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i have often found myself thinking "She" looks hot! I believe it comes from a standpoint of wishing I could look like that or even if I looked that good I would live in a dress.
If I wasn't aware she was a he, I'm sure I would feel the usual male attraction.
I accept the fact that I'm admiring. Being a CD gives you the control of being super flexible with how you look at a girl even if she is a he. Not only CDs but also transgendered peopl on Youtube. So I don't get a wierd feeling while admiring a CDer or even thinking about a man lol
I used to worry about this too but I've learned to accept it. I don't mean to be blunt but I do get turned on physically when seeing some of the girls here and TS/CD in general.
I think for most part, I know what there feeling, and how the cloths they are wearing feel on them. I kind of feel a connection with them, knowing we both have the same interest.
I am most interested in what they are wearing and how their hair and makeup looks. I guess it's a matter of envy that I could never look as good as they do.
Exactly! I see my sisters as I would like to see myself, and also allow for a little jealousy :), but the latter is all in fun (kinda ;) ) Every woman here has been so encouraging and loving...I love this wonderful community, even though it's online. I'm encouraged and strengthened by it!Quote:
Originally Posted by Amanda L.
In previous comment Kara made reference to thinking when seeing some of the girls look so good they should stay in a dress. First Kara my thoughts about you exactly... you look great....I have the same thoughts as well. Particularly when seeing a younger person. The pink fog only gets more intense as we age.
Jennifer, I have to differ with your self-assessment!
To me, the question really is if you encountered that person somewhere other than here, what would your reaction be? With the exception of those who use a caricature or picture of a GG, you pretty much know that everyone whose picture you see is genetically male. So when I see their pictures here, I'm automatically "biased" in knowing that they aren't exactly what they look like they are. Still, I must say that there are several here who would fool me if I were to meet them on the street. I'm not saying that I'd necessarily be attracted to them but could see how/where I'd be in a mode of admiration... not sexually but rather a kind of , "Wow! She looks great!"
Flip the coin... I can look at a guy who is in good shape and has taken care of himself and admire his efforts but the admiration is anything but sexual.
I'm rambling... I'm outta here! :)
Lacy PJs
For me it is total envy.
Built like a linebacker I'd never pass. But I also know how much work goes into looking that good. If I saw them in the street I'd probably do what I normally do and admire their total look. Actually bugs the wife I think, if I see a female out and about and ask her whether it's just me or does that outfit work for them? Sometimes she thinks its funny, sometimes not that I'm not 'looking' at the lady for normal male reasons but for what shes wearing. She's more worried about me buying that outfit than stepping out on her... LOL
When I see the pictures of the lovely ladies in this forum I appreciate their effort and beauty. I admire the skill they have with their makeup and clothing choices and of course I try to take some of what I see and adapt it to my own dressing. Whether here or in public I am always watching other women, especially those in my age, height and size groups to see what I feel works and doesn't work so that I can improve my style and skill.
It's not a sexual thing for me, purely admiration of what they have accomplished and inspiration for what I may accomplish.
But aren't you introducing a bias into your theory by knowing that the people here are genetically male so you look closer at the picture? I have many friends who "pass" (hate that word) everyday with little question. I also have many friends who couldn't pass in the dark but they are happy with who they are. I am physically attracted to 3-4 of my friends and I know whats under the clothes but they are beautiful people inside and out. If you met them on the street you would most likely assume they were GGQuote:
Originally Posted by Lacy PJs
Women seem to have no reservations about calling other women pretty. I hear it all the time, from my wife and others. But when a CDer thinks other CDers are pretty, their sexuality gets questioned. How dumb.
For me, I am only attracted to females... But that doesn't have to mean genetic females. I've been treading down this road of self discovery a lot lately.. For years I simply identified as a cross dresser... More & more I'm feeling a disconnect from my male side. I feel that it's much more likely things go deeper then that & I am really struggling with the idea that I am really in the wrong body..
However, one thing I do know... I am truly only attracted to women... & when I see a beautiful girl here, or anywhere... I am turned on.. I kinda felt that if I was truly meant to be a woman, then I should have some attraction to men..
Reading through some of your replies here, I feel better... Simply because we each have our own feelings toward sexuality & attraction but it's not what defines us, by any means.
We don't need labels, we can just enjoy beauty & love any way we choose....
