Makeup to this day.
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Makeup to this day.
For me I have to say it is the makeup and embarrassment... I used be very embarrassed by dressing. Now I am at the stage in my life where I saw why the hell should I cam what other people think!
I still struggle with makeup. I?m entering the world of Being. Drag Queen but I want to look like a real girl not a clown. So I am working still to get better at makeup. This weekend I am learning how to do a nice smoky eye!
Definitely eye make up! I even had instruction and can't get it straight!
My being naive about all this until I was 65! Yes I realized much of it but did not apply it to myself! Oh, yes it is me alright! LOL
The decision to start HRT!
Seriously!
Hugs Lana Mae
- Finding time to dress without discovery while deeply in the closet.
- Finding a safe, non-obvious, hiding place for my things.
Initially it was trying to understand my urge to try on female clothes followed guilt, confusion and questioning my sexuality.
The top two are:
Where to store my female things
Make up..... I'm still struggling and need help here
Makeup without a doubt!
Eyeliner. I love an intense Arabic style and I usually wind up screaming, "good enough" after spending way too much time struggling with it. I also have to take 2 tries to get false eyelashes in the right position.
Voice has always been the hardest part. I still avoid interacting with people because it is so incongruent.
Something that i had difficulty with at first was finding the right type of female clothes to suit my figure. (i don't use forms/padding)
Fortunately i am short and skinny and my hip to waist ratio is very good compared to most GMs, but even so i quickly discovered that some clothes that looked great on women didn't look good on me.
I had some great guidance from my wife about garments to try and have now found certain looks that suit me.
Yes, i had the same feelings of confusion, shame & guilt when i began experimenting with CDing, altho in my case i was always clear about my sexuality.Quote:
Originally Posted by Fran out
That I was initially a sexual delinquent and was far from the normal. After a while, I realised it was the vanilla world that was in denial of their true selves.
As to the dressing, the epiphany on why I cant hook a bra from the back.... large man arms dont stretch like a nat gg.
OMG, this.Quote:
Originally Posted by Taylor186
Makeup. Still struggle with it.
Oh yeah,make up for sure is a struggle. But I keep at it,I have to get better eventually.
And I always clip my bra in the front and spin it around.
clothes never a problem.makeup used to be ,but not so much now.
I got a free tube of lip gloss from VS. You may want to try some if you have trouble putting on lipstick or just want something a little less obvious. I've been putting it on before going to work.
Marion
Buying fem stuff to wear
Hello Brandie
finding the right sized bra was not easy. And then learning how to wear it!
luv J
I've practiced makeup consistently and watched tons of videos on techniques . Whenever i dress i have a specific makeup look in mind.
I struggle with certain heels. 3" heels is my limit or i basically can't walk
Makeup,
clothing that fits my tall figure,
Guilt and self-acceptance,
Finding a accepting GG,
Men ... arg
Some heels are designed only for looks and are terrible for walking.
I studied the reviews before choosing what to buy.
I've gone shopping in heels.
Great advice Marion. I used to struggle with lipstick all the time. Tried lip gloss a while back and haven't used lipstick since.Quote:
Originally Posted by Maid_Marion
I tried False Eyelashes today for the first time. What a joke. Man they make looking like a woman tough. I am gain a lot more respect for what women do every day. My hat is off to them.
I will practice my eye lashes more.
Always eye liner for me.....still struggle sometimes
Here is what I've struggled with:
- Guilt and shame about enjoying cross-dressing. Self-acceptance.
- When I started cross-dressing as a teen, fighting myself to not do it when I had the opportunity. I could only cross-dress when I was alone at home, and it was hard to predict when this would happen. So when I was alone, I tried not to do it. Mostly failed.
- The fear of getting caught. I played it safe most of the time, but one time I risked putting on a front-close bra when I wasn't alone because I'd never done it before.
- Guessing clothing sizes. I'm not brave enough to shop in stores, so when I started buying clothing it was a guessing game about what would fit.
