Yes! And I am still amazed at how nice and how normal most of the TG people I have met are!Quote:
Originally Posted by Kaitlyn Michele
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Yes! And I am still amazed at how nice and how normal most of the TG people I have met are!Quote:
Originally Posted by Kaitlyn Michele
I would love to have other cd girls as friends here where I live. I am new to this going out idea, and it would be nice to have a friend to share it with. Going out is much more fun going with a friend or two, or three, than going alone.
While on one hand i'd be happy to keep it as my own private hobby on the other....honestly i'd enjoy to hang out with a understanding GG or cd. i'm rather timid and alone and like someone to just learn from.
This is something that I really want to do. It would be so much fun. I went out a few times a a while back. Damn, it was so much fun!!!!
The problem is, Stephanie, I believe we all have those "friends" who share our interest. But speaking for myself I don't have any friend who share this specific and secret way of life. I think it's bigger than any hobby I've ever had yet it's hard to meet any like minded people. I have plenty of friends who are into the hobbies that I like and we talk all about our hobbies, this is true for everyone and I think comes by default! It's just sad to easily find friends who can relate to you with your, say, music hobby but not with your Crossdressing/Transvestite way of life. Which I believe takes a greater part of myself and my life than any hobby.Quote:
Originally Posted by Stephanie47
It gets even harder when where you live, by law, you are to be sent to prison for just being en-femme :(
I don't feel a need to hang out with other CDs but it would be nice to sit and talk now and then. I only had actual face time with one other CD. It was at his house and as my wardrobe is limited
he let me try on some of his extensive treasure trove of clothing. Alas he moved away so no hanging out.
Vieja
It would be nice to have a CD girlfriend but I don't think I would be comfortable in a group. Would love to have a GG friend.
For the most part, I'm satisfied with my makeup and dressup endeavors, and I've been out in public and into shops and a club to my satisfaction and I'm now pretty happy playing dressup in private. The one thing left on my crossdresser bucket list is to have a small group of cd friends to meet with, talk to, dress up with, maybe go out with, and discuss all aspects of crossdressing with. Just looking for similar-minded cd friends.
Ah, similar. That's the rub. What drives each of us to transform is different. And our presentation styles are vastly different. As an over-the-top pleasure dresser, I don't think I would be on the same wavelength as someone who has a strong feminine identity and wants to dress conservatively to blend. Someone like me would be a better companion for me.
So it won't be as easy as just finding a local cd who also wants to meet. A lot of communication first. Looking for a good match.
I don't think it will happen.
Having joined and went to many meetings of crossdressers i have found all of us are normal people , some just a little different, but all SISTERS at heart. helped me understand i AM normal. all friends forever. luv Roberta
I wouldn't mind having an anonymous CD cantact (Karren comes to mind) just to run things by and get another's veiw. I find her and I are of the same mind quite often. As for meeeting another CD for a chat I don't see a need. My therapy office used to have a group meeting once a month and I always passed on it for a couple of reasons. The night of the week was bad and I did have a fear that I might meet someone I knew! Lossing my confidentiality is of a great concern. A friend and confidant one minute may not be the next, call me a skeptic. I never devulge true personal details in my travels.
Now having a GG girlfriend (strickly non sexual) would be fantastic. But again that would need to be anonymous from my end.
I would love to have a CD friend. I'm not one for bars or clubs and pretty much a homebody, but it would be awesome to be able to chill out at a friend's house. I've thought about placing a Craigslist ad in the plutonic section, but that scares the hell out of me, and can only imagine the responses I'd get. The forums here have helped alot, making me realize that I'm not alone with some of the feelings I have, and have had very similar experiences, but nothing seems to beat that face time.
I have actually posted ad's in the platonic section of Craiglist looking for women to talk to. Only emails transpired though, and to date hadn't gotten any harrassment at all.
