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Stephanie,
I would go out on the first date in male mode and get to know her first. Then talk about things from there. I wish you the best though. Always nice having a GG in your life that appreciates us. Had a girlfriend years ago that knew, we had so much fun together.
Hugs,
Brandy ;)
I would go with presenting as male mode, but if you think she likes that you have another side, you could consider underdressing with panties and hose and painted toenails. She might enjoy that little secret that no one else can see. And if she does want you dressed, you can have an outfit in the trunk - maybe one she helped pick.
just some options,
Hugs, Ellen
Well tonights the big night, Can I tell you I'm as nervous as a schoolgirl going to her first dance? I have decided that I am going as Dave and Stephanie is staying home for the night. I purchased a new pair of Khaki Slacks and Shirt for tonight. Since the weather is Supposed to be pretty crappy today, I decided against the wharf and concert ( I have to check the website but I think the concert has already been canceled anyway).
I am taking her to dinner at a small Italian Restaurant that I know of, that is quite small and intimate and has really good food, and as can not come up with any alternatives (because of the weather) it looks like I am going back to plan A and taking her to a movie after dinner. Also on the plus side (as I may have mentioned before) I am very much into classic cars ( having restored one or two in the past and currently working on a 68 Chevelle). Tomorrow I am attending a Car Show to raise money to help offset the costs of school supplies for underprivileged children, and Chris asked if she could go with me.
As far as Stephanie is concerned, even though I know Chris seems ok with my dressing, I am going to wait and let her mention her and then maybe in the future we can go out together.
You have a great plan.... put a lot of thought into the evening. Go get her, tiger!
Stephanie, sounds like a great plan. Have a great time.
Agree - go as a gentleman. The first time I went out with my wife, and she knew about Bree - the first time i met her i was in girl mode - we went out as a male/female couple. The rest, as they say is history.
Good plan, Stephanie. Here's hoping the two you of you enjoy a wonderful evening and really hit it off.
Hugs,
Kelly
I've been following this thread. Good plan. You'll do fine. I'm looking forward to hearing how it went!
Hey Stephanie,Quote:
Originally Posted by Stephanie Nicole
Your plan is a winner. An intimate Italian restaurant and a movie is one of my favorite dates, I think, it's been several weeks. Sigh. Be careful and don't sweep your crossdressing under the rug. Minimizing it may give her the wrong impression. Be open and honest with everything about yourself.
Jeri Ann
Hope you both have a great evening! Let us know how it goes!
Here is my free advice. I agree with teresa, ut if you spend more time as Steph and plan on more time as Steph maybe the firsdt date would be the way to go. But I thin k I would go in boy mode and maybe bring up my dressing while on the date, to much would scare her off I thing
I love the idea that you'll wait until she brings up Steph which she no doubt will since she's already aware of her. You have already broken the ice with her and more ice will be broken in the next two days. My, also free, advice is, when she brings up the subject, ask if she'd like to see Steph in full bloom. If so, be sure and include her, ask her opinion, is my makeup Ok? Is this too daring, etc. Let her know you value her opinion and she may run with it.
Good luck but be careful.
Keep the channels open and do not push it too fast.
Good LUCK.
Great story hon thats awesome! I would go as Stephanie because she knows and you go out as her anyway.
In the context of when you asked her to go out, if you were dressed then I would guess you have created an expectation that you will be dressed on the outing. In this case I would just ask her if she is expecting you enfemme!
Update, we went out and had a great dinner and a great time at the movie, then when out for a late night cup of coffee (neither one of us drinks more than the occasional beer or glass of wine) afterwards as it was getting late I was getting ready to take her home and since she lives a little far from me and we are going out early again this morning, she asked if she could stay the night at my place ( like a proper gentleman I let her take the lead and she slept in my bed while I slept on the couch, she even borrowed one of my nightgowns) we talked for a bit and my dressing did come up and she asked me why I did it, I told her about how I got started and how I feel when I am dressed. She seemed to accept that and even said she would like maybe in the future about having a girls night out) I even modeled a few outfits for her. Today we are going to a charity car show with my 1968 chevelle that I am restoring and it turns out she loves classic cars. Did I find a great girl or what!!!!
great, it sounds very promising for a positive relationship, keep us informed please
glad the date worked out and that you both had a good time. Hope the budding relationship blossoms for you!
As I said the date Sat could not have gone better, then we went to a car show on Sunday in my Chevelle, because Chris stayed at my house overnight she didn't have any clothes with her for the show so again she asked to borrow an outfit from Stephanie,( we are close enough in size that it worked for everything except shoes). She borrowed a pair of shorts and top and even a clean pair of panties. We had a blast at the show and then went to dinner afterwards, I took her back to my house where she collected her clothes from our date and then took her home, She told me she had an amazing weekend and couldn't wait to do it again, next time she wants to have a spa date with Stephanie, massages, facials, nails done etc...
