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Give your b***s a good scratch when pondering a problem.:heehee:
Or just whenever I feel nessesary for that matter lol.Quote:
Originally Posted by kellycan27
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Originally Posted by the_shark
Yup.. that will work too lol
Oh yeah the minor adjustments are a must but always do it on the sly.
Tight jeans keep the beast under control.LOL
Hah, of course. I wouldn't want to walk up to a group of people greet them and then start fondling myself through my shorts lol. Or could I...? ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by Tracii G
Well, don't do what I did. My SO gave me pointers on how to walk like a guy and I looked like John Wayne who'd been riding his horse for three days straight. It was way too exaggerated, so much that my SO and I both laughed out loud. lolQuote:
Originally Posted by the_shark
It worked better when I kept my body the slightest bit more rigid and parted my legs a tiny bit more, like an inch.
And just so as not to misconstrue myself, I'm not FtM but was wanting to experience the challenge of adopting mannerisms that are not natural to me.
... oh, and the link below is pretty good. It's an animated walk model by Biolabs that you can slide between the two genders to see the differences. The mistake most people make is to believe they must walk waaay at either end of the scale, which is what makes it laughable in real life. Most people walk someplace in the middle, or slightly to the right or left of the middle.
Click on the "Lines" radio button at the bottom to see the walk more clearly, and there are also walks that reflect different moods:
http://www.biomotionlab.ca/Demos/BMLwalker.html
Hah thats awesome! I think I stared at it for like 3 minutes straight. Who knew dots could move like that?Quote:
Originally Posted by ReineD
And I forgot, one of my sons brought a hard copy of this home a few years ago and honestly, I read it in disbelief. I thought it was a big joke but he confirmed that guys really act like this. They just don't do it in front of women. lol
http://www.liquorwits.com/code.html
And then they come out and hold our hands? :eek:Quote:
Originally Posted by Eryn
LOL! Hilarious, with some truth. Awesome thank you.Quote:
Originally Posted by ReineD
I am not sure if this has been posted, but it has definitely been apparent. Guys like to be helpful and right. If there is any kind of problem in the room, guys typically like to provide a solution to that problem. This is where a lit if the stereotypes about holding doors, or helping a lady to cross the street come from.
This is (I have been told) why I come across as effeminate; I prefer to defer... Especially to guys... Oh well!
ReineD the man code thing was so funny.LMAO.
It depends on what kind of man you want to present/live as. The subtleties for an "artiste" will be different for a "warrior-poet" or "pick-up artist" (note: the last one could lead to... interesting situations for you.)
as far as opening doors for ladies, not only have you been helpful and polite, it also gives oppurtunity to obseve another side of her ;) .
If possible, socialize with different types of men in different settings. This should help you learn the subtleties.
I like to people watch. When I have to wait around I watch men and how they walk and talk to others plus I like to watch women as they go by.
Watching people is the best way I agree.
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Originally Posted by ReineD
Don't forget..............I know all and fix all:heehee:
Thera
[QUOTE=ReineD;2927974]And I forgot, one of my sons brought a hard copy of this home a few years ago and honestly, I read it in disbelief. I thought it was a big joke but he confirmed that guys really act like this. They just don't do it in front of women. lol
http://www.liquorwits.com/code.html
Didn't see anything about men never asking for directions?
Pervade, walk, talk loud. Oh ya since of direction no maps hah! See my post is in the Alpha mode color...Flat earth colors...
You clearly have a problem with alpha males. You're entitled to such an opinion...Quote:
Originally Posted by mbmeen12
But filling young Adam's head with negative tropes about men is likely to have two conclusions:
1. He will become a bed-wetting self-loather who will never make any positive impact on the world around him.
2. He will become the kind of man you love to despise so much, as opposed to a cultured person who may find the strength to leave this world just a little better than the one he entered. That's a lose-lose proposition for Adam, for me,for the world, and yes, even you.
First of all KaTanya lighten up. Mbeen12 comment was not any different than what others posted. There are just as many stereo types out there about women as there are about men. I will agree that we all need to try and leave this earth in a better place than in which we arrived.
I withdraw the "bedwetting" part.
@the_shark: As far as fighting goes, you don't have to fight to be a man, but knowing how to fight is definitely useful. I won't pretend to point out rules of thumb, because there are none. A challenge can come from anywhere, at anytime.
The good news? Learning how to fight is like a bank. The more you put into it, the more you'll get out of it, and those benefits will carry over into other areas of your life.
Male Mannerisms?
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Hey everyone. I got a question for ya. I've been told I can pass as a dude
pretty well from you fine folks but someone brought up something interesting,
mannerisms. This may seem like a no brainier or just stupid to all you lovely
mtf people out there, but I'm just wondering if there are any specific dos and
don't or just any other general advice on how to give off that male vibe so to
speak without looking like I'm trying too hard. Anyone with anything to offer is
more than welcome to answer this.
Thanks,
Adam
Thank you misunderstood super moderator!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Quote:
First of all KaTanya lighten up. Mbeen12 comment was not any different than
what others posted. There are just as many stereo types out there about women as
there are about men. I will agree that we all need to try and leave this earth
in a better place than in which we arrived.
