Because I hate wearing weird clothes all the time. Most of the time I just want to wear something normal: skirts and dresses.
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Because I hate wearing weird clothes all the time. Most of the time I just want to wear something normal: skirts and dresses.
I believe if I knew the answer to this question I would know everything.
Audrey,Quote:
Originally Posted by audreyinalbany
Another great response on this thread.
It makes a point very well that I had not prior given consideration to about my CD motivations. I lived deep inside "the world of men", in the armed forces, a 'manly' profession. I was immersed in manliness, old fashioned honor (codes, etc), dangerous stuff, all of it.
What a great way, physically - spiritually - psychologically - to get away from the madness of it all.
(a)Because I feel more relaxed in them.
(b)Because there is more variety in them.
(c)Because I look great in them!
It feels like me inside
It makes me feel so comfortable and relaxed when I am dressed, in other words just being myself
I know now that I would have been far happier in life if I had been born female. Crossdressing in private is a way to feel feminine, and given my particular combination of brain wiring, world view and laziness, this setup provides the greatest emotional ROI, and is the current peak of my psychosexual Laffer curve.
Because they're not 'womens' clothes , they're my clothes
Because they are more comfortable and a better variety of styles to chose from
Why You Want To:
After 50 plus years of being just a male, I want to try and experience, what it is like to feel, look, and present myself as a female. I know I will always be a male, but I need to express my feminine side, and crossdressing allows me to express my female tendencies.
Why You Don't Stop:
The simple answer is, because I enjoy it, and I do , but, it is also an escape from my male world. When I dress I can be stress free, feminine, sensual, and just enjoy being a crossdresser.
Can You Stop:
NO!
Why Should You Stop:
I can't think of any reason why I should.
I want to wear women's clothes because I enjoy it
I've been trying to figure out the answer to this question for almost 50 years. Hasn't come to me yet and probably never will. All that I do know, is that it doesn't appear to be diminishing at all.
Long ago, in spite of conflicted feelings, but before I was even aware of any crossdressing or non-manly feelings, a (platonic) long time woman friend responded to my presence in a group of women, which someone questioned, as: "he's ok, he's one of us."
My male side silently protested, but deep inside I thrilled at what I realized was a high compliment.
Perhaps she saw something deep within me, deeper than the feminine clothes I feel compelled to wear today.
Perhaps someone can explain that to me.
Ineke
I'm stilling trying to answer this question for myself. I'll let people know when I figure it out.
Well, Pat's thread on Nov 2nd - Our favorite "why" questions probably provides some scientific clues but without some confessions and testing, I don't know if any or all of the theories apply to me or not. Beyond that, I think I know why I started crossdressing. It was an exciting sexual fetish for a young boy in puberty. But why I stuck with it? Still trying to figure that out.
For me its a desire to wear girly clothes. I like how soft women's clothing are. I like the multitudes of color choices. I like how I look when dressed.I like to stay up with the current fashion trends. I actually take time to put an outfit together as opposed to being en drab where I just put on a T-shirt and jeans. If I could wear girly clothes all the time I would in a heartbeat. But that isn't an option right now.
Ineke,
Thank you. That is a very impressive and powerful story. A great psychic instinct on the part of your GG friends. Awesome.
It was so hard to decide what to include and what to leave out in that summary thread "Our favorite 'Why' questions." One of the things I left out was consideration of the idea that crossdressing might be sexually motivated. I know it's a total article of faith for many here on the forum that it's a valid motivation, but psychological studies seem to indicate the two are not strongly linked. Fetish dressing is what's termed "an extinction behavior" -- that is, with repeated dressing the sexual motivation fades away. There are many posts on this site that describe that scenario and it was the same for me as well. And if you think about it, males find many, many ways to express sexual behavior -- why pick crossdressing? Why was that the stimulus of choice? My own, half-baked, non-scientific opinion is that the sexual urge is one of the few things strong enough to overcome a male's social resistance to putting on women's clothing -- at least initially. And if they have a predisposition for crossdressing it can rapidly become the "excuse" that allows them to do it while still maintaining their masculine identity. Again, I'm not telling anyone how they feel, I'm just offering a data point for you to consider. If it resonates for you, fine. If not, fine.Quote:
Originally Posted by Lacey New
Women's clothes are in harmony with my gender identity - a near-female on the transgender spectrum. I don't want to wear women's clothes, I just naturally wear them. Full disclosure - I wear men's jeans and shirts M-F at work, but when I retire out goes the men's work clothes for sure.
Because I am a fetishistic transvestite. I love the femininity, the feel, the range of colors, being able to wear makeup and lovely jewelry. I cannot stop because it is a fundamental part of who I am and to not dress would be to deny a large part of my personality. It would be like tearing out a large part of my being.
Why I want too cause I like the way I look and feel. I'm obsessed with breasts love looking at them touching them feeling them watching them move. So wearing them seems to make sense. A man with breasts seems odd so dressing up like a woman makes having breasts not look as odd.Quote:
Originally Posted by deebra
I don't stop because there is nothing wrong with doing it.
