Do you WANT to be known as the crossdresser?

I am fine with the term. I don't want to transition. I love the male side of myself, but at am at peace with being a part time girl. I don't want to be public and I some times, while I would feel better with letting the world know, its hard to put the genie back in the bottle when its out.

I actually prefer being called a crossdresser or transgender/fluid is fine too. I hate being called a tranny not fond of the technical term ''transvestite'' either or being regarded as someone with Transvestic disorder :Angry3: Its not a disorder.

In my days of early expression, we did not have the variance of terms used in this age...... if I was detected, the terms tranny-perv-gay-fag were used... it was hurtful......even in a progressive(I thought)HS in my teen years my androgynous look was met with derision.....even my girlfriends in HS(many years ago) would use those terms once they became aware.. the hurt was eased with a VERY supportive Mother & Aunt (both Bohemian nutcases) who are appalled(jokingly) that their daughter/niece turned out to be a republican-lol........oh to be a 16 yr old in today's environment!......transition would have started at an earlier age....labels/words used by people can have significant meaning if backed with conviction......support group I help out with for young CDs/TGs, I lend my experience to say, 1st-be who ARE... 2nd......embrace that person and seek support step by step...and 3rd...do not worry about a label-educate others who you ARE.....

being known as "the cross dresser" comes with excess baggage like he must be gay are he wants to be a girl ,he is not manly enough, he is a Sissy, he's a punk,pantywaist,he's a TS,. .....

he's a pervert,don't trust him around kids,

Hell no! It has such a negative vibe to it! I'm freaking gender fluid, I like to think I'm helping define the look (you listening Tom...Ford...I know you are 😉 )

Oh, no way.

I have a hard enough time getting people to accept me for me, much less tossing the crossdresser moniker on top of that. I'm in that situation of being called on when others have some sort of catastrophe in their lives, but get ignored when they have some sort of celebration. That gets old real fast. Plenty of times, I keep asking myself why I allow myself to be drawn into that mess. But, that's the way it goes. They may not realize that I made their problem go away. I know I did, and that only I can own that good feeling.

Little do they know, that person that came to their rescue, is one of those disgusting crossdressers that they openly condemn.

Meghan,
As far as the public are concerned once they know, it's either trannie or crossdresser , whether we try and educate them or not that's what most will use to describe us, I don't mind if they stick to that and don't use more abusive terms.

I still don't get it some members think those think people will attach other connotations to the label, apart from wondering if we're gay. Also to most people they think because we dress like women , we want to be women , but don't differentiate between TG and TS, many don't see the difference.

Personally I've not been called any of those names , maybe it's the way I put it across but I'm still Terry that becomes Teresa sometimes, they don't attach a label, or turn their noses up with thinking I'm weird or it's a sexual fetish.