I can add that a lil bondage play has brought pleasure to my wife and I more than a few times....I can also add that a LOT of bondage has brought both pain and pleasure a few times as well...but we wont got there...
Jenn
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I can add that a lil bondage play has brought pleasure to my wife and I more than a few times....I can also add that a LOT of bondage has brought both pain and pleasure a few times as well...but we wont got there...
Jenn
I love the feeling of being dressed as a girl and not being able to change back. The ice trick is one that I use too; but I have an assortment of cuffs and straps with D rings, and plenty of little padlocks. I just freeze the keys in a block of ice the size determined by however long I plan to stay dressed and bound. At first, I cheated, and melted the ice with hot water to free myself too soon. Fixed that, put a hefty fishing line on the keys, attached to the inside of the freezer, only long enough to be able to move the block to the top of the fridge (or into the refrigerator section, if I want to reeaaallly extend the thawing out cycle) to thaw, and I keep any sharp objects with which I might be able to cut the line out of reach. Sitting and walking around with my ankles and wrists fastened to themselves gets a bit uncomfortable, but the feeling that I have to stay that way makes up for it in spades. I know it's all about the forced feminization fantasy concept, but I don't care. I used to do this a lot, back when I felt guilty about the CD'ing. Now, I've pretty much accepted it, and stay dressed all day long, and don't feel a need to 'force myself' to stay that way. But every once in a while, the cuffs and straps come out to play.
well for example, last night Off black pantyhose, blue/black nightie and wifey bound me hand & foot for the night... :)
I had bondage fantasies even before my CD beginnings. I enjoy it very much, but only when dressed,e.g., a full body stocking. If done right, by my tastes, it is not painful, is restrictive, and usually quite delicious! It does require some skill to do it to someone without hurting them or causing circulation problems.
Our sex life can get out of control so we occasionally have to practice some restraint.:heehee::devil:
:worship::dom:
I don't like the thought of being tied up at all. Its not a trust issue since I trust my wife completly, but it just makes me uncomfortable. The flipside is I have no desire to tie up my wife either.
One thing I wanted to add for those who like to self bind, but worry about safety should the house go on fire or something like that (because you froze the keys to your locks or the sharp object to cut your ropes in ice so you had to wait till they thaw out to free yourself). Get a duplicate 'freeing device', key, folding knife, side snips, whatever. Put it into a plastic bag, some kind that you can rip open with your fingers if necessary. For convenience, you can tie it to a piece of fishing line and make a length of about four feet of it into the bag, and run it through the knot, so your safety device will be hanging there for rapid use once you break open the bag. Now add a quart of bright yellow paint into the bag, and tie the bag off. Put in two more layers of plastic bag, again tie off. Tie a string or rope around under the knot, and hang the bag in your closet above your good clothes. If the house goes on fire, you can access your safety device by breaking the bag, your safety device will be hanging there on a piece of line easy for you to free yourself, but it's going to destroy all your clothes. Sure, you can get yourself free earlier than you planned, but it's going to cost you your entire wardrobe, ruin the rugs, etc.. But if it's either that or die, you'll probably make the right choice. If you like to tie yourself into a chair, you can hang the bag within reach but out of sight 'for your binding pleasure'. When I was younger, I used to like the feeling of being 'locked' into my girl clothes. I would mail myself the key via postal service, I had made button holes in the top of the back zipper section of my dress, put the tiny padlock through, and then had to wait until the mail came so I could take the dress off. I got cured of this when one day it took three days for the post office to deliver my key from my own zip code.
i actually have experimented with self-bondage, but it didnt do much for me, so Im not looking for anyone who is into it. I think I realized in the end that I dressed because i am a girl, not for fun, so the other things fell away.
Nope!! No one is going to tie me up!!!
Dressed up? No.
My drab side takes care of those situations that require further attention, and on some days....
"Authority needn't raise its voice"
;)
While I've never really sought an excuse for my CDing, I do have a bit of a thing for forced feminization fantasies, although I'm not sure why. I think it may have something to do with a masochistic streak I've long been aware of, as well as a tendency to find a little bit of discomfort quite erotic in certain situations. I can also attest to the pleasures of being tied up, as well as the sensuality of wearing certain tight pieces of clothing. (In my own case, I've had some rather feminine-looking satin shirts made with oversized collars and equally oversized buttons, and when I wear them, I usually do them all the way up to the neck - I just love the way they feel nice and snug around my neck when I do that.)