I probably could stop but quitters never win lol
Why should I stop....probably cause I've spent thousands and thousands on breast forms clothing hip shapers wigs
Actually, it kinda does. My TG feelings predated any sexual feelings by many years. At puberty, and for a long time thereafter, dressing was an intense part of my sexuality. Then, as I came arrive at something resembling acceptance of my nature, the sexual aspect started to quickly fade. It's still there, but it's like it's way in the background and little more than a shadow of what it once was. Expressing my fem self is it's own reward now, a very different and arguably, deeper satisfaction.Quote:
Originally Posted by Pat
Hi Deebra :hugs:,:hugs: It is just who I am and it is just what I do,
See line #2 in my signature.>Orchid...:daydreaming:...
I cant say that I what to wear womens clothing. It just feels so good, the soft tight clothes, that I can´t help myself :)
I feel relaxed in them. I feel free from the world when wearing them.
I wear female cloths because it feels right. When I dress the troubles of the world disappears. I feel whole and comfortable.
Why I don’t stop? Hmmm there are times I want to but I say to my s of why? I enjoy it, it hurts none. I have gone long periods of not dressing 30 years. But know I am older I have worked hard all my life put my kids thru college have a strong family and I feel now it time for me to enjoy me. So I have no desire to stop and in fact I have taken it to new levels. I keep my self hairless (laser) I have grown my breast to a full B cup, my wife knows and really doesn’t care she just doesn’t want to see me with a wig? Everything else is fine?????? I travel a lot so I get to dress often.
I've always loved girly stuff. I don't know why.
All my friends are hyper-masculine chest beaters, so I've always kept it to myself.
I have loved them since I was young. I love dressing as a girl and trying so hard to be one when I am dressed. One of these days I am going to the golf course or stand on the casting deck of the boat as Vicky. I think she is becoming more my true self, i just wish I could fit the role better.
The comfortability of it is one thing. Also I just love them for feeling sexy ...I still get the thrill all these years later
I don’t have a good answer. This has been present since a very early age...as far back as I can remember. I’ve tried on lots of different explanations over the years...AGP, fetishized dressing, TG, early childhood trauma, and persuaded myself that each was ‘why’.
At various times I’ve also tried denial and wishful thinking. At 64 and two marriages, and a life of struggle with this part of me, I’m no closer to knowing why than when i was three. I may be a bit closer to accepting myself as a good, decent, capable and worthwhile individual.
Simple...a unique and relaxing feeling that I enjoy. I know I don't look like a woman at all, but it's an awesome experience to "feel" sexy.
I dress to fulfill a need. When dressed as a woman I feel wonderful, I love the way the clothing feels. It feels so natural, I feel like I am myself. I never want to stop, I do not know if I could. It is a big part of who I am and I am happy with that person.
It's makes me feel complete.
I love the feel of light thin fabrics on skin.
How I can bare my shoulders, arms , legs and more.
I am particularly fond of strappy dresses the flow like water and hang like mist over my body.
Sandals (heeled and flat) allow me to expose my delicate pedicured toes.
I feel sensual when I am dressed.
During a period when I was being molested on a regular basis, my abuser convinced me that I was really supposed to be a girl. He would dress me in his sister's clothes, and it was during those times when, during or after sex, he would caress me, and that being the only physical affection I ever knew as a child. So I connected being dressed as a girl, to affection. For all those years, I also believed that god had forgotten about me, but by being good, god would notice and fix me and make me into the girl I was supposed to be. This left me with the feeling that I was always supposed to be wearing girl clothes. By the age of 14, I was sure that this was correct, and the idea that I was going to become a girl was firmly stuck into my mind. Apparently after going through those particular stages of development and believing that I was really a girl, that mindset 'stuck' into my personality, and that feeling (that I'm supposed to be a girl) is still present with me to this day.Quote:
Originally Posted by deebra
Because while dressed as a male, I have this constant feeling of being in the wrong clothes, and the wrong role in life. The simplest way to explain it to someone who has never felt anything like this, is, imagine you're at a formal dinner. Everyone else is in a tux or an evening gown. But YOU'RE in a bathing suit. Doesn't matter whether it's a men's or woman's bathing suit. You're just simply going to feel that you're in the wrong clothes. That's how I feel pretty much all the time when I'm dressed as a guy.Quote:
why you don't stop
Yes, but that brings with it the feeling of frustration that comes with always feeling uncomfortable. After extended periods of ONLY dressing as a male, I usually get very short tempered, and have trouble concentrating. As I've found that the desire to crossdress is constant, my mind CAN repress the desire if all else in my life is going well. There was a period from my early twenties until my thirties where I didn't crossdress at all, and thought that I had 'beaten it'. A few years later, when my life became more stress filled, my mind couldn't hold back the desire to crossdress, to the desire overwhelmed me, and I started crossdressing again. It was this that made me realize how our minds can work to repress or consciously suppress the desires, and how undue stress can make us likely to do things we would normally not do.Quote:
can you stop
Because crossdressing interferes with the likelyhood of my finding a romantic partner. Very, very few women find a crossdressed man sexually attractive; perhaps less than one tenth of one percent of the female population, or even less. A few will tolerate us, but usually only the ones who are already 'stuck' with us through marriage. The number of women who seek out crossdressers to date are few; few enough to be virtually zero. I've been using the personals now for 20 years, and have never met such a woman, though there are supposedly a few GG's on this forum who actively look for a crossdresser for a mate. Those, out of what, 4 billion females on the planet? Not such good odds.Quote:
why should you stop.
