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"I like smoking my cigar but I take it out of my mouth once in a while."
I cross-dress because ... it just seems the natural thing to do.
I have stopped trying to understand it; I just do it.
My wife says "it's only clothes" and now I realize she is right.
luv J
Think some of it is jealously with the styles, print, fabric and other things female clothes have. Jealous that women can wear those items and men can't.
Because I'm a girl trapped in this hideous male body. Used to kid myself I simply liked female clothes. Oh my days x
i know im not, but mostly to feel pretty and that makes me happy. simple as that
Why do i dress as a woman? Good question i even wear womens clothing in male mode being in fem is who i am its me i mean who gets up at 430 in the morning puts on a bra and a dress to take the dog out ? Me thats who i have a male mode that wears mens clothing but is wearing a bra panties hair curled and jewelry its me i dont get a rush or a thrill out of dressing i am Wendy that's who i am would i like to be Wendy permanently yes yes yes .. but for now not a option i own a lot more womes clothing than male clothing i pass ok for a mature woman ..
I just love the feeling i have when wearing womens clothing.I have had these feelings since i was very young.Would not want to change it is who i really am.
I don?t know why :). Somewhere there is a part of me that gets a charge out of wearing feminine things. Even if I dress partly a few times per week I feel more alive and I?ve noticed that sex with my wife is just better (I do not dress around my wife even though she is ok with it). If I?ve gone several weeks without dressing up, I notice an arousal difference. I have a rich and full male side that I wouldn?t trade, but the Wendy side seems to make the male me much better.
I had to give a sad smile when I read this one because it strikes close to home.Quote:
Originally Posted by DaniellaUK
I tend to think of myself as a girl born with a major birth defect (the male body). I've learned that dressing and acting like a man helps disguise the defect and make me more able to blend into the "normal" world. So - I've adapted, and that's what I do most of the time.
It's an odd way of looking at things though.
Now when I get some alone time, I dress in what I feel is appropriate for ME.
I bet we all enjoy reading these threads because we ask ourselves the same question internally from time to time. One sees the same answers but they never get old. Some responses I find difficult to identify with because they would not be valid when I started at a very young age, in secret, pre- any overt sexual feelings as it was before puberty.
Maybe the answer changes as we grow but I believe any long-term behavior must have rewards.
Dressing is a chance to lay one's constant burdens aside - it is a concrete way to physically distance oneself from the cares of day-to-day life and to don a complete persona that could not possibly be associated with all those problems and fears and memories of failure and hurt. None of that was why I did it the first time, though.
Most of us, nearly all, were nurtured and cared-for in the most intimate sense by women when we were children. Women therefore represent strength and safety and dressing like them is a way to identify and connect to what we admire and love in those special females with which we are most intimately associated. -Even and perhaps especially those women that might disagree vehemently with our desire and practice of crossdressing!
The element of eroticism we enjoy when dressed is inevitable (IMO!) even to those who self-report otherwise. We are wired deep as we go to find the whole aspect as well as the tiniest elements of femininity attractive. Dressing is a way to conjure a woman we have complete control over and who can say that about any other woman? The one in the mirror or reflected in a shop window always smiles back.
Hey this is all me LOL! Any pretense of universalism is unintentional other than I hope you enjoyed reading my comment. My perspective is that of heterosexual crossdresser and is not intended to represent the motivations of the many other kinds of persons born in a male body who find dressing in female clothing rewarding in some elemental way.
It?s just feels good or right. Something that makes you relax, Actually why ? IDK. Just seems right
Because its part of my autism. Its a stim for me that feel really good. being hypertactile the feel of the clothes is very nice.
I love it, it feels natural, didnt used to was riddled with guilt for many years, but now embrace it, enjoy it, even my wife has given in trying to stop me, I go out regular and stay out overnight (with my wifes consent), I go shopping during the day, meet other girls I know, we go clubbing at night. I am now complete. The key was accepting that I couldnt defeat it, so enjoy it.
See my signature. it's what I tell myself. Or maybe it's just what was once a vice is now a habit.
Because I can.
It is fun, as well as a challenge, to coordinate outfits, find the right wig and apply makeup. I am always learning?
Whenever i've dressed, Its mainly been for comfort and relaxation reasons but it's also because as others have already said, fun. I've actually been told by a woman who i used to dress up with, that my eye contact, apparently, improves when I'm dressed as well so there you go.
I have been asking myself that for years.
Because it satisfies me. I feel some much more relaxed and enjoy the comments. So, besides the early erotic factor, I enjoy the ego stroking when asked about it.
I have no reasons that I can verbalize to someone else or even to myself to explain why. It is just something I am driven to do.
Because I have special DNA. It ate me up through midlife but now I accept and just don't worry about it.
Hugs, Michelle
I started trying female clothes and things when I was about 6, they sold some plastic finger tips that had long nails and the corner shop, they came with some candy, I used o get them and fantasize that they were mine, there was a time of playing with dolls with my sisters, then of course trying my mothers pantyhose and then shoes and well, 23 years later I married and did not know why I liked wearing feminine things. Yes I loved the feeling of the pantyhose, yes for some time it was highly erotic, but all that passed and I am still compelled to wear female clothes every day.
I used to smoke a lot, and I quit from one day to the other when my second daughter was born.
I used to bite my fingernails, and I stopped from one day to the other as well.
But I have tried to stop dressing and simply cannot, I no longer buy raunchy stuff, actually my wife jokes that my style of dressing is "grandmotherly" and I dont mind, if I can dress more by dressing more conservativelly, I am happy, I follow Stana's advise an try to dress my age, which, close to 60, is not sexy or raunchy.
So 50 something years later, I still don't know why do I crossdress, I know I am very lucky to have a wife that accepts me and loves me in spite of the crossdresing that her, the same as I, is unable to understand.
