I would take it all, the PMS and all, I embrace all the it is to be female, I would take the good (and there is a lot) with the negative....I would do it in a second:love:
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I would take it all, the PMS and all, I embrace all the it is to be female, I would take the good (and there is a lot) with the negative....I would do it in a second:love:
No. What I see them go through on a daily basis and how they get hounded by guys and made to feel like dogs at times.................. "Hell NO!" I'll stick to my dressing as time allows. :2c:
wow, great thread.
as someone who only started really living my feelings in the last couple of years, i am trying to figure out where i am really. i can identitfy with many of the posts. i know i am soft and only comfortable when i am dressed en femme and expressing my true personality as a girl/woman. i also know i wouldn't trade my children, grandchildren, etc. for anything. i know that it took me forty of my fifty years to even be able to voice my feelings. i am lucky to have a mate and great gg friends to help... i hope a couple of my old male pals can handle it. BUT i must say, if lived in todays world and knew at a young age what i know about myself now, i would transition.
so to all of us who have made it work for so many years and found so much love in spite of what we went through, in spite of having to live every day with so much effort and travail- god bless us all.
Your question is simply "would you really want to be a woman". At this time in my life, I would not want to become a woman.
That said, I will say that looking back over the whole picture, I do honestly feel that I would have been more comfortable in this life had I been born female.
It's not all sacrifice, hard work, etc... I know lots of women who enjoy rockclimbing, backpacking, having a beer, and many of them are better at it than I am. I think I would have made a great woman, thats all.
and without giving it a second thought. Wish I did it sooner.
:happy:I love to dress, I love to do my makeup and wigs, I love to go out in public.... but only when I choose to, or have the urge. I would have to force myself into an unnatural action if I tried to transition and HAD to live as a woman 24/7 for a full year. I couldn't do it. I go through mood swings as it is and I hate having to force myself to do something when I'm not up for it.
Lets play devils advocate here and look at the other side of the coin.Say that:
You are born a girl , grow up expecting to be popular, beautiful. feminine, and a models body, BUT what if that didn't happen and you were born a woman (which is what you wished for) BUT grew up to be ugly, no one asked you out, unpopular, unfeminine, fat and frumpy with greasy hair and a bad completion with bad teeth.:eek:
Would you still want to be THAT woman you wanted to be born as?
I don't think so. We as transvestites think the whole feminine world as we know it and perceive it thru rose colored glasses is all hunky Dorey, but what if the opposite were true and you had no control over how you turned "out" as a genetic woman.
Disappointed, no you would have never known any other way and maybe yearned to be born a handsome guy and switch the miserable female life and body you were born into into that guy. A case of double role reversal.
Life always seems better on the other side, until we've reached it.
Something to think about.:straightface:
There was a time, a few years back when my wife passed away, when I would have said very defininetly YES! However, that was then and this is now. My answer now would be a definite NO! For that, I thank with all my heart, my beloved GGF in Scotland! She convinced me to stay the man I was born and not to have SRS, which I was considering. I was very depressed, and felt lost without my wife.
I was born a man, but I long ago realized that I did like to dress as a woman. Purely to satisfy myself, not to attract men or for any sexual reason. Just because I like pretty clothes and the way feminine clothing fits me. I am 5 foot 10 inches, but small boned and not very heavy in the weight department. Size 16 fits me perfectly in most cases, as though it had been made for me.
When my wife was alive she always did my makeup and wig, so that I could easily pass. Now that she is gone, I do not try to pass since I am not very good with either makeup or my wig. However, I still go out in public dressed in feminine outfits very often. I believe that I am the epitome of a crossdresser, "one who wears the clothing of the opposite sex for the enjoyment of doing so." So, yes I love to dress up like a woman, but underneath the satin and lace I am still a Man and proud of it!
Sissy/Stephanie
Girl on the outside, man underneath
Even with all that comes with it, I would want to be. I wish I had been from birth. When I see boy drab in the mirror, I feel that fate played a cruel game on me. :(
Without even giving it a second thought. I was four years old when I told a nieghbor lady I wanted to be a girl, nothing has changed. It is a struggle to keep from transitioning, but if I had a choise in the matter; with out question, all the good and bad.
I would have wanted to be female for many reasons, one they are much more emotional than we are. thats a good and bad thing.but when we let our emotions go were better off, life is all about emotions, from birth to death.My emtions tell me that id be a better woman than a man. i had no choice being born with the wrong acurements. but... (theres that big ole but) that doesnt stop me from being the best i can be as a person no matter what i choose to wear that day.
