have said, the categoric answer is NO! (There are more horror stories about the side effects of hormones than there are good stories and then there's all the gory bits that go with SRS - does that qualify me as a wimp?) But it would be an interesting experience I guess, just for a day or two... I'm generally happy with my male self and especially some of the male things I do but I do like the fun of glamming up from time to time and trying to present as a reasonable an image as I can. I suppose it's the lovely sensuous fabrics, colours and makeup that I like best - those to which a male, according to 'normal' society, is denied...
xx Polly
Yes, I'd live 24/7 if I could support myself, and would love to get some facial feminization surgery too. SRS would be my last step, if I could afford it, but at this point in life, none of that is likely. If I ever win the lottery, I'll definitely be making some surgeons wealthier. ;)
Carol
Nope. Everything is OK the way it is.
Call me shallow, but for me it would depend on how pretty I was. I'd rather be a guy than an unattractive woman. But I'd rather be an attractive woman than a guy. I'd have to look and sound female though; no deep voice and big feet.
Honestly, I think I'd be just as happy as a girl as I would a guy. I think I'm right smack dab between genders, as I imagine many of us here are.
The only hard part would be dating guys. But I think I could do it if I were a girl, even though I consider myself a straight guy. It's weird, but even though I'm not sexually attracted to guys, I am attracted to the idea of being the girl in a male/female relationship. I'd probably date feminine guys... a lot of bisexual girls seem to end up with that type.
Good question though, really thought-provoking! :)
YES! YES! YES! If I had my life to live over again I would definately transition as young as I could. I would be much happier being what I really am inside. :daydreaming: However now at my age and family responsibilities I can't.
Vicki
:hugs:
If I woke up as a real woman in the morning it would be the best mircal ever!!!!
I have had that fantasy but I am really not sure if I would really want to be. One big reason is putting up with men. We can sometimes be a real pain in the ass. Women are always being looked at as inferior and nothing more than sex objects. I recently saw on another CD message board where a Transsexual was beaten by two teenage girls at a McDonald's and no one stood up to help her except an old retired lady and she was also hit by these girls. The TS was beaten so badly that she went into an epileptic seizure (she had epilepsy). Everyone just stood around and watched. Her only crime was trying to use the womens rest room. The poor young women had also been raped in another incident. Women always run the risk of being raped, molested and beaten. I am sorry for being such a negative person on this but we must consider the other side being a women as well as the good things. It's not all just about wearing the clothes, it's about being a women and all that that means.
All things considered I would love to live full time. If I were to hit lotto the useless thing would go away :daydreaming: but as the song says " If it wasn't for bad luck I wouldn't have any luck at all". So for now I will keep doing what I have been doing and getting through life as best as I can.
That’s a great question and not an easy one to answer.
Seeing as I am drawn to most things feminine, my answer should be yes; but at this juncture I really appreciate the ability to live in both worlds, albeit if the feminine side is known only to me.
I guess I can best sum up my feelings thus: Would I like to live my life as a woman? Absolutely! Would I like to transition? No, that’s not where I am at.
So, I guess I want to have my cake and eat it :)
Alex xxx
Nathalie, I've never heard the term "gender fluid" but I like it a lot :)
tina
No. I want to be myself. To answer the question any other way would be unrealistic since the fact remains that no matter what changes I may make to myself, no matter how realistic I might appear to others, I can never be something that I am not. No matter how much I might want to lie to myself in order to convince myself otherwise. I can only be the best representation of what I can be. Nothing more nothing less.
A person can never be truly at peace within themselves until they have come to grips with their own limitations. True that a person can live a lie and seem outwardly very comfortable doing so. But it doesn’t change the truth. A lie is still a lie no matter how cleverly the words are crafted to appear as the truth.
No, I dress because I love wearing heels and dresses, if I were to become a woman, I would lose the feeling I get when putting on a pair of heels. Being able to wear high heels, dresses, knickers and so on everyday, without worrying about being caught, wouldn't be as fun for me.
Given the chance I would hop on the operating table for SRS in a heartbeat. If I knew back in the late sixties what I know now my life would have been much different. True I wouldn't be a real woman but at least my mind would match my body and I would have the confidence to deal with all the shortcomings SRS would bring along with it.