When I am dressed. I look in the mirror and Jennifer is there, I smile. I don't do that in male clothes. All is at peace. That's why I do it.
Because it feels good to be "pretty" and it "detaches" me from myself---Allowing me to completely relax, unwind and de-stress. It is also a "creative outlet" where I get to experiment with changing my appearance and get an idea of how I might have looked had I been born a female.----That's WHY I do it. (Today , anyway)
Pretty simple: it makes me happy!
Now why does it make me happy?
The clothes and the styles that I choose tend to give me a sense of completeness. The drab side of my persona works well, as far as it goes. But, my feminine wardrobe seems to add something to my maleness and not take away.
[/QUOTE]Nattelle5004 "I like smoking my cigar but I take it out of my mouth once in a while.[QUOTE].
That is an analogy I don't understand but ok....and as to the original post question, it accelerated with my ex who thought it was fun in bedroom ironically as to all things, I wanted more....dress for success etc..and it felt great.
Makes me happy, It just feels right to dress, I have different feelings when I?m Katey, puts me in my happy place. I just feel amazing!!! Oh I could go on?.
To feel less stressed and escape this reality for a bit or a day. When I am Christina I am in a different reality. It's my escape. It's also a coping skill I use to help with PTSD.
I remember when I told my wife and about a year later she had come home from work and I was dressed and that wasn't something unusual. But this time for some reason I felt embarrassed that she had to see her husband dressed like a women and I started apologizing to her that she had to see me like that and deal with it and I just didn't understand what drives me to do it. That day she put everything in prospective for me, she asked me why I have so much guilt and that I wasn't really doing anything that bad. She told me instead of trying to figure it out or look to much into it why not just enjoy it when opportunity comes. I took her advice and it just seemed like I finally got a piece mind and as much as just like anything in a marriage it's not alway a smooth road but we worked at it together and made sure we were both happy with the situation.
Yeah... as Paula said, many (most?) females like to wear very feminine clothes at times.
No, not all the time but, just when the mood strike them or when a situation warrants it .
BTW, a bridal gown is usually the ultimate in a feminine dress and most females look forward to wearing it.
Some like to dress rather feminine all the time. while others just occasionally.
So, are we basically that much different ?
I just love how it makes me feel. It wasn?t always like that, it used to come with guilt attached.
Now it just feels natural and I feel very relaxed and comfortable
Thanks crobeson. I really like and resonate with what you wrote. That woman in the mirror... And yes it is erotic!Quote:
Originally Posted by crobeson96
I love too feel feminine, and dress feminine, because I am about 80 percent female in my mind and spirit.
For about the last 20 years I've worn thong underwear off and on under my male clothing. Only started fully cross dressing, (dresses, shorts, tops for the shorts, nightgowns, bikini panties ect) in the last two months after my wife passed in July. Can't explain why I never tried cross dressing while my wife was alive except to say the thought never occured to me. After she passed I was headed to the store to buy some bikini panties for the first time and had a thought pop into my head "I wonder what I would look like dressed as a woman". That was immediately followed by "transforming Dean into Diane".
So besides buying several pair of bikini panties I bought a few dresses. Got home and decided to put on the panties and one of the dresses. That felt so wonderful and natural to be wearing women's clothes. As strange as it may sound I also discovered that I had a "female half", hence my use of Diane as my name in these forums. I'm not a woman trapped in a man's body I just feel that I have a feminine side that wanted to be able to express herself. Since 'discovering' that part of myself I feel complete, as if I was only half a person before.
For me I guess this all boils down to "I feel more comfortable, happier, natural and completely myself" when I'm wearing women's clothes. Of course I do it just at home. I have a beard and would really look strange in women's clothes in public. I might sometime decide to shave the beard so I can dress the way I feel and go out in public, but that will not be any time soon.
My reason is pretty shallow and a bit naughty: I'm turned on by seeing women getting caught flashing their panties ? especially in public media. I always knew that was embarrassing and wanted to experience it for myself.
That's all I think I should post about it...
For me it is just about the optics/aesthetics. I just think women look better, they dress better have more options in dressing, styling and for me most importantly can do a lot more with their hair. I envy them for this and admire their looks. I don't want to be a woman, I just want those possibilities in hairstyling and dressing because i simply think women look better than guys. I try to look well as a guy too. But women just have more options.and i want those options for myself. I have thought about it for my whole life. The dressing part is not that important for me. The hair is. There are a lot of guys with beautifully styled hair in feminine styles. But it just looks better when the clothing matches. So this is my shallow reason it is just about the aesthetics of a woman wich I want for myself.
I agree with Ann about the "boxer" shorts. Miserable things we were forced to wear in the USMC because they looked "manly." "Y" fronts weren't allowed. We were told men wear "trousers" and only girls and queers wear "pants." I thought it was funny because we had to wear elastic on our boots and roll up the cuffs of our trousers for that look that was called "blousing" and then the top jacket you wore was called a "blouse!" I thought a blouse was a woman's top. Anyway those boxer shorts were baggy and on long marches they wadded up and chafed you something awful, but by golly they were "Manly!" Another insane idea about clothing from the other-military-side. But why do I cross dress? Who the heck knows!? I am left handed and brown eyed, maybe it's in that mix somewhere. As always, I wish I wasn't one.
I started dressing because I was attracted to the clothing when I was young. Why I dress now is because If I don't, I can't live with myself. I get real irritable and antsy when I don't dress for a while. Then when I dress my mood changes. I can live with myself again I do it to tame down something in me. Maybe my female side is pushing me to do it. I could never figure it out. All I know once I am dressed I feel better about myself. I do know I have always had thoughts that I wish I was born female. I am also left handed , Maybe that has something to do with my dressing.