The question posted /on the table is advice on a male vibe from @ shark whom we are profile friends on this site, KaTanya...No I don't have a problem, dam near close to being Alpha at any giving moment /time....but I'm the opposite of you, steel to silk. I feel the pain/empathy of anyone who is looking through the forest of life and only sees the trees, FTM MTF etc etc..
You just act like how you feel in your heart Adam.:)
A lot of people know that I was in Construction; That said, It sometimes like a Doctor at the party,
Everyone has a house ailment that needs fixing, and "Ask The Doctor" is the conservation of the
night. Now I did not want you to read "Time Life Books" all night, Because I found that 80% of men
can not use a screw driver. So be aware of the fact, and when asked "You know I have this problem"
You can truly say that is not my field of endeavor.
Shark, I do wish you luck, and lets us know anytime we can help.
Rader
My mom thought a butter knife was just as good as a screw driver. I miss her.
Men don't think about their mannerisms - that's the trick - I would know.
I haven't seen it here, maybe I missed it but one of the golden rules of being a man is never touch another man other than a handshake if it is humanly possible. I don't even like to shake hands to tell the truth, but I am not really much of a man in a lot of ways. A man also is very careful about touching a woman, yes he loves to do so but will fear being thought of as too forward unless you know the woman very well.
Also a man will almost never keep his knees anywhere near each other. The farther apart the better.
Adam,
Mannerisms can only help you pass so much. The "male vibe" has more to do with being comfortable, confident, and not letting other people dictate how you act. Also, when you're drunk, you may tend to revert back to your old mannerisms, so make sure there isn't too sharp a difference. For example, I act a lot more *ahem* flamboyantly when I'm drunk. During the day I do my best to keep my hand motions and such in check, but I don't want to seem 'straight acting'. I'm me. I want to act like me. The whole point of this is so that I can behave in a way that's comfortable and makes sense for me and my personality. I'm a gay guy, I wear nail polish, and I move my hands whichever way I damn please. I suggest you do the same.
Also, FYI, a lot of my cis guy friends are WAY more 'feminine' or 'flamboyant' whatever you want to call it, than I am. You probably over-estimate the extent to which your mannerisms seem girly. I mean, I love My Little Pony and pink sparkles (love pink sparkles) as much as the next guy, but when I compare myself to my friends, I'm actually pretty manly. Develop your own way of acting like an adult and this will take you a lot farther than just copying the guys you see around town. Without jumping onto the unicorn bandwagon (although, it is fun up here with the unicorns), you are unique, and you have your own unique mannerisms that are uniquely you. Don't come all this way just so you can act like every douche bro in Philly. You're you. Own it.
Hah, I like the usage of bro. My best friend uses 'bro' as a term to belittleing. And Philly douche isn't quite my style, I'm from Texas, but I hardly think Texas douche quite fits either. Whelp, looks like I'm gonna have to be a nice guy, damn ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by Julian
But anyway, when you're drunk is an interesting subject. I don't exactly know what it is, but when I'm drunk I "pass" even better! I think it's because I'm so tense all the time my mussels relax a little after a few rounds of Jameson. But I don't mean to be a douche and waive your point. One can't act forever. But the point of this thread to me was to try something new perhaps. The lovely mtfs ask for makeup tips to enhance what they already have to give off a more feminine vibe, why can't I do the same? Enhance what I have for a desired result. And dude, unicorns are a soft spot with me- how ever would you of guessed? :)
I find on the days I do not try to pass I acutely pass better. I do wear baggy clothes but not super baggy. I can not grow a beard real well so I just let it get to stubble and it works for me. I do not wear a binder even though I should but it works.
Here is a bit of advice that will catch me some hell but here it goes -
Men tend to respect other people's space. Women often do not respect personal space.
A man will move out of the way for a woman or another man. A man will honor someone's space.
A woman acts like she owns the place. You could be standing there, say trying to pick out a cereal and a woman would just nudge her ass in like you are not there. I hate this aspect of woman behavior.
Also as corny as it sounds, if you go to brocode.org - there are a lot of good rules for living as a man. You will notice a lot of these rules revolve around respecting someone's personal space (physical, emotional, or social "space")
Some of these rules might seem archaic (such as not being required to give birthday cards) but MEN understand. Men's and women's social codes are MUCH different in many ways. As I continue on my journey to become a woman and learn their behaviors, i am often shocked how they interact but this is what it means to live in a new gender role.
So, time to start learning the social aspects so you don't do something to look like a bitch before other bros ;)
Being a man is about giving and expecting respect. Women tend to expect it more than give it.
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Originally Posted by KaTanya
Maybe a fight can come out of anywhere, but a bar full of twenty-something males after midnight is the most likely place. Bruce Lee said that the best way to block a punch is to not be there when it is thrown. Fighting is not a male behavior you will want to assimilate. Be careful, please do not get hurt. Because a fight hurts, even if you win. Anyone who says otherwise hasn't been in a fight.