Hunni, you look beautiful :)Quote:
Originally Posted by TaylorAB
If I could change, yes I would. And now for the but, the however, the considerations.... For many of us, the inner secretive wish to be a woman is deeply resident in our minds. Knowing that, for most of us, transitioning would produce only a facsimile of a woman, I could not deal with the difficulties and social disturbances that would cause for myself, my family, my friends and potential friends. I believe that it would be an extremely selfish act for me to undertake.
Further, I have lived nearly a whole "life" as a male, and know how to do that, rather well, I add. I do not believe that I could, in my remaining years, learn a whole new culture, literally a whole new social language - and - as a facsimile would face not only continuing social difficulties but also physical unknowns as the result of the surgeries.
A coward, choosing to run away from the conflict, yet to live another day; am I. But I get to dabble and to play with the womanly delights that cause me to be enlivened, delighted, and invigorated. Ummm, ummm good!
And I would guess that is why I am on the cross dresser website rather than writing for or hanging out with the transexual folks. Or, imagine this; reading recipies, makup tips, and love notions on Martha Stewart's website
Wheeeee, Rickie :love:
PS: And I agree with Teresa jeen that "I would have been a better woman than a man."
Sometimes I really want to be a woman, but then I think about all the effort, and most of all the risks associated with it, like not finding a job or not finding respect, that I end up conforming to this way of life. I know it sucks to be dressed only at home, but it's the best way some of us can cope with it.
I really wanted to be a girl up until I reached puberty. Once I realized what my "thingy" was good for, I didn't want to give it up. So, now I'm certainly not a woman and hardly a man nor am I anything in between. I'm a freak, a weirdo, an individual. :devil: Life is good!:tongueout
Yep
Another great topic by you salandra . Woman or not , man or not?? well each as there own ticks and crosses .Fortunatly for us we can experiance a little of the other but without actually physically being a woman i cant comment .Yesterday a GG friend of mine who knows i cd said to me its great being a woman , but she is completly crazy LOL :devil:
[SIZE="3"]Yes Salandra,
As the years go by, I have realized that in fact that is exactly what I have always wanted to be. It is not , without a doubt just about glamour and glitter. Its is not about the clothes, the jewels the shoes etc that is all window dressing. a way to express yourself. It is about caring for others and hard work. It is also about being able to feel, to feel deeply emotionaly. being vunerable and being strong. I have always thought that men are the weaker sex. That being said I doubt wether I will ever transition. I Love my wife and she wants her man and I can be that for her. She accepts me as I am and that is a wonderful thing. Thanks for your thought provoking posts!!
:hugs:Kelsy[/SIZE]
Megan made a good point - what if you were an ugly woman - how would you feel? What if you were a girl - but you didn't look as good as you do now?
Having said that I still would prefer to be a woman. I don't believe for a moment it would be fun all the way, but it would be worth it I think.
Its odd but 20 years ago I would have said 'no' - but the older I get the more I feel I want this.....
I agree with Teresa Amina in that even given the opportunity I would not be a "typical" woman. For me being a woman is all about adventure and that is MY fantasy. No white picket fence, dog and cat or 3 1/2 kids for this gal. Being an adventuress who makes a difference is where it is at for me. On the other side of the coin, I had my family and a good life as my guy self and did my best as a husband and father and thoroughly enjoyed doing that even though it was partly an act with respect to who I was deeply inside.
