Yes, until the next orgasm, dress new, freshen up, ready to go again.
Like a race horse....
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Yes, until the next orgasm, dress new, freshen up, ready to go again.
Like a race horse....
Interestingly, as I have gotten older the urge does not go away when I orgasm. When I was younger the urge went away quickly. Now the desire to stay dressed stays high and I return to whatever activity I was doing dressed without quickly disrobing like I usedto do when I was younger.
I don't usually have sex of any kind while dressed as a girl, however when I have, the preference of wearing female clothing didn't change at all. sort of just pull up the panties and get back to whatever I was doing before the urge hit me.
For me after the orgasm the feeling is naturally diminshed as I get so excited with the whole routine of shaving than makeup than forms than lingerie the wig and than heels. After all this I am really going and afterwards usually end up lounging and changing into a gown and another outfit before bedtime.
For me, the journey to accept myself as a crossdresser took many years to fully embrace. Let's face it: there are many social and familial taboos against crossdressing, and their influence is very powerful. (If you want to validate this and you are a private dresser, just walk out your front door one day in a wig and dress and start talking to all of your neighbors!)
So I tend to think of this process as more natural and less "rationalized/scientific" than the original post. After all, many of the women I dated in the past would get "dolled up" in a hot dress and hot lingerie for a hot date, only to return to cotton panties and sweat pants once the "denouement portion" of the evening's Shakespearean trajectory had finally revealed itself.
Were all of them, perhaps, re-uniting with the synaptic connections of their inner psychological dualities?
Perhaps. Um, or, maybe they just wanted to get comfy to watch a movie and drift off into a delightful sleep.
Yes I know and experience that sensation, although it doesn't take an hour for me to get over it--more like 5 or 10 minutes. I will say, however, that ever since I became open with my SO about it and we started fooling around with me in girl mode, now I often just stay dressed after sex or orgasm. When I eventually do take off my stockings, heels, etc. its just because its time--not because I'm ashamed or embarrassed. But I totally can relate to what you're saying
CDing was never a sexual thing for me.
Maybe the first time I put on a pair of panties I felt a little twinge but it never turned me on to the point of an orgasm.
i have crossdressed for years and when i have sex, i get aroused, have an prostate orgasm and i feel wonderful. no guilt at all. but as i get older, the orgasms get further apart. ( damn ). i will continue to live my life as is until the day they lay me away.
i cuss my father out thinking he is the one that determined me. but after all the years, i am geri and love it.
love and kisses to all,
geri danielle
I do feel sexy ,dressing in my pretty clothes , looking at myself , and this is me , whether orgasm is involved or not , and I wish to dress like this all the time
Good stuff! I think you hit the nail on the head for me. Now that I'm a little older, I still get aroused by women's clothing but also love dressing up and acting like one. But, you are correct in that my desire diminishes after an orgasm.
I remember the urge would disappear as if I would just snap out of a trance following orgasm. I would instantly feel guilty and disgusted. However, these last few years have shown a diminishing effect. The feeling I feel now is satisfaction and peace with myself.
I can honestly say that in the beginning, the feelings I had were somewhat sexual but only because I felt like most teenage girls trying on sexy lacy undies for the first time. As time went on I never did feel that the clothes had any real effect on sex other than to entice my partner at the time to desire me more. Even after I became sexually active, I never felt like my dressing abated and in fact if I was staying the night I would put on a nightie when I cuddled up to fall asleep. Today, I look back at my years of dressing and see that I was more sexually active when I was dressed than when I am not.
So for those who responded to this thread. Is it a fetish plain and simple? I've struggled with this. Thinking it is a fetish I'm taking too far, making too much out of, taking too seriously. It didn't start out sexually. But where something starts off as and where it ends up at is two different things.
I think for me it had a fetish stage to it but grew out of that into something else that it should have been of was in the firs place. Almost like coming full circle. When it started at 10 it was not sexual. Then it got sexual, now it's not nearly as sexual. But I can still go there if I want to. If I have not dressed in a while it can be more sexual.
I think for me, it was, and it was because it was a trained response to all of the years that I had to secretly sneak in some playtime. I would only be able to do it while I had the house to myself, whether when I was a teen or when I was married. Now that I'm on my own, I'm able to dress up whenever and stay dressed up if I want. Like others have said, when I'm done, I just put on a clean pair of panties and then go about something else until I'm ready to do it again.
In answer to another question that I saw, to me crossdressing is definitely a sexual thing. At least for now it is. I'm still pretty new at it. Hopefully, though, that feeling of excitement that I get from it will never go away!
I've noticed that for me as well. Doesn't happen all the time but most of the time. I thought I was just weird. I've purged due to this many time. I think it may be something worth looking into to help both myself and my girlfriend understand me better. Thank you for bringing up this topic.
Usually not, I want to take off my clothes if their still on, but lingerie stays. Post orgasm in drag feels super fem.
These days it's hardly even sexual, just something I have to do to keep myself sane. If you do any serious soul-searching about why you crossdress, be careful. You might open up a huge psychological can of worms.
It's definitely changed as I've gotten older, but it's sometimes a sexual thing others its more for comfort and release.
i used to do that. sometimes it would lead to a purge. Now that i understand myself more and realize there are alot out there like me who dress i no longer do it. I have not purged my stuff in a few years either.
but for years i did it. i felt like a freak sometimes after thinking what am i doing. i thought nobody else does this why am i. but i have found so many friends online and so much info i feel good about it now. wish i could dress up mpre.
