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Coming out is an evolutionary process for me. I only consider "outing" myself as informing those who also know my male side. Of those 4 people, i have deep regrets for having told 1, my sister. I regret it because she immediately betrayed the trust i placed in her, and for that i will likely never speak to her again.
If i count those people who only know Renee, i have no regrets whatsoever.
My story is a little different in that before I was 50, I dressed very seldom and it was only an item or two of clothing. My wife knew before we were even engaged so I never had to have that coming out. After I started going out in public we.agreed to out me to my wifes best friend. She was very accepting and gave my wife someone to talk to about any issues. Then I told my best friend. I figured that being one of the central people in our town he would know if rumors started. He thought that if what you do is not hurting anyone than its ok with him. We eventually told our grown children as they would have found out at some point. My.daughter has embraced it and has frequently gone out with me. It helps that we are the same size so we've swapped clothing back and forth. My son is a little cageyer. He says he's ok but I suspect he has his own reservations about it all.
All my wife siblings, 5 in all, know and are ok with it but concerned for my wife. Since I haven't had any negative responses I obviously have no regrets. I couldn't have remained in the closet to many people with the amount of things I do in public. Having been in the Boston Globe newspaper and on both tv and radio, someone would be bound to make the connection.
I am very happy with my results. I leave fully dressed from my home, night or day. I have a fairly full life as a women, albeit part time.
My only regret is I didn't come out sooner!
my wife found out. my only regret was that i did not tell her earlier. we went through a little bit of a tough patch when she found out. insecure about why and my orientation and if she was what i really wanted.
after a gentle period of discovery, she has learned to accept and in fact looks forward to our special evenings when myriam shows up.
i am lucky that i can share this with her without guilt.
Overall No regrets here,im sad that my relationship with my son,changed a little since he found out (his mum told him) but when I told my,now wife that I crossdressed it changed my life forever.She has supported me 100%,she told me not long after meeting Sophie that she loved me,the person not what I was wearing and I feel so lucky to be married to her:hugs:.
I am also blessed with supportive friends,I have told as many ppl as I think should find out about me and want to live my life to the fullest now,happy and content
Sophie