As for other humiliating behaviours, one thing I've always found exciting, and which I'll often combine with CDing in my fantasies, is the thought of taking a cream pie in my face. Whenever I saw a pie-in-the-face scene on TV as a child, I found there to be something perversely fascinating about the end result: the hapless victim looking like a big, scary monster (if the pieing had been done properly), yet feeling utterly humiliated at the same time. My typical CDing/pieing fantasy has me being forcibly dressed in layer upon layer of women's clothing by some beautiful yet sadistic woman (the whole forced feminization/discomfort thing), before having her shove a pie in my face: the pie being a nice, big one that makes an incredible mess and renders me nigh-on unrecognizable once the foil pan has been pulled away. Once I've been hit with it, I'm forbidden from wiping any of it off until I've been given permission to; naturally, it has to be one whose contents adhere to my face like plaster, covering the latter thing like a thick, sticky white mask (nothing worse than seeing some pissy pieing in which most of the pie's contents just slide off the victim's face and splatter on the floor). In my fantasies, the last things that are put on me before I'm pied are usually a nice, girly pink raincoat (buttoned to the neck, of course!), or an equally feminine-looking hairdresser's cape, along with a suitably sissy-looking bathing or shower cap, the woman putting these things on me making some sarcastic comment about not wanting to get any cream on my pretty clothes or in my hair. Sometimes in these fantasies, I'll try to get away at that point, only to be forcibly restrained, the pie being shoved in my face the moment I am.
Unfortunately, I can't ever recall seeing the above fantasy being played out in a movie or on television. About the only thing I've ever seen that came remotely close to it (and which probably inspired the whole thing in the first place) was on an episode of The Monkees called Captain Crocodile - the title characters thought they'd be performing on some children's television show, only to quickly discover that they'd only been invited on to take pies to the face for the amusement of the programme's audience. The things that stuck in my mind the most about this particular pie-in-the-face scene (my favourite out of all the ones I've seen) was its glorious messiness and the fact that the Monkees didn't even really look human once it was over; instead they looked almost like fairytale creatures such as elves or pixies. This was due in large part to the fact that before they were pied, each had a women's 1960s-style bathing cap pulled over his head to keep the pie's contents out of his hair. These caps were covered with green rubber leaves, making them look like little fairy hats. (Part of me was actually quite annoyed that such beautiful (to my mind) pieces of attire were going to be used for such a degrading purpose, particularly in Davy Jones's case - I thought he looked very cute in his!) Once the scene was over, I found myself feeling the usual conflicted emotions over it - on the one hand, I actually thought the Monkees looked kind of cool as "pie-faced pixies"; on the other, though, I knew they weren't supposed to - the intent of the whole exercise had been to humiliate them on national television. It certainly put them off wanting to appear on the show ever again. If it had been me in that situation, though... hmmmm. :daydreaming:
You wouldn't want to do this over a long holiday weekend, with no mail delivery.:DQuote:
I would mail myself the key via postal service, I had made button holes in the top of the back zipper section of my dress, put the tiny padlock through, and then had to wait until the mail came so I could take the dress off. I got cured of this when one day it took three days for the post office to deliver my key from my own zip code.
I never tried but would like to try once while en femme.
Haven't had the chance yet but surely would enjoy trying.
Yes! Yes! Yes! I think it would be great fun! What would be even more fun would be to be dressed very femme and have someone come into my home dressed all in black like a robber and rough me up a little then tie me up to a chair in a feminine position (like you use to see Lois Lane in the old Superman tv shows) and gag me! My strong dominate GG lover (gosh I wish I had one!) would come in find me bound and gagged. She would then spend a very long time checking to make sure I wasn't hurt before releasing me! She would carry me to bed where she would make love to me! Of course, she might have to tie me back up if I where naughty, lol!
Count me as one who would like to try it!!!!!!!! :battingeyelashes:
I have always been into bondage/BDSM [it is probably one of the largest areas of my sexuality] unfortunately due to the lack of a partner (or domme) this is always self-bondage (don't worry, this isn't really "strict" self-bondage and I always make sure that I have a non-timed release method nearby - the whole ice method seems too unpredictable and unreliable for me).
I think I would find being bound in "bob mode" to be quite dull but when "En Femme" it is very interesting.
