FWIW I think that I am Bi gender because as a guy I Like Ladies, so much I want to dressup as one. in Femme mode I feel attracted to Ladies who Like Ladies I know it sounds crazy but thats how it hangs anyone else feel the same way? cheers
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FWIW I think that I am Bi gender because as a guy I Like Ladies, so much I want to dressup as one. in Femme mode I feel attracted to Ladies who Like Ladies I know it sounds crazy but thats how it hangs anyone else feel the same way? cheers
I'm mostly indifferent to being a male. Sure it comes in handy when you have to deal with doctors and auto mechanics and putting the urethra at the end of a hose was the better design feature. Other than that, I don't see any advantage worth caring about. I don't really go around thinking of myself as a "gender." Male, female, girl, boy, masculine, feminine, bimbo, macho jerk from hell... these are just costumes I wear to obtain a desired result. It's just that the "male" costume is more permanently attached and not easily altered and, for me, not worth the considerable effort.
I am happy being a guy, but I am also very appreciative of expressing my femininity and the overall completeness experienced as both. Right now my femme side continues to emerge, but not at the expense of being male.
I like being a guy, especially when making love with my wife.
There is an in between gender. It's called being gender-fluid, gender non-conforming, or gender variant. Not everyone on this planet identifies either strictly female or strictly male. But the challenge is to find a mode of expression that works for you.Quote:
Originally Posted by Erica Marie
Some people do it by wearing female clothes that most people cannot tell are female, like jeans and polo shirts with unisex shoes. Others do it by dressing a bit more feminine, yet not blatantly. Still others do it by knowing deep down who they are, yet choosing to conform to established norms by alternating their gender expression. In other words, they are always the same person internally no matter how they are dressed whether this is male or female.
I can't imagine a life not having both sides.
Happy to be me. Happy to have a great wife, great kids, great grandkids, great siblings...and my parents were great bu their gone now, got a great life. Being male is just something I do from time to time, bit not the source of my happiness.
Not me. i'll admit that the physical strength comes in handy sometimes, but in general i hate my body. i don't want to be anything in between, though, just a normal girl...
I have no unhappiness as a guy. I am comfortable as one. For me, it is that I also have a feminine part added in. I do have to make time for that part in order for me to feel better. For so long I withheld this part of myself. Now that I am beginning to allow my feminine side to have expression and just have its time, I am feeling better overall as a person, a more complete person.
I really don't know. I'm not an inherently unhappy person. I have many good things in my life. But of course, there is that nagging transgender thing, too. I feel very comfortable when en femme, as if some great wrong has been righted, like somehow the world is the way it's supposed to be. But in reality, I don't really know what it's like to truly be female, to actually be a woman. I imagine that I'd like it quite a bit, that I'd be comfortable in my own skin, and that I'd embrace my own womanhood. But I've never been anything other than a man. So while I can say that I think I'd be really happy, perhaps happier than I am now, were I female instead, I can't really make an honest comparison between the two. I'd be comparing my reality to my fantasy. Who can compete with that?
This pretty much sums it up for me too!Quote:
Originally Posted by Khaleesi81
I was happy being a GM up until I saw that dress when I was 4. From then on I wished I was born GG. Over the years, Renne has come and gone. She's now about 75% of my life and that other person who wears pants to go to work is 25%. If society was a little more advanced, I wouldn't mind being this half of one gender and half of another...
Renne.....
For the most part, yes. While I sometimes wish that I could be more feminine, 90-95% of the time I like being a guy. There are lots of advantages, particularly in my career which is male dominated right now.
Uhm like omg NO! :D
For the past two years, I have hated being a guy 75% of the time, and felt indifferent to being a guy the remaining 25% of the time. Actually, it's been more like alternating between phases of hating being a guy 100% of the time, and phases of being indifferent 100% of the time, just the phases of hating being a guy lasted for 75% of the last two years and the indifference phases for 25%. There was no such phase where I was actually happy to be a guy. Prior to the last two years, I never was happy being a guy, just indifferent to it. All phases of life, including the past two years, have been intertwined with episodes of pink fog.
I always felt like I was a girl since I was 5. If reincarnation is real, I am choosing female next time around for sure :)
I can totally relate.Quote:
Originally Posted by Alice Torn
Einstein solved mathematical problems that most of us would find excruciatingly difficult. Yet, Einstein would have found it excruciatingly painful if he were told he could never do math or physics again.Quote:
Originally Posted by Megan72
I'm definitely not as happy as a guy as I am as a girl. It's such a contrast, actually. But I cope with either situation as best as I can.
The Rolling Stones hit it with this:
I see the girls walk by dressed in their summer clothes
I have to turn my head until my darkness goes
I have eternal suffering because I cannot be them.