In the beginning! I have large feet and when I first started it was nearly impossible to find women's shoes larger than 10 or 11. When you did find a pair, they looked like they were designed by Dr Who. That was a struggle. These days everything is a click away.
At 12 my real struggle was trying to hide my lingerie etc so my mum did not discover it when she cleaned my room. X
Like others I would say I struggled with "why do I have this desire" then accepting my desire and behavior. Whew...…… I did want to dress up and for the life of me I could not ever understand why I did. Oh and eyeliner.
Getting the eye liner right. :hugs:
Angie
ditto! The struggle lolQuote:
Originally Posted by Madilyn A.
I have always had problems zipping up my dresses.
Also have problems trying to tie a perfect bow on my dresses that have them.
That's when I wish I had a understanding SO to help me.
Ignorance is bliss. Hard as it may be to believe in this day of unlimited resources, 40+ years ago I really didn't have an ideological struggle with it. I felt pretty free to be different and was largely unaware of the huge implications.
As far as in-practice struggles, if I was looking back at old pics I'm sure I'd say I struggled with makeup, but I didn't think I was struggling then. Eye shadow was blue and lipstick was red. I wore pancake makeup, and lots of it. GG's did the same thing back then. Heavy foundation was the norm. We didn't agonize over perfection, and were not really aware of what perfection would even look like. I wore my makeup about like other women did. I don't think anybody ever heard of contouring. I remember my first pro makeover in about 1985 I was told to make a "V" with my fingers out from my ears and apply blush there, then the jaw line, then above my brows, then right in the middle of the top of my forehead. I had more blush(ed) than not, and I thought I looked like a supermodel. I'm sure if I could see those pics now (that my ex has) I'd think I looked more like a clown.
Less knowledge, less struggle.
For me it is makeup as I don't want to look like a clown. When I first started off I looked like one. It has gotten better. Still not where I want to be but I feel comfortable enough to go out. I am still wanting help some to bring the eldery lady that I know I am out. One day I will be able to do that.
I'm struggling with weight. I want to look good in a dress, not look like I'm pregnant.
I can look okay in tunics or loose tops. And skirts are probably right out for now.
I think acceptance in the 50s. When I moved away from home I thought people looked down on me. I was lucky. I worked for an upscale store and some of the women recognized my desires for women's clothes. Lingerie was hard in the beginning, but one of the SAs had a friend at a lingerie store and told me she would be happy to help me pick stuff for my "sister". The break through was when I went to a movie with a friend as Sandra Dee.
For me it was back closure bras. Ah, such sweet innocent times. :)
Looking like a woman. I feel that I have gotten better! I had to figure it all out myself. The last time I dressed I took pictures as usual, and several of them looked outstanding. So the progress continues.
Makeup was hard but a lot of fun and heels just took practice.
For me the hardest(and scariest!l part was figuring out how to get out of a bra!
Particularly when I first started as a thirteen year old who only had 30 minutes home alone before anyone got home. One time pretty early on I really couldn’t get out of it and I heard a car door shut in the driveway.
Talk about an adrenaline rush!
Luckily I escaped just in the nick of time, but I’m sure many of us have had similar close calls.
For me i was 6 or 7 years old and it started with my moms nylons and panty girdle the nylons were just to long so i would attach pass the welt onto the stocking it self i will never know how many stockings i put runs in but i know a lot and yes my mother did know but i don't think she told my dad thank God.
Shoes and hair Mostly-----Cheap wigs were not around when I was starting out at 13 or so in the early 60s----An while I was my mother's shoe size--her shoes were too narrow for me.-----But scarves and hats could hide my short hair and since I never went out shoes (though desired) were not needed.
honestly with a bra at first. i used a bikini bra for the longest time before i learned how to use a real bra. lol
now it's mostly make-up
Finding heels in the right size was always tough - that and false eyelashes, it took me a while before I could get my eye makeup just right
When I first started I had trouble figuring out how to put on a bra, hook in back/hook in front and rotate, if I hooked in front I would have it upside down half the time. I can do bras easily now , make up is my bane.
Makeup. Hair. Fashion, although the GG friends I have tell me I dress better than them.