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1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?
It feels good, relaxing, and connects me to my feminine side.
2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?
Yes. We are in a pseudo DADT, I do not discuss any specifics, she does not ask any. We do talk about CDing, not much lately though, we have been very busy with regular life stuff as of late.
3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?
The girl side is not a sexual thing for me. Sensual at times, but not a sexual excitement kind of thing. I am very attracted to my wife, and I love and adore her femininity and style.
4) When you and your SO are alone together, would you prefer she used female words in referring to you ("we girls"), or would you prefer she rely on your clothes to determine how to refer to you? (So refer to you as a man when you're in drab.) Assuming she knows the situation, of course.
She does not see me dressed. On a few occasions, she has jokingly referred to me with female pronouns. TBH, I think I am fine with either. Most of the time, she uses male pronouns and that is fine that I hear that from her as her regular way of referring to me.
5)What do you do for your SO to show how you feel about her acceptance?
I have thanked her for her acceptance in that I have the ability to be able to let this part of myself have time. That when alone, I do not need to only show my masculine side, but can just let go and be the mix of masculine and feminine that I am. I do honor her wishes that I only present as male (clothing) around her.
6)Let's say that when you were in the closet, you liked your SO to be very stereotypically feminine (manicure, sexy outfits, high heels).
Once you come out to her, do you still prefer her to dress ultra-sexy, or have you stopped caring as much what she wears?
For me, if anything it has even increased my desire for her to be and do those feminine things. She is not a "girlie girl" but does take good care of her nails, wears her hair shoulder length and always down, does wear some make up whenever out in public, and has a nice classy feminine style. I do and wish always that she maintains that.
7)What have you done in the relationship to improve it, so your SO also feels the benefit of supporting you?
I can't say I have done any one thing. I just try always to be there for her, to support her in any of life's difficulties and challenges, and celebrate the good.
8)For those CDers who have undergone more permanent changes, such as ear piercing, waxing, laser or electrolysis (not HRT--I'm gearing the changes to physical, not chemical)--do you feel more at peace with yourself even on the occasions when you have to present as male?
I have not done anything permanent. I do shave most of my body. I have grown my nails just a hair longer than what most guys do. Not to the point where it stands out from any distance, and even up close, probably not a real eye catcher. I do feel at peace with those things.
9) Whats the blue eye shadow all about ????
LOL, you guys have some somewhere.... I am not a make up wearer, as I am only a partial dresser and do not do a full transformation. I would take a pass on the blue though if I did.
10) Would you go into a relationship with the only reason the GG is accepting?
If I was single today, I would not take a whatever I can get so long as she accepts attitude. I do think a level of acceptance should be present, but if it meant hell with every other aspect, no. I would rather be single if that is the case.
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1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?I started t the age of three. As puberty set in, it took a sexual slant...and with age and time, it shifted into a comfort/lifestyle thing.
2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?I wasnt entirely honest at first. she knew I enjoyed lingerie from very early in our relationship. but it wasn't until recently that i figured out i wanted and needed to dress more. Shortly after that realization, i revealed it to her. It had been impacting our relationship in ways I did not fathom, because after I told her, i had more confidence, I ws more outgoing, more eager to please, my virility in bed took a turn for the better, not that it was bad, but all that weight on my shoulders seems to have had an impact.
3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?I am attracted to my GF wholly. I have no attraction to my alter ego. I see Caden as an extension of me, therefore there cn be no attraction.
4) When you and your SO are alone together, would you prefer she used female words in referring to you ("we girls"), or would you prefer she rely on your clothes to determine how to refer to you? (So refer to you as a man when you're in drab.) Assuming she knows the situation, of course.If I present as male, I want her to address me as male, if presenting as female, then the female equivalent. But the biggest determining factor here is her comfort levels as well. I wont press the issue if she isn't comfortable referring to me that way.
5)What do you do for your SO to show how you feel about her acceptance?I try to let her know how much I Love and appreciate her for all her efforts and understanding.
6)Let's say that when you were in the closet, you liked your SO to be very stereotypically feminine (manicure, sexy outfits, high heels).