I know that I am repeating myself but when I'm enfemme I like men. Maybe its just a facade for any latent feelings that I may have, but his aspect of my being didn't manifest itself until I was almost sixty years of age.
My mother received compliments on her looks, makeup, hair, attire, and eye wear many times. No one ever thought "nasty" things about that. But today who knows. It seems to me, and it might just be me, that too many people are quick to jump to the wrong conclusions when it comes to especially sexual matters.
For me it's a little strange but more so it's like wow that had to take a lot of work to look so good.
I know how hard for me to get a look I'm happy with and I know I don't even come close to some of the beauties on here.
So it's just one admiring another
I'm a senior. I have made the journey in life to appreciate the fact I have lived longer than a lot of other people I have known. It's strange, but, when people age they do tend to look a little different than when in their twenties or thirties, etc. Yes, there are some really attractive youngsters on this site. Do I get a tingle when I view their presentations? No. I've learned over the decades that beauty is skin deep. I do admire their presentation. I've got to other sites where the pictures are supposedly of MtF cross dressers. Checking their Adam's Apple yep they're seem to be a cross dresser. All I can say is wow- 100% passable.
On this site I also see the pictures of many older MtF cross dressers who are in their "mature" years. For their ages, and, what I would expect to see in a real woman that age, those MtF also look very attractive. I've made comments on some presentations that it is really difficult for me to accept the fact they are decades older than they appear. They have aged well, as a fine wine.
As a 65+ I always made an attempt to be as attractive as a mature woman may be. Some day I expect I will be an aged great grandmother. I still will want to dress nicely.
A suggestion for those who know they generate some serious "drool" on this site, please eat well, exercise and take care of your health. Someday you'll also want to be a senior citizen on this site.
I feel this way too. :iagree:Quote:
Originally Posted by Amanda L.
I'm married and my wife is super gorgeous. TBS, I absolutely love looking at all the beautiful girls in here. Do I desire them? Yes, some of them. They are gorgeous girls. If you are a girl or woman and especially if you are hot I am going to drool over you regardless of your "equipment".
I hope that answers your question hon.
Love,
Lexi V.
I'd be lying if I said I didn't have feelings of jealousy. >_<
I look at the pictures here and admire them for 2 things: First the happiness and comfort I can see in their visages and postures which gives me hope that I can get there too. Second is the beauty I see in people being true to themselves on both the inside and outside. Nothing sexual about it, it's simply that beauty is beauty. I've never found a guy appealing in an physical way, likely never will but I do think 'Wow!' to myself when I see all the pics here because it's impressive to see how good they look despite what's under the hood.
its just admiring another girl
Second the motion of Lori Kurtz. The visual stirs the imagination, the rest is a matter of time and place. Intimacy with a CDTG? Cross that bridge if I come to it.
I've probably said this before but...
I'm not attracted to men. No way Jose!
When I see a picture of an attractive 'girl' on here or on any other the other places that I frequent, I tend to think "ooh, I like the look of HER" (or something to that effect) regardless of what set of chromosomes etc. they were born with! Of course, in many cases I know that this 'girl' is, like me, a "dude in a dress" but that knowledge kicks in AFTER the initial reaction. And shallow though it may sound, there are a number of CD girls that I'd like to meet sometime possibly just because of the way they look (when the 'male them' and the 'male me' might have nothing obvious in common)! I can't speak for anyone else but I think that there's a degree of "suspension of disbelief" going on - that the eyes report 'girl', the cognitive bit of the brain reports 'dude in a dress' and something in between goes "yeah, yeah, yeah I know that but just go with what you see". It's difficult to explain coherently but one of the consequences is that, when it comes to relating to those of us on here who present as female I tend to think of all of us as 'girls' regardless of what 'label' we may bear.
Oh there is so much Barbara Striesand here. We are all guys, (well mostly) and being guys we can get horny at the drop of a hat. Plus being crossdressed, swishing around in our sexy outfits and teetering around in our heels can raise the kinkiness factor to new heights! That said, given the right amount of alcohol and the right amount of Hotness:heehee: we become like fish chasing after a shiny lure. You might go home with a number 10 and wake up with a number 1 but remember you are walking a fine line out there.
Being a man I find other CDs attractive like I would any woman. Going anywhere with it though is a different story.
