Is It OK to crave being with a man only when I'm dressed as a girl?

I would have sooner blown my head off (almost did) than have sex with a man as a man. That is how powerful homophobia can be. Transitioning has given me the ability to accept myself and I'm not talking about hormones, I accepted my attraction to men before I started taking hormones. I said all the same things I have heard here some of which seems to be CD mantra. I'm sure these things are true for the people saying them but they were not true for me. The fact is dressed or not my sexual fantasies as far back as I can remember consisted of me be a woman with a man (or girl with a boy when I was younger) I kinda wish I would have let my self be "gay" because now hormones have rendered me useless so while sex is fun for sure it is orgasm-less.

OH and Misty is not a CD we're not sure what she is yet : P love ya girl!

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I would have sooner blown my head off (almost did) than have sex with a man as a man. That is how powerful homophobia can be. Transitioning has given me the ability to accept myself and I'm not talking about hormones, I accepted my attraction to men before I started taking hormones. I said all the same things I have heard here some of which seems to be CD mantra. I'm sure these things are true for the people saying them but they were not true for me. The fact is dressed or not my sexual fantasies as far back as I can remember consisted of me be a woman with a man (or girl with a boy when I was younger) I kinda wish I would have let my self be "gay" because now hormones have rendered me useless so while sex is fun for sure it is orgasm-less.

OH and Misty is not a CD we're not sure what she is yet : P love ya girl!

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exactly. Couldnt have said it better baby

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Originally Posted by seanmuscle

exactly. Couldnt have said it better baby

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You can take one person's position and believe her. This is rational.

What is irrational is to take one person's position and apply it to everyone else, in just about every thread on this board that you can. I don't know if you're capable of understand this or not. It doesn't appear so. But, there is always hope. :p

To amplify on the "My two cents for what it's worth" which I posted earlier in this thread, (and 2 cents might be more than what it's worth!): When I first became intrigued by transsexuals, I was curious if I was just a Gay man trying to hide my homosexuality behind a skirt and high heels. I've never been one to hang back from doing things, so over the years I dated transvestite/transsexuals as a man, I tried man with man sex, I tried transsexual on transsexual sex, I tried myself as the male with a transssexual, and all the while I still tried to enjoy sex with gender girls. Maybe it was the people that I chose for the experiment, who knows, but I definitely found that I enjoyed being the femme bottom with guys more than being the male top or versatile with another CD/TV, more than being a gay male versatile/bottom with other gay men, and more than being either a masculine man or a sissy sub with gender girls. It didn't have anything to do with guilt, shame or homophobia. This is what feels right to me. In my case at least, I think this is 'hard-wired' in my brain, and doesn't have much to do with society or self-revulsion. The only thing that society did is keep me from the search for self-realization for 40+ years. Once I got started, the result was inevitable. One thing I'm fairly sure of is that I am not a Gay Man trying to hide my homsexual tendencies by pretending I am a woman. I am something in-between the male and female sexes, and, good/bad/indifferent I have my own life issues to address.

So, getting back to the thread question, Is It Okay to Crave Being With a Man Only When I'm Dressed as a Girl, I think that if your nature inclines you that way it is Okay as Hell!

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To amplify on the "My two cents for what it's worth" which I posted earlier in this thread, (and 2 cents might be more than what it's worth!): When I first became intrigued by transsexuals, I was curious if I was just a Gay man trying to hide my homosexuality behind a skirt and high heels. I've never been one to hang back from doing things, so over the years I dated transvestite/transsexuals as a man, I tried man with man sex, I tried transsexual on transsexual sex, I tried myself as the male with a transssexual, and all the while I still tried to enjoy sex with gender girls. Maybe it was the people that I chose for the experiment, who knows, but I definitely found that I enjoyed being the femme bottom with guys more than being the male top or versatile with another CD/TV, more than being a gay male versatile/bottom with other gay men, and more than being either a masculine man or a sissy sub with gender girls. It didn't have anything to do with guilt, shame or homophobia. This is what feels right to me. In my case at least, I think this is 'hard-wired' in my brain, and doesn't have much to do with society or self-revulsion. The only thing that society did is keep me from the search for self-realization for 40+ years. Once I got started, the result was inevitable. One thing I'm fairly sure of is that I am not a Gay Man trying to hide my homsexual tendencies by pretending I am a woman. I am something in-between the male and female sexes, and, good/bad/indifferent I have my own life issues to address.