Still, until I find such a woman, I don't see the point of stopping crossdressing and feeling fidgety, aggravated and short tempered all the time. So I split my time, dating as a straight man, and in private spending my time dressed as the girl that I'm stuck feeling like I'm supposed to be.
For me it is the trill for me and who I am. I never knew and I am a DES son. I figured that it did me and I am gender fluid.
It makes me happy and i feel at peace inside not fighting with myself.whole as one complete person.Oh and i love the feel of the clothes
I want to because I want to look like a woman and because I feel very much like one when I dress up. Not to mention that womens' clothes feel softer than mens', and I absolutely hate taking them off if I have to. Women have way many more options than men when it comes to dressing up and they look great.
I don't stop simply because I don't want to stop. I love dressing up for the reasons already stated. I know for sure I cannot stop even if I wanted to, because I'm already in this thing way too deep and have already spent quite a bit of money on it, and I know I'll buy a lot more. Even if I did stop, which is extremely unlikely, I would not purge a single thing, and I am 200% positive that I'd eventually go back to crossdressing. Only reason I can think of to stop is fear of friends and family finding out. But that will never stop me.... I'm very sneaky and a good liar, not to mention I do not have a SO to worry about, so I'm basically free to do what I want.
If there were no rules in society I think I would do it just because I like the way I look. I'm kinda leggy and like to show off I guess. In reality it's kinda risky and exciting. I went to a costume party recently and dressed up, and because I sort of had social permission, it was awesome. The attention was so amazing.
I dress because it is the nearest thing to being a woman. I love being a woman. I have crossdressed since I was 16 and although I have tried to stop many times I always begin again. I love everything about being a woman. Having to wear boring male clothes and suits everyday I can't wait to get home, shower and get changed into something lovely looking and sexy feeling. I have spent a fortune on clothes and will probably spend as much again in coming years. I love the feel of stockings on my legs and high heels on my feet. I love to look in the mirror and see my female made up face looking back at me. I don't have a SO to worry about anymore as she couldn't cope with my dressing so I can wear what I want when I want and feel great. I go out dressed most weekends with a bunch of fellow gurls and we have a great time. My life has never been so exciting. So why would I ever want to stop. I hate the end of the day when "she" has to go back in the wardrobe and my mundane male existence takes over. I wouldn't give up dressing for anything. Why should I. At the end of the day I am me and I love every minute of the female me.
Because I replay enjoy doing so, it makes me feel nice inside and relaxes me, I like female clothes way better than male clothes, I have dressed for close on 50 years now, I don't want to stop, I see absolutely no reason to stop and I can think of no single reason why I would stop, it is part of who I am and I feel amazing when I dress
I love to look at a beautiful woman,dressed in a short mini skirt,off-black pantyhose,silky soft blouse&heels&I begin to imagine how it would feel being dressed just like her? I get electric feelings putting on pantyhose,closing a silk blouse&pulling a mini skirt up&
tucking the blouse in and stepping into a pair of high heels&looking at myself in the mirror.I have even more fun sitting at my sisters makeup table&trying on her blonde wig&doing my makeup
I like the fit and feel, also the style and fashion and most importantly it just feels right :battingeyelashes:
Hi my name is WENDY ....of corse WENDY
Wears women's clouthes it's puts the
Brain and outside package together
If WENDY wore men's clouthing she woul be Bob
It is not a want it is a need. If I suppress it too long it becomes an overwhelming need. If I could choose, my life would be alot easier if I didn't need to wear my clothes.
I like the way the clothes feel when you put them on, stepping into high heels is so sexy, it is just the right thing to do for me. I love to dress.
I want to because a nice pair of panties just feels right and I feel so sexy wearing them. I don't, can't, and shouldn't stop because there's nothing wrong with embracing this side of me :)
It just feels right. When dressed as female I feel normal.
It makes me happy and hurts no one....
its who i am when i dress i feel so happy and content also complete.cant get it enough lol
Why do I want to? F'd if I know!
Why don't I stop? As we all know, we can manage it, but it's always there. I don't stop because I am happy and I was tired of being unhappy.
Can you stop? Stop? No. Manage it? Probably, but no reason to.
Why should I stop? Unless my wife requests that I do (hasn't happened yet and I don't expect it will), I see no reason to stop. Who am I hurting?