Yes I will admit that I love the feminine form. If you look like a woman I may find something in that form that I like. So attraction is not physical nor sexual it is just I am attracted. Yes I forget that you're the icing on the cake. I think the love and attraction is the same as a family member. I want to go to bed with you never comes into question. But you are good looking. Still I love the feminine form and women. For that I am a lesbian, though I may never find anyone who loves me again. I will live out the rest of my life alone but invariably happy.
Tess
my answer would be.........oh wait.......I am not straight......LOL........so my answer wont help.........
I am sexually attracted to humans that look female regardless of the plumbing and no longer care what label others want to put on it. So me in the mirror if i do a good paint job, cis-girl, other CD, m2f trans etc all work ;o) but not the hairy man in dress look.
I just feel like a guy admiring a good looking woman. There are times when I wonder what it would be like to actually be 'passable' and go out in public.
For now I must be content with being a good looking guy, who enjoys CD'ing.
Di
I find myself admiring her beauty and especially how she is dressed. I am usually jealous of her appearance and wishing that I could be her.
I just try and figure-out what they're doing that works for them.
But the other way also works: the one's that have obviously missed the boat and need A LOT of help can tell you what NOT to do.
So I study every picture and in the magazines, too.
I look at another CDer like one artist appraising another's work.
I am happy for them if they have it working.
I am hopeful for them if it isn't.
But I would never offer criticism unless asked directly for my help..........if I had any to offer.
But to me they are and always will be a male to female crossdresser.
Compared to my SO, no one can compete. She is the real thing.
A VW bug painted Ferrari red is still a VW bug. A Ferrari will never have to compete for sexiest sports car with a VW bug.
So this is THE complete post. CDing, hot SOs, cars, and shoes. Whoops!
I love Mary Janes.
NOW it is complete.
I do admire all the hard work that so many of us put in to their presentation. I find it hard to believe that hot girl is a dude. Really though I look at the pics to help with my own presentation. If there is something I'm not doing I try to do it next time I get dressed.
Mostly pretty much I regard most on this site as female / women given that that is the way they wish to present. I think there are some very attractive women on this forum but no I'm not sexually attracted to them.
For me when I look at attractive CD TG girl feelings are of some envy and wishing I was 30 years younger. I enjoy to look at the different ways they achieve the look and admiring the look but thats about it. When I want some stimulation I look at Jayden James or something along that line to dream about what could be would be uhh fantasy.
I'm married and CDing isn't sexual for me.
I can admire a beautiful TG person for their effort and good genetics.
I realize that I'm well past my "sell by" date and I'm fine with that. I don't have to worry about unwanted male attention and the dangers that brings.
Adrianna! your answer is definitely wanted....especially as you were one of the girls mentioned as hot and passable in the original post!Quote:
Originally Posted by Adriana Moretti
you are so right about adriana, babbs. as one of the lucky ones to have met her,
she is much more beautiful on the inside! i'm proud to call her my goomba! :)
Wow! Lori, thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and feelings. I have to say that you have expressed, 99.99% perfectly what I feel when I dress, and why I dress. I'm so happy and glad to know there are other people in the world who feel the same way as me!Quote:
Originally Posted by Lori Kurtz
For me, it's a mix of 'attracted to' and 'want to be' (same as another person earlier in this thread)
well...as a bi -sexual gal ( which reads gay by the ignorant)...i do find some of the gals attractive, on here, and those I met in real life. I have dated men,women, and cd's. I see people for people...clothes are clothes...sooner or later you r going to have to take em off... When it comes to cd's I have dated a few and had a relationship with one crossdresser for over a year and a half..and it was pretty awesome. I gained a whole new wardrobe LOL. Here's the thing...she wasnt the most attractive cd i known...but she was cool, and down to earth. To me there is more to people no matter what sex they are, or what clothes they wear.
But you would be surprised at how many cd's will date ( using that term lightly) other cd's. ...its not touched on much on this forum ( the majority here seems to be married and part timers)...but for the gals out publicly and on the party scenes it's the norm..i get invited "back to the hotel" often and know pleanty of others who been asked too.....i never accept the offers, i'd rather keep most of them as friends and my reputation in check....but I DID once..and YES.... she was the girl when i first scanned the room i said in my head "WOW.....She is hot"...
and thanks for the nice complimints....wow i cant spell...this forum needs spell check im just awful xoxo