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Haha, I totaly forgot about the Microwave fire outing.
I imagine someday a similar unplanned outing will happen to some of us
Especially me, I dress so often. I bet one day the outside world will out me for some reason.
I like that Suzie. "Because it makes me feel good" I may just have to use that after the discussion,
if and when it comes up again.
Like most of our fellow ladies have said, it makes me feel good and less stressed. A lot of times being Christina for a bit helps me feel less depressed as well. People will always ask the why question and we?ll just tell them as best as we can why.
Been trying to figure out why for many years now and still don?t have a good answer. A few theories though thinking that the ?rush? experienced in early experiences was addicting. The same ?rush? may not be there as it was years ago but the general good feeling still is there.
Let us say for the sake of argument that I figure out why in all its glory and detail. That would suffice for many here on this forum, but as an engineer, l then ask, Of what use is this knowledge? Other than satisfying my curiosity, which is important in its own right, Now what? How can knowing why form a basis for actions that make my life better? How can it be used to improve the lives of others?
To those questions, I have no good answer.
Therefore, as an engineer, I will put my effort into improving other things for myself and others. I will remain watchful in case some scientist discovers the reason why but for now, I will work on other things that are more likely to produce useful results.
I stopped asking "Why?" a long ago. I just enjoy each moment as Deborah as she brings me so much happiness and I can't imagine me without her!
Sometimes the why can be useful but in my experience it only occasionally helps evaluate (and sometimes but hardly change) the present. Why does sugar taste good? Something about brain chemicals? Why do those chemicals arise from eating sugar? Something about evolution? Why that good sensation over other pleasant sensations? I got no clue, but it’s turtles all the way down, and at best it’s a roadmap to the “now”. I may one day be blessed with infinite knowledge, but that can’t alter the 20+ years of being.
As for myself, I am a better "me" when dressing. Calm. Comfortable. At times aroused yet at piece. Like escaping all the noise in the world so I can recharge my soul, gather my thoughts, just breathe. The textures of the fabrics feel so soothing on my skin. The looks I can create are beautiful to my eyes. Joy fills my heart and soul and spreads to those around me. It's all so so good.
To be honest the why doesn’t really matter. It is different for each of us.
At the end of the day it is part of who we are. Why do some enjoy hiking, skiing, football or soccer.
Accept or don’t.
But always accept who you are
Susan
So many great answers ... so many common threads among us. One other observation which I know is very shallow of me ...have you shopped in the men's department lately??? Three basic shirt styles, 3 basic pant styles, 6 basic colors, maybe some stripes or plaids. That's it! Go to a Kohl's store. The entire men's department is slightly bigger than the lingerie section (and not nearly as colorful!!!)
Claire,
I would certainly say the versatility is a bonus, but it is not at all the reason why I do it. There are certainly more options for men if I wanted to look (probably online only these days but still there), and I don't. I crossdress because I want to look like a woman, it just so happens that one of the perks is significantly wider selection. I'd be curious though if that's a main reason for others
Snide ... not the main reason for me either but definitely a bonus!!