So, getting back to the thread question, Is It Okay to Crave Being With a Man Only When I'm Dressed as a Girl, I think that if your nature inclines you that way it is Okay as Hell!

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Very inspiring story. Be proud of who you are. Do not let other CDs and gg put you down for liking men and how its just a fantasy.

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Very inspiring story. Be proud of who you are. Do not let other CDs and gg put you down for liking men and how its just a fantasy.

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Sorry Sean, but you got it wrong again. CDs don't put down other CDs for liking men. CDs who don't like men resent being told that they do like men. Can you see the difference, even just a little bit? :p

Since I'm the only GG who has posted in this thread I take it you mean me, and I also support the CDs who like men if this is their sexual preference. But, I do see the big picture too and I become impatient with anyone who comes in here insisting on painting everyone with a broad brush, like you do.

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Sorry Sean, but you got it wrong again. CDs don't put down other CDs for liking men. CDs who don't like men resent being told that they do like men. Can you see the difference, even just a little bit? :p

Since I'm the only GG who has posted in this thread I take it you mean me, and I also support the CDs who like men if this is their sexual preference. But, I do see the big picture too and I become impatient with anyone who comes in here insisting on painting everyone with a broad brush, like you do.

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Reine: I have never felt that I was disparaged by anyone on the forum, whether CD or GG, regarding sexual orientation. Sean seems to have drawn the wrong conclusion from my last post. I was merely trying to encourage Lisa to explore her motivations, take the time to get knowledge and experience, and use those resources to draw her own conclusions about who she is and where she is going. The advice of well-meaning people can be useful, but whether any bit of wisdom is applicable to a specific individual is something that can only be tested in the crucible of said individual's life.

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Sean seems to have drawn the wrong conclusion from my last post.

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I know, Starr. :hugs: I've never seen anyone put down for their sexual orientation here either, by other CDs or GGs.

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I just don't believe this voodoo about wigs and makeup changing somebody's sexual orientation.

This idea that you're only attracted to men while dressed is fallacious. You are attracted to men all of the time, but you just don't feel sexy unless you're dressed.

A straight guy would not be attracted to men no matter what he was wearing, or what you were wearing for that matter. Hetero men like women by definition. You are gay my dear and it's only a matter of time before you admit it to yourself.

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Badtranny you're my favorite person of the day. Just sayin.

-Donni-

Awww thank you Donni baby, but you really shouldn't encourage me. ;-)

Men as men, repluse me sexually. Gurls,(Men), turn me on so much. The thought of a hairy guy makes me sick. But IF I had the chance or situation,(if you will), I may condider the situation sexually. IF he treated me as a gurl/girl, I may do it or may not. YES, I would love to have sex with another CD. But this sight is not about sex, so never mind.

I've done a lot of thinking on the subject. I am attracted to women while in drab, and mostly attracted to women while in drag. I do have occassional fantasies about being with men while dressed. But only two things happen, I'm either on my knees, or having intercourse. At no time do I ever think about kissing men. Or caressing their bodies. It just doesn't do anything for me. I've even seen gay porn, and it did nothing for me. The porn that does interest me is lesbian, sissy with woman, or "once in awhile" a sissy with a man who usually has a female partner there too, a threesome. If the porn is a man and woman, I'm jealous of her not him. Somehow, my desires are always woman centered. I'm with her, or I am her. What does this say? I'm certainly not gay, I'm probably not bi. Somehow, inside me, there is a female sexual identity as well as a male sexual identity. I think with CDer's, the female comes out sexually at times. To me, it's clear that this definition is the "best fit" for crossdressers. I think you're only bi if you like men while in man mode too. If you can't cross that boundary, I don't think you can call yourself bi even if you commit a generic bi act with a man while dressed.

