Today I had a ton of time. I did it all, stockings, makeup, curled my hair, (I am growing it out). I took photos. Everytime I looked in the mirror I was shocked how good I looked to me. I would definitely ask me out.
Natalie
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Today I had a ton of time. I did it all, stockings, makeup, curled my hair, (I am growing it out). I took photos. Everytime I looked in the mirror I was shocked how good I looked to me. I would definitely ask me out.
Natalie
I'm attracted to my fem self. It was very peculiar at the beginning. Once I accepted the emotions, however, it was no longer awkward for my mind to drift to . . . myself at times.
Feedback is important, more important to some than others. Women are usually more generous in their comments and use those comments as icebreakers to start conversation oftentimes, but they are also validating what you may think or feel (or hope to)and at the same time perhaps hoping for you to return the favor. Many people, both men and women allow their lack of self confidence in appearance to have a dominating negative effect upon their day to day life. The truth is that people will judge you by many different things, appearance being only the obvious one. A great personality will usually give a great appearance a good run for it's money any day. When we are isolated in our presentation (closeted) we never get anything but "self feedback", and in order to feel good about yourself and what you are doing it is imperative that you like what you see in the mirror to maintain a feeling of self worth, especially as someone who is bending social norms. As we progress in our perceived positive presentation (mirror feedback) many become confident enough to take the next step.....stepping out the door. Some of us remember that feeling as being "scared to death" hearts racing and making a small circle to return to the sanctuary of the closed door to look in the mirror and validate or criticize what we consider to be either our assets or faults. Eventually, our hope is to become self assured enough to accept who we are and who the mirror tells us we are, faults and all. Call it what you want, but I think being attracted to what the mirror says is a good thing, especially if it builds self confidence and self worth. You will generally be a better person for it in the end.
Disclaimer: I am not a doctor or professional anything. Just throwing out an opinion, and I've been wrong before!
I look like a large female bodybuilder with facial hair when dressed up. Not the kind of look I go for. Lol
I wouldn't say I'm attracted to myself but I feel attractive and good about myself, even if there are some things about my appearance I wish were different. For the most part I like what I see when I look in the mirror. I also have a boyfriend that I've been seeing for awhile now who treats me good and always compliments me on my looks so that's been a real boost to my self confidence and how I see myself too
I have never had a wife, or SO, 65 yo, and i am six foot six. I would like to have a very tall, leggy lady friend, but sigh, no chance. I love to see a tall long legged lady in a dress, hose and heels, but in the small midwest town area where i live, there are none, at least single ones near my age. I have known some women like that, and i am totally attracted, especially if they take good care of themselves. I dress up like some of them, and i would surely date the lady in the mirror, with sleeveless dress, hose and heels, and silky shapely long legs. But, outer beauty fades away, so inner beauty of a lady, short, tall , heavy or thin, is most important, and i am attracted to some short heavy true ladies too. I must admit, though, Alice all dolled up in a nice dress, is a total turn on to me.
I have yet to make myself look like something I would be attracted to.
If I try something on and I look reasonable/passable from the neck-down I like it, as has been said before on this thread, we try and look like the kind of woman we find attractive
I still try to be the blonde bombshell I once was.......
Naah! It doesn't work now. :-)
Oh, I think you are a doctor. May I call you Dr. Fran?
Some days yes......others it would take me a few drinks :)
Love your humor (I assume it is, to some extent).Quote:
Originally Posted by Tracy Irving
When I dress, I am attracted to myself and I get sexually aroused. I think it is natural, I created someone to my desires.
Definitely. Ask my wife and she’ll say I like to see myself in a mirror whenever possible. She does understand this and in fact, when we go out dancing we look for clubs that have a mirror somewhere so I can catch a glimpse of myself. It’s been like that as long as I can remember.
For me I think it’s a mixture of vanity and autogynephilia. Not to mention all the pics I take of myself when dressed! :rolleyes:
Yes, Indeed. And I experiment with other looks too
I that noticed once I started my photo diary that; as I got better with cross dressing, I started to resemble my wife. So it is true she is the woman of my dreams! I know the psychology behind all this, and I am ok with it.
I can see why :)
Myself no.
The look of myself and the image I create, yes.
I think some of us create the look of the girl we want to be with, as such.
Glad you posted this as I?ve been thinking about the role of ?autogynephilia? in crossdressing. There are ?experts? who have attributed the entire reason for crossdressing to a misplaced sexual desire to be attracted to oneself as a woman. Ok, I?ll admit I can feel this sometimes but it just doesn?t account for all the other good feelings I get from CD. And from the responses here, some people have felt it and some not. So I conclude autogynephilia is a real phenomenon but is a minor part of CDing.
Chloe, since I first read your post here, (which was back last month when you first posted this), I have been noticing myself that I AM attracted to my feminine self..... I LOVE dressing, I love admiring myself in mirrors when I'm all done at home, plus when I go out like to Walmart, I stop to admire myself in mirrors and also to make sure my wig is cooperating. LOL
I also have well over 300 photos that I've taken dressed as Kimberly and I often look at EVERYONE of them. LOL..... Call it vanity if you will, I really don't know what else to call it, I just love looking at my feminine side. :D
well Chloe you look fabulous and nothing wrong with being in love with yourself!
I don't think there is anything wrong with being attracted to yourself. I think we all want to be the hottest versions of ourselves as we can.