If all the reasons for crossdressing are put in a pie chart, it seems logical that the bigger slice of pie that represents sexual arousal, the more the crossdressing urge dimishes after reaching the happy place.
I don't want to keep eating graham crackers, melty marshmallows and chocolate after reaching smorgasm.
smorgasm
ha! love it!
I have had this problem more than enough. I think the problem is that because so many of us are limited to a certain amount of time during any day of the week, that what happens is that more often than not, we releave ourselves and as such we define it more as a sexual thing rather than being something that is a part of who were are simply because of the time limitations that are put on us either by ourselves, society, or the SO. I feel that if we did not feel as if we were under a constriction about not doing this or that, that we would be able to keep a better grip on our mindset, instead of coming to a quick thought process that happens especially after orgrasm that says purely because of the short time we were interacting with that part of ourselves that we were doing something wrong, when all we have done was try to embrace all of our sides, instead of just one.
Well said heather. Time constraints on some of us certainly could impact our outlook
Ill about guarntee that it messes me up. i think its because we'll build ourselves up like all day or all week in some cases about a window that we have to embrace our otherside without fear of others opinions and such and like anything else it gets you excited. so it might take you 2 hours to shower and shave and do ur makeup and ur nails and ur hair and put on a great outfit, only to take it off as fast as you can after we've relieved ourselves as if someone is going to come through the door with a video camera and put it on the internet.
this thread is very interesting, thank you very much to the OP for posting this... again i thought i was the only one
Nadia =)
That's funny, I've taken a lot of pictures lately and actually took some video yesterday with a mind to maybe put it online in the future.Quote:
Originally Posted by heather88
Its different when it is done intentionally and the person being photographed or taped wants it or is at least ok with it. but i understand what you're saying though Charla, I've been thinking about putting some pictures up but I feel like my facial hair is in the way of a facial shot :heehee:
That's one problem I don't have too much trouble with in girl mode, never could get anything close to a respectable beard growing. The best I could ever manage was an ugly little thing on my chin that I had for a while a few years back, looks mostly ridiculous in pictures. I was trying very hard to assert the masculine in those closeted days.
It's a strange paradox now. Guy mode wants to be a viking and girl mode wants to be a girly girl but I can't really achieve either.
The sexual component was there for me initially but no longer. And I never felt either dirty or guilty.
Yes, same story ,I don't feel guilty any more and I don't have to have a sexual conclusion . I will say tho I do enjoy it when I do !
kinda... but i only get that feeling of being disgusted with myself if i'm masturbating, and i get that feeling even if i'm not dressed up, and if i do do that while i'm dressed up feeling the need to take off my girl clothes and stuff is usually just because i'm already sleepy and somehow my make up gets all messed up. i'm i've only had sex once or twice while dressed up, and in that case the opposite actually happened, and there were no feelings of disgust or anything with myself or my crossdressing. your point about it being a form of synesthesia makes sense, but i don't think it applies to everyone, as, at least for me, while it is somewhat sexual it's more just something i like to do and i'm turned on by the same things whether i'm dressed up or not, there are no feelings for me of having female contact while i'm dressed up.
in my younger years it was more of a fetish thing. nowadays if I want to pleasure myself I don't have to be en femme or en drab just in my birthday suit. Being dressed no longer facilitates my gratifications.My dressing represents the femine side of me of who I wish to be and that's it.
Yes, I think so. But once I orgasm I do lose all interest in sexual activity and not just crossdressing.
Yes, the urge drops as soon as I orgasm. That is why I consider myself not fully TS, but only border case. I can get an orgasm just by imagining that I am a beautiful woman and pressing my thighs together.
No, the urge stays the same, and probably because I compartmentalise different aspects of my life. Having an orgasm is always great, but it does not have a decisive bearing on how I feel about doing anything afterwards, although I am pretty sure I am much more affable company afterwards... :)
So, in a busy life with work and my projects at home, opportunities to dress are slim and slender. My dressing is reduced to just bra, panties and thigh highs getting ready for work followed by arousal and orgasm. And yes, the clothing comes off in a hurry. Anyway, during the warm weather months my routine is to let my body hair return so I'm less inclined to want a full dress experience. Looking forward to October!
Michelle
No, it doesn’t describe me. However, my orgasm urge rarely drops, regardless of what I’m wearing…:battingeyelashes:Quote:
Originally Posted by Confucius
It drops almost instantly after orgasm and I've even forced myself to keep the clothes on after which eventually leads to me feeling more comfortable
First, I thank you for posting this topic as it is very relevant to my experiences as a crossdresser. Over the years I have been to ashamed and in denial to admit stuff related to being aroused, masturbating as a crossdresser in fear of being classified as unprofessional, non-congenial, a pervert, etc...; just being afraid I would get kicked out of websites, forums, chat rooms, posts deleted, etc.... that related to anything transgender. So, I admire everyone's courage and honesty here.
My desire does drop, usually for 2-3 hours following orgasm but mostly because it leaves me totally exhausted and take off clothes, wig, etc... as I might be covered in sweat at that point and need to cool off. Guilt can have a religious context to it, especially when trying to be a practicing Christian and also feeling that it is unhealthy when doing it for too many hours a day or too often which has lead to high blood pressure, heart palpitations and dizziness. So this becomes a serious issue of which I struggle with all the time. Right now there seems to be little support for it but might be growing. I was told by a therapist this was a type of sex addiction about 6 years ago, although I look at Sex-Addicts Anonymous websites, books, etc.... and see no mention of crossdressing.