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I don't think you can call yourself bi even if you commit a generic bi act with a man while dressed.

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Sheesh. So you fantasize about giving a blowjob, that does not make you bi. If you actually do it, and you actually like it, then all of the philosohical contortions you can muster won't change the fact that you are indeed bisexual.

It's really quite simple. Straight men don't enjoy giving head to men. Hell, most straight guys won't even take one from another man. I realize that sexuality is complicated and there is a lot of space between straight and gay but if sexual acts with men don't make you gay, they at least make you a little bit bent wouldn't you say?

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Sheesh. So you fantasize about giving a blowjob, that does not make you bi. If you actually do it, and you actually like it, then all of the philosohical contortions you can muster won't change the fact that you are indeed bisexual.

It's really quite simple. Straight men don't enjoy giving head to men. Hell, most straight guys won't even take one from another man. I realize that sexuality is complicated and there is a lot of space between straight and gay but if sexual acts with men don't make you gay, they at least make you a little bit bent wouldn't you say?

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Bisexual means you are attracted to men. Masculine, hairy, rough, tough, angular facial structure, blah, blah. I just don't feel it. I don't understand how people can be attracted to that. But! I am, sometimes, attracted to "being a female having sex". So, I don't think you can define that the same way as bisexual. If you can make the case, I'm listening.

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If you can make the case, I'm listening.

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omfg I think I love you! ...but not in a gay way ;-)

Let's put it like this, I love meeting new guys and I'm not scared of a one night stand either. The men I am attracted to are exactly what you would describe as icky. I love big, strong, masculine guys with bad attitudes. So in that way, you and I are completely different. However, you have a lot more in common with my boyfriends, because they are only attracted to girls like me. Not hairy, Not masculine, Not big, etc.

Using your logic, than my guys are straight. Using my logic, they may identify as straight, but they ain't really straight honey. I may be adorable, (ahem) but I still have a penis and there is still only one way to "take" me. I can't imagine my men with an actual man, but physiologically, we are definitely having gay sex. Don't get me wrong, it's wonderful and I love it waaaaaaaaay more than sex with a woman but I'm not nearly delusional enough to believe that the way I feel in my heart has anything to do with the attraction that some men have to feminine men.

You and my BF can have beers and talk about the latest tranny that you bagged and you can convince yourselves that you're straight, but you will never convince me because I know I don't have a Va JJ and I know that you know it too.

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omfg I think I love you! ...but not in a gay way ;-)

Let's put it like this, I love meeting new guys and I'm not scared of a one night stand either. The men I am attracted to are exactly what you would describe as icky. I love big, strong, masculine guys with bad attitudes. So in that way, you and I are completely different. However, you have a lot more in common with my boyfriends, because they are only attracted to girls like me. Not hairy, Not masculine, Not big, etc.

Using your logic, than my guys are straight. Using my logic, they may identify as straight, but they ain't really straight honey. I may be adorable, (ahem) but I still have a penis and there is still only one way to "take" me. I can't imagine my men with an actual man, but physiologically, we are definitely having gay sex. Don't get me wrong, it's wonderful and I love it waaaaaaaaay more than sex with a woman but I'm not nearly delusional enough to believe that the way I feel in my heart has anything to do with the attraction that some men have to feminine men.

You and my BF can have beers and talk about the latest tranny that you bagged and you can convince yourselves that you're straight, but you will never convince me because I know I don't have a Va JJ and I know that you know it too.