I do and I`ve found a friend on this forum who lives nearby,we both hope to get the opportunity to go out together and enjoy ourselves!:daydreaming::hugs:
I'm going to get myself in trouble on this one, I would love to hang with other cders but at the present I do enjoy going out and hanging with my female nurse counterparts. They all know me and that I love this cd thing so we do have a lot of fun when we go out .
I would rather go out with the girls than hang in a crusty bar with a bunch of make believe or wanna be jocks just has never been my forte.
I am always cd dressed when we go out and as I said before, it is none of my business what anyone thinks I am me and that's who I will be.
Love Mllie
PS: it is strictly plutonic not for who I get to jump in bed with.
Other than on this site, no.
SarahLynn
I can understand that. Sometimes it's good to talk with someone who understands where you're coming from. My wife has a TS friend, that for so long I've wanted to sit down and have a talk with. My dilemma is that I don't think she is aware that I know & I don't want to "out her". So, to have a friend who is CD to talk to privately, would be wonderful.Quote:
Originally Posted by Jenny B
Hugs,
Terri
this subject has been on my mind alot lately. I was just talking to a gg friend of mine about going to boys town and seeing what happens, but i don't know if am ready for this yet. I think it would be great to have a cd friend to share thoughts with.
I would love to have a CD friend to hang out with. In the last six months I have come out to a few people I thought would be OK with Samantha.
One couple and a GG are cool with it and have no problem if I come to their houses dressed. It feels so good to be comfortable enough to forget that I’m a CD. Does that make sense?
I have also made a few acquaintances at the Clubs in Minneapolis. Again, it feels so good, not stand out and I to just be myself.
After all these years of hiding, I think its extremely important to have a group of someone’s that you can feel comfortable with, whether CD/TG or not.
it would be nice especially for a up and coming CD like me ... it is important to have some girls to cheer you on and motivate you. i hope to meet girls around where i live. :) it'd be nice
I do not think the vast majority of us realize the degree of anxiety or terror you must feel. The most adverse consequence I and most of us would experience would be rejection by people we care about. I can easily start over. There may be some economic consequences, but, nothing that cannot be overcome.Quote:
Originally Posted by Nesreen
I am fortunate because I live in a city and state which protects minority sexual lifestyles- gay, lesbians, transsexuals and cross-dressers- from discrimination in housing and employment. Embarrassment does not equal incarceration or physical punishment.
nope.. dont need to be with other TS/TV/CD/ect to hve fun as myself..... :)
yes, yes, indeed. those are the best timesQuote:
Originally Posted by *Vanessa*
Hi ,Nesreen,
Im a bit different, many of my friends are over in Austraila as iv been over there , & have been out & stayed with them most like dressing , tho i have a few who are trans, & next year i will be doing the same for about 4 weeks .allso i have other friends who are women,
like my self, & i have been invited to go see them,
Where ever i go im just accepted,
In New Zealand were i live Waimate in the south isl we do not have any trans or dresser's out & about of under 5.000 people im pretty much the only one who is different, & they all know about my self & background.
Up in christchurch 2 .1 / 2 hours by road i do know a good few both trans & dresser's , down south in Dunedin 1 . 1 / 2 hours away, i know a few there as well plus our friends who we stay with for us Jos & i & our grandaugter we are close friends , 2 women & one has a young child & its lovely being with them .
For my self, my dresser friends just accept who i am & theres no hang up's because im different, *& we talk about most normal things .
The other side is im involved with women only groups & mixed as well. i dress in 1900's & the Renaissance times so we have get to gethers & really do enjoy our selfs , & with our Renaissance group we spend a week to gether just after xmas time at a camp. over 200 people , again im the only one who comes as being different, & im well accepted,
Tho most of my friends are woman ,
For my self im a stand alone person because it was not posible to be with trans or dresser's because of a lot of traviling so i knew many women over years of liveing here in our area so its no surprise that my friends are women .
So some times it can be hard as i found out over the last 15 years , & more so for those of you who are in county's that look down on difference's & how others need to present them selfs,
At least we have been given through the generosty of others our forums & that has been so great, so thanks to those who have made that posible,
...noeleena...