Stephanie,
There is no doubt that YOU have found one FANTASTIC lady!
She's already laid out plans for your next date. Follow through if you feel comfortable doing all that.
I would start thinking about your 3rd date!
Congrats & enjoy, Connie.
Could it be that she likes you because of Stephanie?
Could she be seeing how far you'll go? Just a thought.
Wow! You appear to have struck gold, Stephanie. So happy for you.
We talked last night at dinner and she said she likes me for me all the parts of me and as has no problem with my dressing as long as I am being careful not to get hurt or not hurting anyone else. She actually thinks I'm cute when dressed up ( even though I am bald with a beard and moustache go figure lol). She loves that I have very masculine interests (as she worded it, like working on my cars and taking it to shows) and that even though Stephanie is a part of me, she isn't the whole of me. She did ask me seriously if I had thought about going full time and I told her no I do not plan on it as it is just a comfort thing ( I don't consider dressing a hobby, it is more a way of expressing a part of myself) and she accepted that answer as it was the best one I could give her. She said she is not into women but because I am still a man underneath the clothes, she does not consider Stephanie to be a woman.Quote:
Originally Posted by Connie.Marie
Just a little update, Chris and I are still going strong. We see each other several nights a week and usually spend the weekends together either at her place or mine. We have gone out twice as girlfriends (that is the best way I could put it). next weekend is our 2 month anniversary and we are planning on going away for the weekend, I am picking her up Thursday night and we are leaving Friday morning for a weekend getaway in the Pocono Mountains, While I did plan on leaving Stephanie home for the weekend, Last night she told me to make sure I packed a nice dress for dinner one night. I am crazy about this girl and falling for her more and more every day to the point I am considering doing something I have never done before, As I said before I am very much into classic cars and own a 1968 Chevelle that I am about 90% finished restoring ( down to paint and some minor cosmetic things), I have had it for about 10 years and have never ever let anyone else drive it, Today I went and had a set of keys made for Chris, I attached them to a key ring that also has an ENGAGEMENT RING, I plan on asking her to marry me next weekend. She is the only thing I can think about when we are not together and when we are together I can only think about how lucky I am to have found such a wonderful person. When we go away I am going to use the excuse of teaching her to Drive the car ( thus the need for the keys) and have found a small secluded beautiful spot in an open field with a stream and waterfall in the background, that is where I am going to ask her.
Congratulations ! Make sure you start a thread to let us know how it goes.
Hi Stephanie:hugs:, That sounds just wonderful, please ne careful not to overwhelm:love:her, Good Luck with your plans,
Please do keep us updated, >Orchid
good luck
Wow - getting engaged!!!??? Sounds like the two of you are going to have a wonderful weekend!!!
Seems a little quick to be asking her to marry you, I wish you luck.
hope all goes well.
I also agree. Go in male mode and let her see that side of you. She knows about the other side and you can present that later.
It sounds like you have found yourself a wonderful woman. I will only say be careful about going so quickly into a marriage. Pace yourself because a wedding proposal this soon might scare her away and you definitely don't want to do that.Quote:
Originally Posted by Stephanie Nicole
I agree. Sixty days is a very short time. Enjoy your time together but let it build slowly. Just my 0.02cts, from long experience. Ask me how I know.
Ineke
Stephanie. Like many have already mentioned, it is probably too soon to go en femme. Just me but go in male outter clothes. It is a first date so under dressing should be more than cool as you want to be comfortable. I don't recall who it was that mentioned it but be sure to treat her like a real lady.
Hi Stephanie, I'm new to this thread, but it reads like a fairytale. I'm so happy for you. My $0.02 is that it does seem early for a proposal, but on the other hand when you know it's right you just know. You've been with her quite a bit, so you must have a good feeling about how she is going to react. Maybe to offset the quickness of the proposal, suggest a long engagement. If she's really keen on the marriage idea she might suggest to make it shorter. By the way, your plan of how and where to do it is just perfect - totally romantic but with a good dose of your personality. I think she is going to love it. Sounds like you already have a good balance to your life, but don't forget to keep the male part of the relationship in the driver seat and save Stephanie for the special times. She seems very generous on that front, so you're very lucky that you can likely just wait for her it invite Stephanie to the party.
Wishing you the best for the big weekend. Go get'er gir!!!
Sorry for not updating this sooner. I did it, I asked her to marry me and she said..... YES!!!!!!!!!!!. She has made me the happiest person alive, I have been on a 3 week high. We have decided not to rush things and are looking at a Fall 2018 or Spring 2019 date. Since we have both had previous marriages we are going tohave a small ceremony at the spot where I proposed to her, with just our families and close friends. After my previous marriage broke up I did not believe that I could find another person that could make me so happy. I have felt like the luckiest person in the world.