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OMFG i think i love you more than you love AmandaM! The only thing I will add is that Badtranny speaks from experience where as many here are speaking from theory or simply trying to explain the thoughts in their head. Go out and give it a whirl and wether you like it or not you will then know for sure. to bring it back to the OP the point is why have shame about what you like sexually or even think you might like sexually? I don't think we were designed to hate our selves though external influences can certainly lead us there.

Well, Badtranny (Melissa) & AmandaM I've got to say that I love you both for speaking about this so honestly. Missy, you're telling it like it is physiologically, and Amanda you're relating more to your mind's perceptions.

Amanda, I'd like to make a suggestion for you to either consider, or throw away. It's just a question, really. Based on the idea that you've figuratively split up your personas between male and female modes, is there a possibility you've done the same to the men you might be possibly attracted to while dressed? You've created a division in your mind between the macho men, and the more feminine (dressed) men to the point where you do see them as two different genders, and this is why being attracted to a CD (if you or others like you ever feel an attraction to CDs) doesn't feel the same as being attracted to a macho guy?

Back to the macho guys, I also do see a big difference between, as you say, wanting to "be a female having sex" and actually being attracted to a guy in the same way you would be attracted to a woman. A macho male's masculinity would put your own femininity while dressed in much greater contrast than would a genetic female. You do want to feel as feminine as you can when you are dressed, so what better way than to fantasize being with macho men, but since you're not attracted to them, you can only fantasize the actual sex act? In other words, the fantasy is all about you and not at all about them or any attraction to them.

I don't know if the term "autogynephilia" rankles you or not. Certainly the way that Blanchard uses it doesn't fit here, but if you take it as purely the love of oneself as a woman, does it makes sense that a straight autogynephilic would be willing to allow fantasies about men only for the purpose of enhancing her own feelings of being a woman? Just a thought.

I think it's possible that my motivation is validation as a female. For the record, I tried gay sex once at 21, didn't do much for me. Haven't done it since. I don't really think about it or desire it. I don't check out men and I am not attracted to them in general. But thinking about sex as a woman, yes, I think about that. Not with any specific male, more of a general thought. If I see a man and woman making love, I do want to be her, to experience what she is experiencing, but who she is with doesn't really enter my thought process. It's almost like the man doesn't matter, only she matters. I don't know why I feel that way. Sometimes I think it's strange.

A very interesting forum, and thank you ReineD for your insight. I like a man complimenting and flirting with me when dressed.
I too am a lifetime homophobe, and am repulsed by men on men sex. I also am a lifetime crossdresser who used to dress as a teen when my mother was out. I do a lot of computer enhanced photos (It's me, but I wish I could look this good) It has not been easy repressing my desire, and has caused much havoc in my life. If I were to go out dressed, and a man would come on to me, I would probably melt. This has never happened, but after the agony of my failed marriage, I can't say it never will. It is good that we search for answers, and try and understand ourselves in what is a perilous journey for many.

When I'm dressed up, I definitely fantasize about being used as a sex object by a man, but for me I'd want it to be another crossdressing man. Preferably a passable one.

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Sheesh. So you fantasize about giving a blowjob, that does not make you bi. If you actually do it, and you actually like it, then all of the philosohical contortions you can muster won't change the fact that you are indeed bisexual.

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There's a difference between a fantasy and the desire to act on it, though. But if you're a man who is sexually attracted to and does, or would want to do, sexual things with another man, as well as being sexually attracted to women, then sure, you're some degree of bisexual.

I'm not attracted to men, though I am attracted to some people outside the binary who would identify as transmasculine, and I also don't get feeling like a completely different person because of the clothes one puts on, so this isn't really my thread. Bye!

I'll wear my shortest skirt, a thong, and the highest heels that I have if I could go out on a date with a man who knew what the circumstances were, and wanted to "take me" like I've never been taken before.

yes darling, its ok for you to crave being with a guy while dressed--you have My permission :)

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It's okay as long as you don't pick up the soap if you drop it! LMAO!!!!