Because of the way things worked out, however, after I came "out" and began exploring my feelings, I lost my family because they could not deal with the changes in me. Whichever way things go, I want my remaining years to be productive ones, so it seems I'm at a sort of crossroad right now. 2008 will be a "year of change" for me in many ways as it will be for the rest of the world and anything can happen really. Thank you all for your very profound answers and comments. You've given me much to consider.:happy:
Hi Sal, deep question, but well worth answering. The answer is easy for me. NO WAY! :eek: Not in this life. I'm a guy, and a crossdresser, that's it. I've been a guy for 43 years, It's all I know. I enjoy doing guy stuff and being a guy. Sure I've fantasized about what it would be like to be a woman (most of us do) , and yes, it is is appealing to me, but it's just a fantasy. I'm not going to act on it. I have a real life, being a guy, a husband, a friend to many, a son to my mother, and I plan to finish this life as such. :happy:
I've never considered being born male as bearing a cross. I'm fine with it. I'll just continue to enjoy the life I have now as a crossdresser. ...and yes, if you remember the reincarnation thread, I did say in my next life I'd like to be born female. Why not experience the other side of the fence next time 'round. But right now I'm busy enough keeping up with all the responsibilities and expectations on the side of the fence I'm currently standing on. I do have to say my grass is quite green right here! :thumbsup::happy: (My neighbor's lawn really does suck, btw :tongueout )
Hardly a problem for just women :2c:Quote:
Originally Posted by dianarg
yeah, but it gets much tougher if your a TS.Quote:
Originally Posted by Teresa Amina
May be something happened to me during the great "hormone wash" (that is when we are babies during the trimesters as fetus cos am convinced that my desire for CDing is beyond psychological it has to be biological cos i dont think psychological desires can have such strength on me) or what ever they call it, i think my desire to immitate women doesnt stop at wearing their cloths am not happy with being rough or untidy or aggressive like a typical guy all i want is to be timid/gentle or neat or passive as per letting things go sometimes, .........in the end if you have such attitudes i just mensioned pple (men) will see you as being a bit weak and unfit for the man's world (what ever that is), so i choose to be soft, gentle, kind, smooth............to the point of desiring to have female body and attitude cos i find them more mature, i want to have the power to have babies
sometimes i find babies crying exciting and sweet.
Am not sure whether i'll have i better deal in life if i was a woman. My desire is to be a young woman- then a middle aged woman-then an old woman i want to have grand children as a woman i want to loose my hair due to old age as a woman i want to see how my breasts will age and sag as a woman i want to reach a stage where men wont find me attractive as a woman i want to die as woman.
Am not interested in gay men i want straight men whole'll love me as a woman (to adopt a child and so on, and raise a family).
But on the other hand i'll miss being a man cos it was fun and am kind of a role model for most men.
I was reading recently where they for the first time was able to successfully transplate a womb and overaies from one GG to another. The GG that recieve them not only did not have any rejection, but started having her period.
I got thinking, if a post-op TS had this transplant, she would then be as close as possible to a real GG. She would have periods, PMS, and all that goes with it. She might even be able to get pregnat. LOL
At least, the kind I fantasize about having as a girlfriend. I often refer to Sherry in the third person, because that's how I think of her. So, I am my own fantasy girlfriend at present! Young, hot, ****ty, and she never nags or complains! Sherry is the perfect woman for Robert rite now!
No, I wouldn't change ANYTHING about my life, for the time being. Certainly not my sex! That would ruin the whole fantasy arrangement I've developed!
RS
My wife once said to me, you know if you were a woman you would have to put up with cramps and bleeding every month, having babies, being discriminated against in the workplace, other female physical problems, harassment, etc. etc. etc.
She said, you like playing a woman, but would you really want to be a woman?
I left that unanswered. But Yes I would want to be. Because being a woman is inside of me. There are things that males have to put with, so I could certainly deal with the things women have to put up with.
If I could become a 100% woman,I would do it in a heartbeat .I always feel my true self when dressed in my dresses and tights.If I had the money to go through the changes I probaly would .
Now that I think about it, I don't think I would really want to be a woman. I'm in one of my angry moods again. :mad:
Wow, what a lot of different answers. Mine, depends on the day, hour, minute. Which is why I haven't made any changes.
When I was a teen, I suffered very much pondering what if, should I, could I.
If I had been born female, I wouldn't have this dilemma - or maybe - I would just have the opposite problem - wanting to be a guy. Maybe, I am just hard to please.
I have finally come to terms with how I feel and have learned to live with it. I accept that some days I am, some days I'm not. I just don't have the commitment to change on the outside so I will just be who I am and accept that the person in the mirror is close to who I am inside, even though the reflection is not always what I want to see.
:happy:
I think so. It has been a lifelong thing. I am reading True Selves, an account by a Psychologist in SF who treats ts patients (M-F and F-M). I am trying to sort it out for myself - some of the issues described for adolescence, teen years, and beyond for her patients seems familiar except for the sexuality. I have always been hopelessly interested in women and she describes her ts patients are being very conflicted in their sexuality. Another book I read recently in this search was Brain Gender, by a human physiologist interested in gender issues - she went into the the biology of hormones and development at different life stages and influences on gender (physical and psychological). It provides a biological basis for the continuous gradient idea for gender conceptualization. Too bad our choices tend to be join one club or the other, publicly at least. Joni
Yes I want to be a woman, I know it is not all roses, but I would be the woman that I was meant to be. :love:
I do I started young around 11 or 12 when I was 16 I read about Christine Jorgenson and I wanted to change. For whatever reason I didnt and went on as a guy When I was divorced from my first wife at 35 I wanted to get at least breast augmentation I took hormones instead again something slowed me down (I do have little cute ones) anyway now that Im too old I really regret not doing it. YES I want to be a woman L
Well I'd rather be one or the other... Rather than both to be honest. If my female mind had been installed in a female body then life would have been life rather than existence, and I'm sure if my male body had been given a male mind it would have been quite happy... Probably have gone to a lot of parties... and been quite sociable.... lol... :)
No, No, Not for me. There is no way that I could do all that a my woman does in a day.