Congratulations Stephanie!:):hugs::love::thumbsup::cheer::^5::jump ing:
Congratulations! :) So happy for you both.
Was so afraid to reopen this thread. Then, I was literally doing the happy dance for you. Thank you so much for sharing with us such a wonderful time of your life. On a site that is filled with marriage challenges (to say the least), it is so uplifting to see one on the verge of blossoming. From the bottom of my heart - congratulations ... well done girl!!!
Congratulations Stephanie!!! Apparently Chris didn't wreck the car?!!! :love:
:jump: Congratulations!! :jump:
Wow! That is wonderful news. Thanks so much for sharing.
:cheer::^5:
She was actually petrified to drive the car lol as it is kind of quick ( I put a 396 with a 5 speed in it). it took me a little convincing and a promise that if anything did happen I wouldn't be angry with her to get her to drive it. Now she is hooked and wants me to build her a Mustang (her favorite car). I actually tracked down a 66 fastback for sale at a good price, if I can make the deal I might surprise her with it for ChristmasQuote:
Originally Posted by Jamie Lynn
If you asked her out as a male then that is how you should go, if you were dressed then you would present as female.
WOW!! Stephanie,396.. w/ 5 speed... How does Tim the tool man put it Arrrgh!! Arrrgh! :)Quote:
Originally Posted by Stephanie Nicole
Awesome, Stephanie! I hope the deal works out!!
I want to thank everyone for their advice and well wishes. Chris has made me the happiest person alive. She loves me for who I am the complete package, not just part of it, and I love everything about her from the top of her head to the soles of her feet. I did get her the Mustang as a Christmas gift (shh....) Her father has a good friend that is doing the body work and hiding it for me while we rebuild the motor ( an original factory numbers matching 289 but an automatic not a manual transmission) and I am going to have it painted a nice deep red for her. I hate telling her I am working late while I have secretly started working on the car but I do know in the end it will be worth it. As for Stephanie she is alive and well and a part of our relationship. We don't really go out that much as girlfriends ( Like I have said tons of times I am not really passable) other than a late night drive or something along those lines but at least once or twice a week Stephanie has her time with Chris, and we both have lots of fun be it just watching a movie or playing a game or just sitting talking over a glass of wine, I let Chris lead the way to whatever we do.
Gawds ..... '68 Chevelle with a 396 and five-speed, and a '66 Mustang with a 289 .... crap, I may want to marry you myself!! LOL
(Yup, i is a gearhead, too.)
I guess the big question now is which of you two gets to wear the wedding gown? :p
We have possibly even solved the wedding gown issue already ( nothing set in stone yet though) we were talking about having 2 ceremonies, one a traditional ceremony for our friends and families with me in a tux and her in a gown ( though since it is both our second marriages we really are not looking for a full formal occasion) and then a second one a few months later with both of us wearing White formal dresses ( not really wedding gowns per se)Quote:
Originally Posted by Kayliedaskope
Yes I am a real gear head, besides the Chevelle and Mustang, I have previously owned and/or restored a 1934 3-window coupe with a flat 8, a 1939 Plymouth Businessmans special with a 440, a 69 Hemi Road Runner and a 1970 Trans Am Super Duty 455
Most of the engine work I do myself, I am not a body man by any stretch of the imagination lol, but for her Mustang since I want it ready for Christmas, I have farmed out most of the work to friends so that it can be done in time. I have one person doing the paint and body work and her father and I are rebuilding the motor in his garage. I should have the car back sometime around Thanksgiving so that I can get the motor in and tuned properly before giving it to her
Do the car up like the Mustang from "Bullitt" or maybe Eleanor from "Gone in 60 Seconds."
Let's see .... family vehicles were/still are:
'67 Mustang coupe with a 170 straight six
'63 Chevrolet C-10 with a 350 and a PowerGlide automatic
'68 Plymouth Fury III with a 318
'63 VW Bug with the original 1300cc and 6-volt system
'73 VW Bug with a dual-port 1600cc and a '79 transmission
'97 Dodge Dakota Sport with a 5.2L V-8
'07 Toyota Tacoma long bed
Oh, and my brother owns a Kawasaki Vulcan and a Triumph Thunderbird.
I'm really glad to hear that you found "The One," Stephanie, and I hope the two of you have many long happy years together and many miles under your wheels.
I drove an S/S 396 once at Union Grove Dragway. It is a FAST car. The quickest and fastest thing I ever owned was a Suzuki GXSR 750.
Wow! Fast cars AND wedding dresses. You are a lucky individual. Enjoy!