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Chuckle.......

Old Navy buddy of mine said he NEVER took a shower with a box of Tide. If he dropped his soap, it took him way too long bent over trying to pick it up............:eek:

Perfectly ok. Being able to make a man feel for you and "fall" for you is great. it shows your success as a female.

I love all aspects of being a girl, so yes, I really love being with a sexy man when I'm dressed as a girl!

This is a very confusing issue for me. When I'm dressed en femme, looking at the posts on this site and I see a picture of one of the girls who look very feminine and pretty, I feel an urge to be with them, kiss them, hold them, and more, even though I know it is really a male I'm looking at. When in male-mode I am totally hetero, but to me, having intimate moments with one of the pretty girls in some of the threads here, would be more of a lesbian experience, just with male equipment. Does that make any sense at all?

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This is a very confusing issue for me. When I'm dressed en femme, looking at the posts on this site and I see a picture of one of the girls who look very feminine and pretty, I feel an urge to be with them, kiss them, hold them, and more, even though I know it is really a male I'm looking at. When in male-mode I am totally hetero, but to me, having intimate moments with one of the pretty girls in some of the threads here, would be more of a lesbian experience, just with male equipment. Does that make any sense at all?

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Of course that makes sense. Your sexual preference is for a female partner. Your experience with gender issues has mad you open-minded enough to realize that gender is far more than a person's body parts. Personally, I don't really understand why any hetero male would care whether their hot female girlfriend has a penis, unless she insisted you interact with it. If you do have fun with a girlfriends penis, it still does not necessarily mean you are not heterosexual. I don't think it even means you are heteroflexible, if you think of her as a female the whole time.

People just need to stop worrying whether their feelings are OK. Part of being human is that our higher intellect leads to lots of interesting things. There are always others with similar feelings, also wondering if those feelings are weird. Don't panic, just enjoy life. (Well, unless you find yourself with feelings that really are wrong, like pedophilia. Then you should panic and get help.)

"Is It Okay to Crave Being With a Man Only When I'm Dressed as a Girl...? " - of course!

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Personally, I don't really understand why any hetero male would care whether their hot female girlfriend has a penis, unless she insisted you interact with it. If you do have fun with a girlfriends penis, it still does not necessarily mean you are not heterosexual. I don't think it even means you are heteroflexible, if you think of her as a female the whole time.

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I understand where you're coming from if you experience an internal blend of genders. But please know that your views are specific to you and others for whom the gender lines blur. There's nothing wrong with this, but heterosexual men and women do not look at it the way you do.

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I understand where you're coming from if you experience an internal blend of genders. But please know that your views are specific to you and others for whom the gender lines blur. There's nothing wrong with this, but heterosexual men and women do not look at it the way you do.

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Even some gays view it the same as straights. If there's a penis, you must be bi or gay. They like to say you are gay or bi unless you identify as TS. Then, oh, you're straight, just with the wrong body. Whereas, a CDer is always gay or bi if they have these fantasies. I asked myself what it is that could possibly make me have these fantasies. The only answer I can come up with is that I do have some TS tendencies and this might be the cause. I might be a non-op or pre-op TS, though I'm not acting on it. I am not just a CDer. I have a strong female identity inside me too. Basically, I feel female more than I feel male. All I can think of is this. That inside me, as well as a partial female identity, I also have a partial female sex drive. I do not know if this "female sex drive" comes from some latent bi/gay-ness, latent TS'ism, or latent TV-fetishism, or a combination of any or all of those. I don't know if I became a TS, that'd I'd switch to guys. So, it's seriously more complicated that just straight, bi, or gay. I wish someone could measure it so I could understand it.

^ Amanda, you do have every right to identify yourself as you wish. If you feel you are a woman, and you are attracted to men, then it makes sense you would think of yourself as hetero. Maybe one day you will be able to make the changes you wish, in order to fulfill your dreams.