I rarely get a chance to get dressed.
There are those times when I wish I were a female but most of the time I'm content with being a guy.
Only when Im making love to my girlfriend...
Without a doubt there are times I feel I'm in between genders, however I am a man it's how I was created. I do wish I was more free to dress as I please and not be caught in the sociital norms and that when I wanted to wear a skirt or a dress do what, or if it was a polo kind of day than ok with that too. For those of us who are CD it's a very tough mix.
Anatomy aside, I play both ways, darling. I like both.
It's like legos, you give me 20, and I can come up with something pretty cool. You give me 1000 legos, and I can come up with something pretty awesome. Being two genders just broadens my palette to paint life with.
I want to thank all the girls who took time to add to this discussion. It sounds as if we are rather split on how we feel. Plenty of us enjoy the dual role, a nice break from manhood and a good stress reliever. But it seems as if there are plenty of us also, me included. That would prefer to be in the female role or even a gender neutral role. I guess that is what makes us all individuals. I just wish now the world would let us be who we are.
I am happy being a guy. I love my work, which would not be easy wearing a dress, and that makes daytime a pleasure. In the evenings and nights I wear a dress or skirt, with all the underwear, and I know I appreciate these clothes more as a guy. I couldn't crossdress if I wasn't a guy.
The only feature I like being like a male is that I have a very deep voice for a man. It's fun to look a lot like a genetic woman (GG) thanks to my natural wide hips and my M2F HRT induced breasts when singing basso profundo while sitting next to very masculine looking males singing tenor or baritone. :)
Johanna
I am definately a blended person. I like some guy aspects about myself and some girl aspects about myself. I only wish I could be more open with the girl parts most of the time.
I'm not sure happy would be the term to use. More like accepting. I've never been totally comfortable as a man. My happiest times are when I wear nylons and dresses.
Coming to a conclusion. For us that are unhappy I think we are dealing more with tg issues than cd issues??
I am definitely unhappy being a guy. There is nothing that I do or enjoy as a guy that I couldn't do being a girl and probably have an even better time with. I just don't like being a guy as a whole - body, expectations, societal role, etc.
It's no secret that having full-blown gender dysphoria is awful. I am grateful mine has never reached the point of making me want to transition. 90% of daily life does not seem particularly gendered; washing dishes, driving, or eating lunch, for example, do not seem particularly male or female. It's in presentation and interaction with other people that our gender identity becomes more apparent. My body and society tells me I am male. Sometimes my brain says or wants the opposite. So, I just take note of how I am feeling each day, act naturally, and try to be happy. Even if I could label myself as a third gender, would that resolve any of the tension I feel? Or would it simply escalate the dysphoria? What I seek is unity - or at least some kind of balance among all these emotions that ebb and flow.Quote:
Originally Posted by Erica Marie
After having experienced how a good woman can make a man out me, I'm quite happy with my manhood. No complaints with womanhood either!
I couldnt have said it better myself. The grass is always greener on the other side. There are benefits on both sides so a balance is needed..EllieQuote:
Originally Posted by Ms. Laura
Based on the number of YouTube videos I have watched about transitioning, probably not all that happy as a male.
When in male mode, which is most of the time, I live my male life to the fullest. I embrace every day and give and get the most I can from it. However, inside my male body is a female that longs to get out. It has been that way all my life. When the opportunity presents itself, I will plunge into the feminine experience with total abandon. And when the window of feminine opportunity is closing, it is always with great anguish that I convert back and resume my male life. When I reflect on all this I always come to the same conclusion. I wish I were a girl, always have, always will. When it comes to being happy, it is important to realize that happiness is always tied to the way we expect things to happen. We can wait for things to happen or lament that they have not happened in a particular way. We also can make things happen, regardless of which self life requires us to be at any given time. We only have one life, make the most of it, what ever that means to you. Don't worry - be happy.
This is exactly how I feel!!!Quote:
Originally Posted by insearchofme
Love my guy side. So does my wife. Andrea just her BFF that comes to visit from time to time.
Im scared Im starting to like my female side more but i could never imagine going full time. Does this feeling pass as you dress and you get more used to it? Dont get me wrong I love dressing up the full nine but damn is it ever a commitment lol!
Yes I am. Being a woman full time looks like it could be a real pain in the a**. Even though fathers get screwed in divorce court, i still prefer being a man. Competition, menstrual cycles and what sometimes seems to be an incurable amount of bitchiness is enough to say that i don't want to be a woman. Dressing like one for stress relief and fantasy is ok by me. I think it has actually brought me and my wife closer together, at least when i comes to shopping.