Still, women do have more fluidity to their gender expression than men do... I love the thought of being able to wear high heeled boots one day and cargo pants the next if I felt like it. But still, SRS is too hard and then you can't have kids after it. And besides, I'd be a pretty bitchy, kind of masculine woman anyway.Quote:
Originally Posted by NathalieX66
I agree with another one of the posters here, if I knew what I know now back then, I would have dropped ol' willy and made the change. The resources for learning were too scarce and now, it's like night and day. However, seeing my biological replacements for the first time sure is a great feeling. You look into their eyes and I swear you can see God.
On the other hand, you don't know what you've got til its gone. Through out my life, I've taken for granted soo many things and when I lose them, I sure do miss them.
This isn't much of an answer, but its what I'm thinkin' at the moment...
Renne.....
No, I like being a man... but like dressing up in girl clothes
Funny, I just had a total knee replacement surgery six weeks ago. The whole time I was being wheeled into the "OR" I was thinking of wishing it was "SRS". I am married now for the second time but deep down inside I want to transition. After my surgery the thought of crossdressing or "SRS" never entered my mind. Now it's back again stronger than ever. I often wish I could experience my life as a girl growing up, with my period, proms, and first kiss. And the thought of being married and the honeymoon and having a hot night of sex pleasing my husband make me melt inside. And feeling him penetrating me makes me moan with pleasure.
So yes I would love to transition......
Robyn
I wish I had been born a woman and I don't enjoy my masculine side anymore but I'm such a health nut that I wouldn't do anthing with risky side effects. About 10 years I really thought I needed to try hormones but I've been able to keep fighting back the urge. I'd like a more feminine body but I don't hate my male organ and can't ever see having SRS.
Omg I hate my male organ and would love to fill out a one piece swimsuit without that equipment down there. Nothing like wanting to kiss a man in a wet bathing suit and feeling the warmth. Wow I am so naughty, lol
This was the truth I had to face up to before I was ready to give up the pretence of being a man and accept who I really am.Quote:
Originally Posted by dawnmarrie1961
To answer the OP's question,I don't "want to be" a woman, I am a woman and I want to be at peace with myself.
I used to think it was incongruent to want to be female, but with the condition that I be an attractive one; no longer. Pretty much all women go to great lengths to be as attractive as possible, and some make up person once said that there are no ugly women, only lazy ones. I'd be very happy to be an average young female, with the figure and all the female bone structure to make myself as pretty as possible. But becoming a middle aged collosal female with male bone structure? No thanks. Same here with my clown size feet, too. The voice thing? There's a couple of guys on youtube that teach how to alter your voice; it's not easy, but it is possible. I was curious, so I tried it; it takes a lot of practice, and it certainly doesn't feel natural when your doing it (although perhaps if you do it all day long, it gets easier) Problem is, you'll eventually 'slip' back into using your normal male voice every once in a while, and the contrast is startling.Quote:
Originally Posted by Vir Nova
oh yeah!!
my only regret is that i didn't do it 30 years ago
I don't want to be a woman except when I feel like being a woman. Then I hate to think I'm displaying any vestige of my masculinity. Likewise when I'm a guy I hate to feel that I'm showing any part of my feminine side. It feels so schizo sometimes, but I guess that's just the way I've dealt with being who I am all these years.
no..............................................
I began to have complete interest in being a women very late in life. When the "EX" discovered my clovetity we needless to say had some discussions. She asked the same question ( I had not thought of it) so I said flippantly, if I were 30 yrs younger I'd consider it. Well then and there I think the divorce had occurred. She is with me these days for helping w/cateract surgery and I am fully attired as Ms Dianne,what else can happen? Oh by the by this weekend its raining and it willbe the eighth or ninth weekend straigth of foul weather,
Lets analyze this statement for a minute. Years have passed, sure. Family obligations? Sure. "It's not financially feasible to have surgery". What? So regardless of anything else, years, family, it comes down to money? As in "forget everything else, if I had the cash, zip bang I'd have SRS tomorrow". Reassing our personal goals is something most transgendered folks need to do from time to time. I think you should take a look at yours.Quote:
Originally Posted by Annie D
Sorry if this sounds harsh, but that statement really struck me. You said a lot in your post, but you ended it with....your bank account. Of course I wish you the best no matter what =).