For me, a little bit. I think every one who is on this board is seeking a little validation and hanging out with other CDer's can potentially fulfill that need. But the spectrum of crossdressing and the reasons for why we dress are so broad that it is difficult to find common ground much of the time. For example, I went on a Dignity cruise which was fun. It was nice being able to dress and prance around. But I was the youngest one there and so felt a little out of place. Everyone was into different aspects of dressing and that variety was great to see. But I felt that during this trip, there was a focus on a little more of the psychological aspect of why we dress. I'm just not interested in that because I don't care about why I'm dressing. I just like to do it, period. I don't need to rationalize it to myself. What I want out of dressing is to maximize the creation of my feminine illusion. For me, that's wearing the latest, trendiest clothes and shoes and applying the "in" makeup techniques. It would be nice to find others who are into dressing for same reasons, but not imperative. There was another post earlier on this thread about hanging out with GG's and perhaps that is the best situation for me. It's a process like it is for everyone else here. But I do have support and just need to get my butt in gear to create the best feminine me possible.
Hanging out with other CDs is great for support when you want to have a safe outing, be introduced to interesting places to go while dressed, and so forth. And in the early stages, it's valuable to exchange "technical" tips about how to look better, where to shop, which local stores and services are friendly and which ones to avoid, and such. Once these subjects are exhausted, though, I'm no more likely to be interested in making another crossdresser my friend than any other random stranger. I have felt a lasting connection to a few I've met (and they know who they are because we do, indeed, stay in touch), but the others with whom I don't share any other interests, experiences or just plain good vibes are like any other ship passing in the night. Still, I do continue to go on "safe" organized outings because the experience can be fun in itself, and at this point, I feel like I've become one of the older sisters who can sometimes be helpful to a newcomer. Only a couple of true, lasting friendships have ever developed from all this activity, however, and a lot of times I come home thinking I could have had a better time hanging out with a group of GGs or, in some extreme cases, just going out by myself.
- Diane
[SIZE="2"]First of all, I wish to congratulate you for using the word “transvestite” to describe yourself – well done! Many people around here have a BIG problem with that divisive term, something that has been discussed ad infinitum. I am also officially a transvestite, but I do not feel the need to show off, except to myself, of course. It would be fun to go somewhere with a couple of other transvestites for some femme activity, but I pretty much keep to myself as I try to make myself pretty. Because of where I live, I would have to travel quite a ways to find a sympathetic atmosphere for my (our) kind of alternative pleasure, and getting there would be an adventure in itself. Being in the closet does NOT kill me, in fact holding one’s precious secrets near and dear can be more fun than going out in public to spill the beans for no good reason. If the climate was more to my liking, I would go forth with alacrity, but, until then, I will be true to my “self.”Quote:
Originally Posted by Nesreen
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not 4 me. I am lucky enough to have spent time all dressed up in the company of a close GF. She made me feel feminine all day.
Let's just say.........YES!!
need? no. desire...yes! :)
Cool!!! my boss is talking about a trip to NYC--I'll make sure I go with him and look you up when I get there---gawd I love that cityQuote:
Originally Posted by marlaNYC
cheers,
Jill
Sort of on topic for this thread. Does anyone know of a site or other sort of listing where I could find CD's/TS's in my area? Aside from the obvious dating/swinging/porn sites? Not interested in any of that, just friendship and sharing tips.
Well, no desire at all to hang out with other cross-dressers. I think we have a huge range of variation within our ranks, and apart from the clothes I feel I have very little in common with other CDs, and even there we vary so much. I love my clothes and I love women, I prefer to spend my time with women, no blokes, no matter how they are dressed. I have met with CDs - not a success. It could be them or me or both, but I just have no desire to go there again. If you just shop for clothes, go to beauticians and go to restaurants and hotels very easy to interact only with women. Long may it continue.