Hi Erica. I consider myself very fortunate to be absolutely happy with the two aspects of my gender. I have a wondeful life as a guy and enjoy all the masculine activities of a typical male. The discovery of my feminine side and the joys of CDing didn't occur till my 30's and I consider it to be an amazing gift that added an extra dimension of pleasure to my life that I had never imagined possible. I adore every moment of being Tracey but there is no desire to live life as a female.
Ms. Laura's quote from post #22 was exactly how I felt after reading the replies. Yet, I am reminded that, before I read the replies, post #23 was my first thought. Who am I?Quote:
Originally Posted by Ms. Laura
In the end, I'm drawn to crossdressing by the clothing. I look at clothing with lust, far more than I have even did with people, even in my most sexually active days.
In reality, physically more powerful men still control the world.. I'd never have this degree of control in my life if I wasn't the male, white and physically fit. And getting ready in the morning, what a chore that would be.
I'm happy as I am. I only wish the world was more tolerant.
Yes, I would not want to be a female. If I did transition I would be a TG tomboy. Now granted, a GG tomboy is much more accepted by society but I'm not sure how a TG tomboy would be. Plus the monumental changes to your daily routine and being an ugly TG tomboy is not my goal. I love doing manly activities with the strength of a male and I also love doing feminine things like getting my hair styled and a mani-pedi with color of course. I persevere as a male CD.
Nope. I hate being male. Such drab clothing to choose from, we have to suppress our emotions. I wish I'd realised a ling time ago, before children. Now I am in turmoil.
Today, I just want to be a girl. Ef the world.
Each day and each part of the day is different for me. Being an ugly TG has its disadvantages but you are still a girl. There are plenty of ugly girls around and they survive. Besides, some of the stuff (kids and periods first come to mind) won't be there. Today, I'd be happier as a girl.
But not to be in my real world. Other real world.
One more thing. As a guy, i feel hampered, and handicapped socially. GG's seem to be able to make friends so easily, and get all the good attention. There are exceptions though, of course. Women are like social butterflies, whil men are to often a bull in a chinashop, and isolated, unwanted, feared, anti-social, "damned if wr do, and damned if we don't, with double binds, unrealistic financial expectations, and we take our own lives more than GGs do. So, ACCEPTING being a male, but not much loving it. GG's have the opposite problem, if they are ata all attractive- too much attention.
Heck No,
You described my feelings very well, except perhaps "present as a woman". I don't "present" myself as a woman. I am a man and wear what the society considers to be "women's clothes". I consider them to be just clothes that I like to wear and be comfortable. I think of them as "men's" clothes since worn by a man who does not, even for a moment, considers himself to be a woman.Quote:
Originally Posted by Jenniferathome
Just look at the number of men who wear jeans on a daily basis. Jeans were designed for manual labourers, lumberjacks and similar activities. Do jean wearers consider themselves to be members of the forementioned occupations? Of course some are members, but most are not. They wear them because they are comfortable and useful for many activities.
I extend this analogy to wearing a skirt. I do it because I like it and am more comfortable in it. I do not impersonate a woman any more than a jean-wearer impersonates a labourer.
For me I would have to say yes and no. There are a lot of the guy things I do that I really enjoy doing, and I love my wife and my kids and grandkids and can't imagine not being Pops to the youngest one. There are things about being a guy that I don't enjoy, and I am not I guess the typical male. I don't like football, an although I used to do a lot of it years ago I don't like hunting anymore. Around our yard the flower beds are my doing, if there are flowers on the table or a centerpiece for a hiliday meal its because I did it. I also don't like a lot of the expectations that are hoisted on me because I am a guy in the part of the world I live in, where guys are not supposed to be sensitive, and are expected to belittle people who are different from the so called "norm".
There are times when I just get so tired of it I have to just stay home and dress and get my mind into more gentile things. Part of that is feeling as feinine as much as a 6' hairy bear of guy can.
I'm happy in either ways. When I'm He I like my clothes, activities, lookin at girls and when I'm SHe I like to wear girly things happy to be smooth and feminine . Sometimes I would like to dress more often but I'm still happy to he best if those 2 worlds
Yes, it's part of the problem however as it keeps me from being feminine as I wish.
Yes, I am happy being a guy all the time. I have come to realize that I do not think like a woman at all, I do not have the same empathy for things that my wife has. I never think shoes or purses or dresses are "cute". I love to wear all of those and possess those items but that is about it. I like the fact that I can get up, get dressed and go and not take too much time to get ready. I guess if I were 100% female though it would be different as I wouldn't have to take 1 hour to cover my beard shadow :) So I guess I am wishing that I was more 75% male and 25% female. Would love to not have to shave and would love to have a little more feminine shape, but still would want to keep all my male parts as they come in handy !!
i think i manage my boy/girl side well. i love being a man and i love dressing like a woman too.