When I first started CDing, it almost always seemed to be linked to self-bondage but after a few years I seemed to enjoy CDing in its own right, without bondage, and it became more about relaxation/being feminine/being beautiful/expressing another side of myself than just something I did when I tied myself up. That's not to say that I don't ever combine the two things these days (and I know a lot more ways to do self-bondage than I did back then:chained: :) ).
I just wish I could find someone (that I could trust) to tie me up for a couple of hours when I was en femme, but seeming as I am deeply closeted about my kinky side (even more so than being a CD), this seems very unlikely.
I don't know the reasons why the two seem to go together so well (for me at least) but it seems to be surprisingly more widespread than I thought.
My ex wife liked to be bound, I don't particularly care for it although I am somewhat more submissive when I present as a female. I'm not a believer in hurting people unless they hurt me first. Then I'm not nice.
Oh yes! Of course. Kinky, but alas no partner (wife not interested). Self-bondage at times--enfemme often. forced feminization fantasies are a favorite.
I have found this tread and the postings very interesting, the reason being I run a “fantasy” dressing service with Dom./Sub, role-play. For the most part my clients want me to be Dom. & dress them for their fantasy role (forced feminisation) popular roles are Maid, School girl, Secretary etc. I dress appropriately Dominatrix, Head Mistress, Business Woman etc. We then play bondage & CP. (corporal punishment) games. The men associate the cross dressing with being submissive, many of them have very powerful & demanding jobs, others as in some of the posts here are cross dressers / TVs who can’t play at home. The main point is that they generally cannot be submissive in male mode. This is something I can associate with as some of my clients want to dominate me with them either dressed or more often in male mode, I can only be submissive as Katie, there is no way as Colin I would let a man spank me but as Katie it just seems well “normal” again the clothes play a big part as I have to dress to fit the role, there must be a lot of business men out there who would love to spank their secretaries as that is the game a lot want to play. The reason they come to me and not a GG is something I don’t really understand but “I’m not complaining”. I will probably get some unfavourable posts to this from those CD/TVs who don’t see the connection between dressing fem. & being submissive but in my experience there is a big connection. Katie, X
Yes I like bondage AND crossdressing. The only problem me and my girlfriend encounter is the familiar one of me wanting to submissive all the time...:o
just reading the thread makes me want to get dressed and bound :daydreaming:
Nope, no one's tying me up. A little light forced fem from a strong-minded woman, sure.
I love bondage - especially when crossdressed. Restrictive clothing can be very erotic (corsets, hobble skirts) and having ankles tied or chained gives you a very girly 'mince'.
I also like the thought of being tied up in such a way that I was unable to stop my partner 'abusing' me and using me for his/her pleasure. (No details as I don't want the admin team to ban me! lol) :censor:
xxx
Sarah
Count me in that group too!Quote:
Originally Posted by missblondeme
Count me in too! I have been dressed and bound. Nothing like being tightly tied dressed in lingerie and tights complete with a nice tight ball gag...all I can say is "ugmfff" (="yummm" in bound up land)!Quote:
Originally Posted by missblondeme
:)
I have not been fortunate enough be bound while dressed but I love being bound.
I was my SO's servant, so to speak, :chained:, when she found my stash. The "game" always involved being in femme after that. Corsets and ropes, dreams and hopes, a shiny new pair of leggings could lead to some serious "pegging". Never went in for the CP angle of things, just some very creative bondage.
Being tightly bound while dressed is the best thing ever. My ex-GF used to indulge me on occasions. The important thing was to make sure that the pleasure wasn't all for me as she wasn't into the whole BD thing in a big way. Through talking & playing we managed to come up with situations to pleasure both of us.
If you know what I mean......:)
... are bondage and CD'ing. I've experimented and (fully) enjoyed both, as seperate scenes, and combined. Leather wrist and ankle resraints can make a great fashion accessory!
Oh my and I figured I was the only kinky one around or should I say my wife is. I enjoy it but my wife loves to tie and gag me and she is free to do what every she likes. One day she shaved me clean you know where and then told me how cute I looked.
I think it is a fun thing for both of us and nobody get's hurt she just has a lot of fun with her crossdresser. :love:
I have experimented with self bondage, mostly using saran wrap.