In my prior post I was commenting on Juno's statement that a "hetero male" would still be hetero even if he is attracted to a CD (who has a penis). I was pointing out that hetero males wouldn't think this way.

When dressing up, being with a guy does cross my mind. In my mind, the role of female also assumes the person who is the receiver. That act alone perks my interest. But other than the one purely sexual act, not really.

If I were a gal, I swear I'd be a lesbian, there's just something about femininity that is so wonderful. I look at Kimberly Reed and dream about what life would have been if I changed over in my late teens/early 20's, like she changed her life. I wonder what her partner looks like.

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^ Amanda, you do have every right to identify yourself as you wish. If you feel you are a woman, and you are attracted to men, then it makes sense you would think of yourself as hetero. Maybe one day you will be able to make the changes you wish, in order to fulfill your dreams.

In my prior post I was commenting on Juno's statement that a "hetero male" would still be hetero even if he is attracted to a CD (who has a penis). I was pointing out that hetero males wouldn't think this way.

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Renne since you love a man that crossdresses it means you have bi tendencies. Go poll straight women and you will find they prefer strong masculine men and would leave their husband if he was a CD. Hetero men can like a CD and be straight because they are not interested in the penis. They are interested in her femininity and treating her just like any other girl in the bedroom.

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Absolutely not true! I can't say this emphatically enough and I think this is a fallacy that is promoted among admirers and the CDs who do not have good marriages, to tell you the truth. Some women might like the apish sort, but most women do appreciate a tender, sensitive husband who is able to listen to them. They make the best long term partners.

It would drive me crazy if I were married to a beer guzzling, knuckle dragging guy who spends his time drinking with his buddies and watching sports. B-O-R-I-N-G! lol

Also, a man doesn't have to be a CD in order to have all the qualities that CDs have. There are tons of sensitive, intelligent men out there.

If a GG does not like the CDing, it is because she understands very little about it and she initially thinks of it just like the rest of society .. a perversion. There are lots of GGs who freak out when they first find out but then accept it after a learning period, IF there is communication in the marriage and no other issues, like broken trust.

Another thing that I think you should know Sean, and the reason GGs who are not attracted to genetic women are not bi .... ([SIZE="1"]CDs are not really women, not if they enjoy having sex with their male bits[/SIZE]). lol

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Excuse me but what ? While i agree with you most women would be turned away from a man who crossdresses but saying women prefer a " strong masculine man " is simply untrue . Especially in today's society where guys like Robert Patinson is considered a sex symbol .

Also coming from someone who would be considered the "strong masculine man " . Unless the relationship is purely physical , women prefer it when your more feminine attributes come out .

I feel the bi-when-dressed theory describes me. It's amazing how quickly the "need" takes over my brain lol

I have always felt that way also, curious of what's like to be with a man as a girl, fully dressed up. Don't think I'll ever find out though, I don't have the guts to go through with it, But I fantasize a lot.

This thread has been incredibly interesting to read. So many ideas, perceptions, feelings, convictions, etc. WOW! Thanks to everyone of you.

My personal $.02?? Sex, in and of itself is pretty straight forward. I don't think there is any question about what 'sex' is. Gender, sexuality and attraction, however, are completely different and extremely complicated subjects and no one brush can paint all individuals the same color, regardless of what their plumbing does or does not look or function like.

I believe it's possible to be attracted to and possibly even love another person regardless of their physiological make up. After all, isn't it the PERSON THEMSELF that we are attracted to?? Those certain qualities that we find just so compelling that they cannot be denied??

My only lovers have always been genetic females, but that does not preclude the potential for others. I've always been very picky about my relationships with genetic females and I'm sure it would be so across the gender line.

I feel that the bigger issue here is how we feel and treat ourselves as well as others. Just sayin'.

It is so very natural. It just brings the inner woman in you that takes over. Many think that it is gay but it is so not! You would also be surprised how many straight men are attracted to sexy CD's. I peronally have been with a man that is 100% straight but is very into hot CD's. And yes, it does make me feel like a real woman and it is fabulous to have sex like one - in a little dress and heels on! By the way, you look very hot!

It makes sense to my KrystalA.

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This thread has been incredibly interesting to read. So many ideas, perceptions, feelings, convictions, etc. WOW! Thanks to everyone of you.

My personal $.02?? Sex, in and of itself is pretty straight forward. I don't think there is any question about what 'sex' is. Gender, sexuality and attraction, however, are completely different and extremely complicated subjects and no one brush can paint all individuals the same color, regardless of what their plumbing does or does not look or function like.

I believe it's possible to be attracted to and possibly even love another person regardless of their physiological make up. After all, isn't it the PERSON THEMSELF that we are attracted to?? Those certain qualities that we find just so compelling that they cannot be denied??

My only lovers have always been genetic females, but that does not preclude the potential for others. I've always been very picky about my relationships with genetic females and I'm sure it would be so across the gender line.

I feel that the bigger issue here is how we feel and treat ourselves as well as others. Just sayin'.

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I totally agree Caithlyn

[SIZE="4"]Lisa, nothing is as thrilling for me as being with a guy while being Susan....[/SIZE]

I find it very interesting that the posts about this subject are always the ones that get the most responses. Most of the ladies on this forum swear that they are not attracted to men when dressed but I think the opposite is true. I personally am attracted to men dressed or not and when involved in that situation I feel perfectly normal.

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I find it very interesting that the posts about this subject are always the ones that get the most responses. Most of the ladies on this forum swear that they are not attracted to men when dressed but I think the opposite is true. I personally am attracted to men dressed or not and when involved in that situation I feel perfectly normal.

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I agree with you Marla, I've always wanted to say this very same thing on here, but thought it best not to say it, but hey Marla, I'm with you on this. Some crossdressers say they are hetro for they are a woman inside and so to be with a guy they call themselves hetro. It is a very delicate subject to ever talk about on this site or any site fthat matter, for typed words most times, get twisted around.
Love & Respect to all........................Tara

I also agree with Maria and Tara. Infact I said it once before and got replies not so good. I do think that a lot of the girls may have a SO that read their replys. I think if able to be really anonymous it might be different. I see how so many girls dress here to go out or clubs and it is not casual but is sexy. I know it is not everyone here that does, so you don't have to message me to say you do not. But if you go to photo library I think you will see what I mean to say. I also agree with Tara it is a touchy subject. It's just my opinion, I am new here and do not wish to offend anyone. Thanks ....... Sara

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^ Amanda, you do have every right to identify yourself as you wish. If you feel you are a woman, and you are attracted to men, then it makes sense you would think of yourself as hetero. Maybe one day you will be able to make the changes you wish, in order to fulfill your dreams.

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It's tough because it's still a point of confusion for me. I have on and off TS feelings. I don't want to risk family and career for something I'm not sure about. Anyway, I'm glad this conversation has happened so I know I'm not alone with my feelings. :)

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Originally Posted by NV Susan

[SIZE="4"]nothing is as thrilling for me as being with a guy while being Susan....[/SIZE]

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This has been stated a lot. Can we call this the ultimate in TV-fetishism? Should we call the end result just gay sex? Can we call it validation for an internal TS identity? Phew, I'd like to be the genius that figures out the cause of why CD people have sex with men. Nobel prize in medicine. LOL.

sexuality and how it's perceived is different with everyone. there isn't any other answer sometimes, except that what floats your boat, floats your boat.

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Originally Posted by seanmuscle

Renne since you love a man that crossdresses it means you have bi tendencies. Go poll straight women and you will find they prefer strong masculine men and would leave their husband if he was a CD. Hetero men can like a CD and be straight because they are not interested in the penis. They are interested in her femininity and treating her just like any other girl in the bedroom.

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The more you post, the more I'm convinced you're just trolling.