Im always trying to perfect my look and find a way to make myself more attractive.
Sometimes I do. Others not
To me, usually dressing is very sexual. Attracted to myself? Darned correct I am when I dress! I love looking at myself in a mirror, I just wish I could do something about the neck and up! Some outfits I wear fairly "normal" sized fake breasts 40DDD works well on my frame, sometimes i get the big girls out. 40H! I like playing with them.
I am DEFINITELY attracted to my image as Veronica and find it very sexy. I never take selfie pictures of myself as a guy, but I've taken hundreds of Veronica. She is much more attractive and very feminine.
I think you look beautiful in the photos also. I wish I had the makeup skills you have.
Andy
Certainly I want to look like a woman I could fancy and want to go to bed with. I'm not saying i SUCCEED, but it is a goal to aim for!
It also makes me wonder what it's like to be gay. i mean, if a gay guy is attracted to other guys and is goodlooking himiself, does he get turned on when he sees his ruggedly handsome face in the mirror? How about pretty lesbian women?
Yup, I look at myself in the mirror and mutter "that skirt deserves your great legs".Quote:
Originally Posted by Majella St Gerard
I really relate with this answer. When I look in the mirror (or at pictures) and see Donna, it is as if I am seeing someone else. If I had my choice of being Donna or being with Donna, I would choose the latter.Quote:
Originally Posted by Territx
I think I am attracted to my femme self from the back view more than the front if that makes sense.
I think I have a better profile looking from the back.
No, never been attracted to Leslie Mary. Correction there are a couple of early photos that I like the person in them (still) but not the person I see now. Now she is just the person that also lives in this house with that crotchety older brother.
I’m not attracted to myself so much as fascinated at the dramatic change, especially when the whole package comes together. At that point, the feeling is sublime.
Chloe, I understand why you are attracted to yourself. You are beautiful. I don't have the same feeling about myself though.
I like the first photo best. But then I am no therapist :)
When I dress I sometimes like what I see but can't say I am attracted. I think my conscious brain tells me it's me and that neutralizes such feelings. A reason why it is difficult for me to judge if I could pass (on some better photos, that is, I know I wouldn't in the real world).
I analyzed this neutralization mechanism and it seems to me very similar to the incest safeguard mechanism which makes me unable to find women attractive when they look too much like my sisters or mother.
I don't think I am attracted to myself but I can be pleased and satisfied with the total transformation. Yesterday, I had a strange experience while wearing the outfit below. My son phoned while I was wearing it and it was real out of body experience sitting on the edge of the bed looking at the reflection of Danielle while I talked to him in my very deep male voice. It was quite incongruous hearing a very male voice coming out of a female image so unreconizable as Dave. Guess I was lucky he didn't Facetime :)
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I most likely would but I'm not as good looking as you. :hugs:
Angie
I dunno. The kind of attractiveness we are discussing is a quality I associate with women and therefore is a quality I hope I will be able to project when I am trying to emulate a woman.
I get a sense of achievement when I feel I have made a convincing presentation and part of the way I gauge that involves my, for want of a better term, male sense of female attractiveness.
But going from that to actually desiring that version of myself as mate....not really, no.
You can do what you want with your life but if you take yourself, you are more or less also saying you have given up on everybody else, right?
I wouldn't say "attracted". I believe that, at my best, I am far from today's idea of female attractiveness. That said, my best looks happen when I am en femme. I am very proud of how well I can put together an outfit, thanks to the expert advice of some very knowledgeableand loving sales ladies who have become friends. So my confidence becomes sky high when I am dressed. That makes me hold my head high and strut my "stuff", such as it is. I'm a true believer that the most attractive thing you can wear is self confidence.
The proof of the pudding is in the eating. When I am out, women regularly stop in their tracks to tell me how nice I look. Men never say a thing, of course. But who cares what toxic masculinity thinks, right?
Marcia Blue - I've never heard of the word 'autosexual' - that is a very interesting term. I think the whole autogynephile/autosexual phenomenon can be seen as a biochemical reaction. There are neurotransmitters involved like dopamine and adrenaline (as other posters have said), which are released in the brain, leading to feelings of euphoria and wellbeing.
I think that human beings operate on multiple levels at once- a shotgun approach to survival!
We learn as children that people care about how we look, judge us by how we look, and tons of things that are of value are available or not, depending on how we look. We are told to look in the mirror and to conform our image to the story we want to tell.
How we look is a message- carelessly or carefully crafted to communicate some set of facts or lies, or half truths...so that our intended audience will correctly interpret our message and react favorably.
If we want to be sexually attractive, and we know what we mean by that, it is very efficient to see if we find ourselves attractive, and pleasant to imagine that others see us the way we think they do.
This is countered by our understanding that beauty is skin deep and it is the person inside that matters.
But this is in turn countered by the fact that we are always being classified by our appearance- so we do choose every day what to wear.
I vastly prefer seeing myself in clothes that flare at the waist, as that changes the perception of me away from all shoulders and 'ready to work' and towards 'huggable waist/ fertile pelvis'. The length of my hem tells a story - serene femininity or happy sexiness. Look but don't, or do... touch. Or, .. don't look.
Some days I don't want to have attractiveness be part of the story. As part of loving my wife, I also am making myself sexually attractive to her, and that means adopting the masculine memes.
Well writen and here's looking at ya.