I have hung out with CDs, and MtF Pre-Ops, gays, lesbians and bisexuals, straights, whites, blacks, asians, even some people from England!!! EEEK! LOL I will continue to hang out with people that I connect with because I enjoy their friendship. That said, I would like to find more CDs in my area not only to be friends with, but to help me with my CD appearance.
For those that don't want to hang out with a CD - look at it this way... if you didn't know somebody was a crossdresser and you met 'em at a game or shooting pool in a bar, they would be okay for you, right? Well, they are the same person as you are, with the same love for crossdressing. Nobody is saying because you have a male friend that CDs he is going to jump your bones! That mentality is akin to homophobia... afraid to be next to a gay guy because you're scared he will want sex from you. It doesn't work that way.
never any desire..i have a wonderful GG..thats it for me....seems like all my normal guy friends just want to drink and watch sports..i hate sports and do not drink..so i spend my time working on and old international scout and a few old vintage hodaka dirt bikes i have (if you have NOS parts PM me)..of course applying makeup to my GG and daughters is also a fun hobby...i just have never had any desire to hang with the guys (even other CD's)..all they seem to talk about is degrading women on looks and features and well i just hate that..i vowed over 20 years ago to never be that kind of guy..but it is hard at time with me being a guy...the whole support issue i can understand but my GG knew everything from the first date and well we do everything together.....good luck..but none of this interest me at all..find a wonderful GG and you will never look back
ps: our only rule is simple...nothing is done around the kids...
Yes, it would be nice to find others in my reigon, just so I know I'm not alone
I'd love to not because I need to just cause it would be fun...waaay fun I'm shore. Easier for me than many others tho...I'm free with nary a concern regarding responsibilities to eenyone on planet Earth. Not that easy to find others like me, m2f lez. Don't like men. In a minority within a minority, I guess.
I hang out with everybody......just don't ask me to come home with you.
If I go out in public, it is me expressing myself as I am.
Making friends with other CD/TG/TS people, I'm talking everyone from the weekend crossdresser to the fully transitioned transsexual, straight, bi, gay, whatever is the best thing I ever did. I learned a lot about me, and other people in the process. Now I feel at peace with myself.
I have neither the NEED or the DESIRE to go out as Sherry! With anyone! However, I can say for a fact that my time with other girls at the SCC was the MOST FUN I've had in ages! PERIOD!
I wood love to find someone to share this with and talk to.It wood be cool to have a group of friends to dress up with or just one. I am in .S.F.L. if some one know of a group please tell me
A thread that surprised me for its diversity of opinion and made me think a little. Many of us feel very much alone and isolated, and are comforted by the fact that out there, someplace, are people like "us." But whether you need or want company from other CDs may depend on why you cross dress and where you think you are headed (something I don't know at this point, I admit). And it may also depend on how confident and comfortable you have become being a girl, at least some of the time. For me, when I go out as Christine, I really want to feel and experience life as a woman might and be treated like a lady. That can include anybody who is willing to accept who I would like to be, CD or not. Mostly, it has meant that I feel most comfortable in the company of gay men. So many people in that community (and others, too) have been kind beyond imagining in respecting Christine as a girl-- holding doors, kissing me on the cheek or hand, gallantly hailing taxis. I still find going out alone as Christine daunting. But I have to accept who I am, and take life as it comes.
Christine
Here is another way to look at it... people that belong to "therapy" other groups to help them deal with any type of problem, (alcohol, drugs, rape, abuse, etc.), part of their safety net in life is to have other people that have BTDT and can share guidence and friendship. Why wouldn't any of us that cross dress want to hang with others that share our passions?
I, for one, welcome the friendship and mentorship that will help me grow as a person and to find my own personal happiness.
@JaytoJillian, you do that! :D lolQuote:
Originally Posted by JaytoJillian
I go out with the girls about every 2 - 3 weeks, at organized events less often. I would love to go with the ladies more often.
No, I don't have any desire to do that. I'm heavily closeted, with only my daughter aware of my dressing. This forum is as close as I will ever be to 'hanging out' with other cross dressers.