Once you come out to her, do you still prefer her to dress ultra-sexy, or have you stopped caring as much what she wears?I used to live vicariously through her since she always dresses so nice for work. But now I still wish for her to do the same, because she is beautiful. I bought her a charm for her Pandora bracelet that was a dress, because she i always dressed so nice. She asked me if it meant anything about my dressing. I told her no, it was simply a nod to her style. But that if he wanted it to serve as a reminder of my dressing, that was up to her.
7)What have you done in the relationship to improve it, so your SO also feels the benefit of supporting you? I try to be more Loving, understanding, communicative, honest, open.
8)For those CDers who have undergone more permanent changes, such as ear piercing, waxing, laser or electrolysis (not HRT--I'm gearing the changes to physical, not chemical)--do you feel more at peace with yourself even on the occasions when you have to present as male? Not applicable to me really. But when I underdress, I feel more at ease. so by extension of logic, i think one can surmise that the effect is the same.
9) Whats the blue eye shadow all about ???? Dunno, don't wear blue.
10) Would you go into a relationship with the only reason the GG is accepting? Accepting my dressing is like accepting my kids. But I need depth in a relationship. So o, it would not be the only deciding factor in a relationship.
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1) What is the number one reason you wear feminine clothing?
When I was a kid it was because the clothes felt soft I've always had a fascination with feeling soft or smooth things mostly fabrics. Now the clothes still feel great but also love them for the diverse fashion and colors vs mens and the way I look in them
2) Are you open and honest with your SO about your dressing? If not, how does the deception affect your relationship?
Been open with her when we were still friends, she knows everything and I am always willing to inform her of anything when she wants to know.
3) Are you attracted to your partner as much as your girl-side?
I am not physically attracted to my girl side.
4) When you and your SO are alone together, would you prefer she used female words in referring to you ("we girls"), or would you prefer she rely on your clothes to determine how to refer to you? (So refer to you as a man when you're in drab.) Assuming she knows the situation, of course.
When we are talking girl talk clothes, makeup, shopping, etc I prefer she treat me as her girlfriend whether I'm dressed or not, same goes wor when I am in femme but isn't a must. All other times I prefer to be her boyfriend.
5)What do you do for your SO to show how you feel about her acceptance?
Whenever I go shopping for makeup I try to find something she might like and get it for her....that and put all of my points on her Ulta card.
6)Let's say that when you were in the closet, you liked your SO to be very stereotypically feminine (manicure, sexy outfits, high heels).
When I was younger I though my ideal girl was a tomboyish type girl but since college I do love the stereotypical feminine girl. She doesnt have to wear sexy outfits but appreciate a girl who can do her makeup properly.
Once you come out to her, do you still prefer her to dress ultra-sexy, or have you stopped caring as much what she wears?
NA she already knew
7)What have you done in the relationship to improve it, so your SO also feels the benefit of supporting you?
Nothing much has changed, I still do everything that I can to be thoughtful as always
8)For those CDers who have undergone more permanent changes, such as ear piercing, waxing, laser or electrolysis (not HRT--I'm gearing the changes to physical, not chemical)--do you feel more at peace with yourself even on the occasions when you have to present as male?
I've had my ears pierce since I was 12, I have 2 rows in each ear. I don't really wear earrings as much anymore even though my fem side has increased greatly over the years. I do plan on laser hair removal for some parts of my body and face. I fugured that heck my skins so sensitive that its a pain to shave and even worse with makeup so why not get rid of it, i think I would look better as a guy as well with a smooth face, I think stubble looks aweful on guys and since I don't plan on growing a beard ever for obvious reasons that it would be an easy choice for me. Same goes for body hair, wouldnt want it as a guy or girl.
9) Whats the blue eye shadow all about ????
I Don't know, I've never worn blue before
10) Would you go into a relationship with the only reason the GG is accepting?
As long as she did not try to limit who I am and what I enjoy it wouldn't bother me. I would be fine doing my girl thing on my own or with other friends and spending time with her when im her boyfriend/husband/etc.