Get up,
Get showered and all pretty for the day.
Work all Day
Come Home
Get Changed into everyday clothes
Make Dinner,
Deal with screaming kids
Do Dishes
Do Laundry
Make Lunches, for next day
Swap Laundry
Go to bed
Read for 1/2 hour
Sleep
Repeat
I get tired just typing it out. :rolleyes:
Yes.....:-)
I read where a team of doctors were successful at transplating a womb and ovariers from one GG to another. I guess they could as well transplant from a GG to a CD/TG/TS. Then that person COULD experience all of the tribulations that a real GG goes thru. LOL
No. I feel that I am "somewhere inbetween". I have some feminine traits (according to my wife), and some masculine ones. I doubt that I'd really fit in as a full woman, but I can enjoy my feminine side while still doing other things that are more masculine.
Good discussion!
Patti
I prefer that I should have been born a pretty woman, - in a good country like the USA. No Muslim, African, or Third World country. No sex change can give me that so I just live a guys life. The advantage of being a woman - you won't get drafted like during WW 2 or Vietnam. Bad thing though is multiple child pregnancies and having a rotten husband.
I dont think i would enjoy being a real girl to be honest, there are just so many aspects that are way too different so yeah. its a nice thought though haha
Yes, right now I would. As Raychel says obout laundry and stuff . I do that now the only thing is I don't have to worry about kids because there grown. When I can i do that dressed.
YES! YES! YES! A hundred times YES!
YES i want to be a women
I love being male, but will not give up my femme things. Dressing is a close part of me. It is not a binary choice, imho, just do what you want to do when you want to do it.
I like being a silly part time Tgirl! Probably even if I did not have kids and job obligations would not go full time and become a woman. But I could see myself going enfemme a lot more! Hmmmm....5 or 6 days a week?
But I am lucky being single and living in a big liberal city where ya can run around as both a guy and a tgirl and no one really bothers me about it.
The answer is of course YES. Now, do I have to qualify that I would not ever want to change the relationships with the ones that I love and my children, of course, never would want to change that. BUT, YES!
I think that if I was a woman, I'd just toss on some blue jeans, a top, and brush my hair. Forget that makeup stuff. In this context, yes, I could do that. :) All that makeup and hair stuff is compensation and trying to hide the male self. Think about it. Would you be female if you didn't have all the female clothes, makeup, and jewelry?
i dont think i could be a real women even if i wanted to - i just love the thrill and alter ego - i still have problems puttin on tights ladders left right and centre caus i havnt got the patience to put them on carefully - when i dress up i just want to get the clothes on then i can relax - but its harder or at least more time consuming than dressin in male mode - then i think how could i do this every day with 20 mins to spare before i go out to work ! women are trained to do this from an early age - and the ones that dont opt out and dress more like men - its hard work i think being a gg i understand that much now - women have the best of both worlds - men just dont have to make the effort !
Yep, that's pretty much my thinking as well Amanda.:happy:Quote:
Originally Posted by amandachick
Absolutely, if things had been differant in my early life I would now be a woman. Sadly now it's a little too late.
I concur. The gender confusion is the raw end of the deal. I'm real happy wearing dresses and the like, but I still can't live it to the fullest as a part of my life. Sometimes I feel like I got ripped off, because the whole girl thing seems so much more normal to me at times. I'd be happier as a guy if I thought as most guys do. Same if I'd have been born a girl. There wouldn't be this constant confusion going on.Quote:
Originally Posted by Lisa Golightly
That said, I couldn't at this point in my life imagine my life without crossdressing. Since I can't have it as a mainstream part of my life, like women can, then I'm forced to do it in private. But I want it there.
So sure. I'd like to have been a woman. But I'm not, so I make do. I try to exploit the benefits of being a man as best I can, and I do the woman thing on my own time. But I'm not willing to go through transition to be a woman.
Kudos to you, though, Karen! You're the best! :happy: