I am submissive when dressed but dominate when in drab, although there are many time i wish i could be more submissive when in drab.
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I am submissive when dressed but dominate when in drab, although there are many time i wish i could be more submissive when in drab.
I'm pretty submissive in drab. But when I dress, I just feel comfortable and confident. I mean, what could be more empowering than cute pair of ankle boots?
It all depends on who I'm with even when not en femme. There's a nurse I work with that makes me very submissive. It's not because she's dominant, it's more like she can look into my soul and senses my girl inner being. With some CD admirers that I have dated it all depends on the man.
I am submissive, but one thing I've never been into is S&M stuff, receiving or giving.
Empowered because I am "Me"... the inner girl....... but, I do have a submissive side that I find enjoyable,
Never realized it but my significant other easily makes me feel submissive! For some reason it's kind of a relief!!!
Empowered and happier. However, I also realize that is an escape for me. Not really sure how life would be if I were able to dress full time, though I do know that I would be a full-time CD rather than venturing farther along the spectrum towards TS.
I love the feeling of being submissive! The thought of being tied and taken advantage of is quite delicious!
I am submitting to my desires to embrace feminine empowerment. There, one confused girl I guess ;)
Hugs, Robin
Until last week, I would have said "submissive". Then last week, I went out to my first major outing: A CD support group XMAS party at a local hotel. At that party, I got to dance en femme for the first time. When I was dancing, I felt free, empowered, exhilarated and accepted. I was quite surprised by the strength of the feeling.
I can be either dominant or submissive, though I tend more towards the submissive side, whether dressed or not.
I've kept an online diary through a few relationships, and she could have easily written about you only to make those entries private after the relationship. Especially if the breakup was particularly bad, or if she just didn't want your relationship to be visible to her next interest.Quote:
Originally Posted by Anneliese
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Both and neither. For me, the mood drives the feeling not the dress.
Submissive in that I'm more laid back and relaxed. The question reminds me of a post I made quite some time ago about feeling vulnerable when dressed. I guess that is probably a more submissive than empowered.
Lacy PJs
I have noticed that I am more aware of how I present when dressed, especially in the evening
Usually try to tread softly and walk as though carrying a big stick, so as not to look like victim looking for somewhere to happen.
But have you noticed how difficult it is to tread softly while wearing heels.
Patricia
I am more of the sub side, while dressed.
When I get to dress up I feel totally submissive. I think its because most of girl clothing tends to show off parts of my body I am not used to showing. For example, legs, upper chest, belly, etc.
im very submissive when im en fem.
I find it empowering to be the woman I really want to be!
I am somewhat of a pleaser when dressed so I would say I'm submissive.
Definitely submissive. When dressed in my finery at the instigation of my wife she can get me to do anything from washing her, giving her a facial to painting her toe nails. I am usually the coffee girl for the duration as well. Not that i'm complaining.
Personally, I feel kind of empowered...letting this side of myself out and expressing it is a great feeling! :)
I mirror the same thoughts as Leigh on this one. The feeling I get from being dressed as Emily gives me a totally different perspective. I feel so much more natural and comfortable that way. Far more so than I could ever be when not en femme. If I was in a position to really pursue this lifestyle I would definitely be submissive but simply to the point of being as much of a woman to a man as is natural. Hopefully that makes some sense!
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Originally Posted by LeighR
Totally sweet and submissive here. I spend my life as a man being direct, opinionated (not in a bad way, I just speak my mind), strong and in control. When I'm Jenny, I'm sweet, soft and much more fluffy. I still cry during movies as a guy.. guess you can't take the girl out of the guy, but you can take the guy out of the girl!!
I feel empowered to be nurturing when dressed. I am
able to be more loving and softer when I am Suzanne. This is happening more and more even when I am not dressed now. Although I may seem submissive, since I am free and being myself I feel stronger. Does this make sense to anyone?
Suzanne
If they can pin me down, they can have their way with me.:devil:
Oh my god, submissive! Not in a perverted way, it's just I love to feel like the women in the house. When dressed I cook my wife breakfast, do the dishes and wash the clothes, may seem odd but it really makes me feel like the women I want to be. The best part is my wife loves me the way I am and she gets to be pampered in the deal, win win.
This is exactly how I feel, you hit it right on the head
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Originally Posted by Suzanne F
I do feel empowered and much more confident when I dress fully. I don't think I become more submissive, nurturing, domestic, soft or any other stereotypical female gender role. What's up with that? Reading the responses, I wonder if those feeling more submissive have an image of women that aligns with that emotion. And perhaps those of us feeling empowered might feel dis-empowered by female beauty? Do we reinforce or insulate ourselves by re-creating that which otherwise renders us weak? Just some late-night thoughts... :rose:
Submissive...
I am submissive.... but I did get empowered ... once and got me in a little trouble, but OK since I was the girl. LOL
When I first started crossdressing I felt submissive, but now I feel more confident and have matured that I can say that am empowered and waiting for whatever challenges come my way. I guess it's like my guy self dressed as a woman. lol!
Like a number who have responded, I can be either dominant or submissive when dressed. The apparent contradiction is not unlike being male yet having an overpowering urge to dress up like a girl. So many opposite genres in one body...maybe we're all just really fouled up. LOL!
Sub definitely....;)
Spot on for me, too!Quote:
Originally Posted by Cynthia Anne
I think many guys have submissive fantasies whether or not they're cross dressers. It seems decades ago most women would always defer to their husband. I know it is still prevalent, especially with some religious sects. I went through a period of wanting to be submissive sexually, but, I chalk that up to wanting to be punished for doing something that was not "manly." As I matured any sexuality in cross dressing disappeared. Now? I love being en femme, even though I cannot share it with anyone. I love baking, cooking, vacuuming, do the laundry, ironing, gardening totally en femme. As a retiree with a working wife I would do all those chores even if I was not a cross dresser. It would not be right for my wife to come home after a day at work and start doing domestic chores. Over the years that attitude by a man seems to induce marital disharmony. I would love to continue the day totally en femme when my wife gets home, but, alas, it will never be!
I fondly remember my grandparents' attitude. "Pop" went to work and took care of the outside of the house and basement. She took care of the upstair living quarters and domestic chores. When grandpa got in the way, she kicked him aside. It was nothing more than a delineation of the chores of a marriage, and, it had nothing to do with one spouse being submissive to the other.
When en femme I consider myself to be confident single women. That's how I view my DADT situation. I really don't have anyone to be submissive to.
When I dress in panties, garters and stockings I feel sexy. When I want to be submissive I ask the wife, but she has no interest in sex if I am wearing panties, garters/stockings.
I feel empowered, as I am dressed how I always want to be and I feel better for it. I am probably more submissive when in male clothes if anything, I don't feel I belong in that arena.
When I'm dressed up.. I feel pretty, cute, sweet and like a bad-ass chick. Don't know if any of that is considered submissive.. :P
Dressing up definitely makes me feel submissive - that's what motivates me to dress up to begin with!
I dont think I am more submissive but I am not that aggressive to begin with.
Submissive girl here :)
I don't know, because I get feelings of both at different times.
Probably lean towards submissive. I'm naturally someone who doesn't feel to empowered most of the time, though there are moments.
I feel more dominant and empowered when dressed.
I think submissive. I like to do laundry and household chores and I like to please when I'm dressed.
definitely empowered !
Always submissive-but then I always dress in a submissive manner with my pinny being the most important item of clothing I wear.
Hello to all..............
When I dress fem an eery feeling of calm comes over me. All of a sudden all is right with the world especially my world, i get a strong sence of belonging. I'm sure that most of us understand this.
With this said. It empowers me and validates that deep inside me there is that female. I'm not aware of any submissive feelings. I just feel like me.
I think for me to feel empowered, I need to be able to walk out my front door wearing anything I want just like GG's. And to the world I would just appear to be another pretty girl. No hint of manliness.
Tina
Empowered. The male version of me was terrified of the world. (With good reason, really.) The girl me always got called on to deal with the scary stuff the guy couldn't handle. It's hard not to be defensive, though, when your only job is to hide something from the world.