Oh H#ll no! For me that sounds horrible. I mean...can you Imagine? Gad! I'd never want to give up my rationality nor my...well...you know.Quote:
Originally Posted by Annie D
Would I? What do you mean..................I am a WOMAN!:gorgeous:
“Sex” refers to a person’s genitalia and secondary sex characteristics. Each individual is born with either male or female genitalia, or a combination of both. I do not wish to change my sex.
"Gender" refers to the "socially constructed" roles, behaviors, activities, and attributes that a given society considers appropriate for men and women, and therefore are naturally unrelated to biological sex. As I understand the term, I cannot change my gender.
"Gender Identity" represents a person’s core sense of being male, female, or within a continuum that exists between male and female. I like my gender identity just the way it is, androgynous, both male and female at the same time.
Great topic. Myself? No. I enjoy the man side of me as well as the CDing side of me.
To all the ladies who have had replied; I have enjoyed reading your comments and appreciate everything you have said.
Hello Crysten. I have been married over 20 years to a fine woman who accepts my crossdressing and we have a wonderful relationship concerning family and finances. I am eligible to draw social security and my wife and I have a son who is a junior in college and a daughter who will be entering college in the fall. Let me share a couple of REAL WORLD concepts:
1. At my age I pass well enough to be accepted as Annie.
2. When I am dressed I feel very feminine and satified with how I present myself.
3. I plan on retired once our kids get out of college, in 4 or 5 years.
4. Looking at the longevity of my parents, I have about 20-25 more years to go.
5. Investing $25,000 to $40,000 for SRS and taking the money out of my retirement fund is not wise or prudent and especially unfair to my wife because it is her money too.
No it doesn't boil down to my banking account; it boils down to using my retirement and measuring the cost versus reward.
I might try the voice thing at some point; thanks for the tip.Quote:
Originally Posted by sometimes_miss
To say that unattractive women are just lazy I don't think is fair though; I've seen plenty of women who looking good is effortless for, and others who couldn't be helped by anything short of radical plastic surgery. Plus, as I'm learning now, your body typically has an ideal weight it wants to be at; lose too much weight and you'll feel like you're starving 24/7. Sucks, but what can you do?
If there were no troubles with changing tio a woman, just take a magic pill and bam done.
Nope, I would still rather be the same man that I am now. I enjoy being a man, and I enjoy even more getting to wear wiomans clothes sometimes. If I had to wear them all the time, I am afraid that the enjoyment would go away.
Sometimes my mind thinks, OMG yes, and other times it says what are you nuts. / For me I think it is all about finding out how the Women live and to know those experiences. So yes and no. I would love to know and if I liked it then I could answer this question.
But truthfully, I would love to be able to switch back and forth but I suspect If I had that choice I would remain mostly female.
Keri
Gosh, this is a hard one to answer truthfully. I have put off answering till I could honestly say yay or nay, In my heart and brain I feel more inline with being female than male, just the twins let me know that my body is male. I have many mood swings and they seem to increase in frequency as the moon rises and appears at its brightest. I feel that to be a woman was what I should have been, but I was directed towards many male things that now have faded with time.
In answering this question: Yes I want to be a woman...Minus (pregnancy + Period). Would I be totally accepted by the sisterhood, no because as my mother says, you cannot give life as you have no uterus. Yes, that hurts.
I would love to live as a woman 27/7.at my age like you it wouldn't be feasible to have surgery and my wife wouldn't care for the idea at all.:hugs:
Angie
I posted a while a back ago on this thread.
My advice for every single one of you to is meet & know someone who has gone down the full route.
Make friends with them , the knowledge is well worth it.
I found my place. I like me as I am, I do not need chemical, pharmaceutical, or surgical intervention, however permanent hair removal notwithstanding. That's me and me only. Anyone can fantasize where they'd like to be, but going through the motions of transition is pretty heavy stuff. It can be done, and the results will provide happiness for the right people....i've seen it.