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Me too, me too. I love being bound and helpless while dressed. Of course, the tats should kind of give that away. Hahahaha
Safe, Sane and Consensual (SSC) Bondage between 2 consenting adults can be a beautiful thing....communication is the key to successful experimentation....make sure that you both want the same thing out of bondage.....one person may only wish to simply have their hands tied gently in front of them with a scarf while the other has ordered a truckload of rope from Home Depot, they might not be a good match :doh:.....and the Golden Rule is when someone says they're not interested in Bondage, end the subject then and there....never try to talk them into it.....do something that you Both enjoy instead.....oops, have to go, think I hear a truck outside :devil:
Cosmo,Quote:
Originally Posted by cosmolovesph
Did she leave you like that and just roll over and go to sleep? If she did, I'll bet she got a better night sleep than you did!:)
Chicken:heehee:Quote:
Originally Posted by Karren Hutton
My wife really likes me when I'm "dressed" and ready for bed. One of us is frequently tied up, most of the time me. The only problem I have is she usually doesn't take the lead in bondage except when we're away alone on a trip, which only happens once in a blue moon. At home, I usually do the self-bondage thing and then she takes over with enthusiasm. She doesn't seem to understand, that "just" tying my wrists, although nice in itself, isn't anywhere as exciting as being more completely and severely restricted.Quote:
Originally Posted by black leotards
She's usually doesn't like me being gagged since she finds that it restricts certain things that she likes me to do, if you know what I mean. When I am gagged, a certain, how should I put it, double ended thing is her favorite.
NIIIIICE!!!!!!!!!!!!! :heehee::heehee:Quote:
Originally Posted by Tammy298
Go Sweetie!
:sad:I do love the way you think Brenda! :D:daydreaming:Quote:
Originally Posted by Brenda_Boston
I have done some bondage modeling ... and yes, I LOVED it, but they were shoots and not actual play time ... :sad:
The business side of things CAN take just a bit out of the fun side of things at times ...
My real fantasy is one that involves both CDing and bondage. It goes something like this: My wife and I are playing one night, me dressed and bound, while she's wearing one of her own "nice" outfits. Maybe we were making a little too much noise, then suddenly, the door to our room that we though we had locked, opens. In walks our female house guest who's visiting from out-of-town. Before long, my wife finds herself bound to me, in one position or another, while our guest has her way with both of us!
....I can ony dream!
Jennifer isn't Sandra fabulous.....I had the pleasure of meeting her during one of my LA trips....you girls are certainly in the right spot on the (right) coast for the subject at hand :o
Brenda
Hey Brenda,Quote:
Originally Posted by Brenda_Boston
Come to think of it, Sandra mentioned a meeting between you two ...
Sweetie you're Gorgeous! I hope to see your photos someday soon! You'd make an awesome model, either bondage or othewise!
Take care sweetie!
Jennifer
Thank you VERY much Paula, Great advice.Quote:
Originally Posted by paulacd
My wife knows I crossdress, she understands my need for it, has even purchased me clothing and accessories, but, she does NOT want to see it. She is very homophobic, and to picture me feminine, well, is hard on the relationship.
I have asked her if she would tie me up, she said she would do it, but, she has no interest in it other than doing it for me, so I did not think it would ever happen, but after reading this thread, I am considering talking to her about it again.
Thank You
My SO and I love bondage both being tied up and or being the one doing the tieing. We have recently done a rope bondage bra which my SO loved, youtube it its fun.
Shawna
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Originally Posted by JamieToo
Hey Jamie,
Try freezing your handcuff keys in a can or bottle, that way, you will have to wait for the ice to melt before you can release yourself.
First, please know that I'm not trying to judge anyone with these remarks. I have no vested interest in putting anyone down, nor do I wish to be mean-spirited. I just wanted to say that I've never understood the desire to be tied up, held down, or otherwise be put into bondage.
Again, if that's your thing then please be my guest. I have no wish to keep anyone from doing whatever they want. I simply don't get why someone would want to be immobilized or otherwise prevented from responding naturally to stimuli, especially in a sexual situation. How can you respond if you're tied up and unable to move??? And why would you want to be placed in a restrictive situation like that if you seek to experience all the sensuality that a sexual scenario has to offer? Do restraints and/or the inability to physically respond comprise the actual turn-on? How does that work, exactly?
I DO know that people's love maps are intricate, complex things and that the world is full of all sorts of things that turn people on. I also know that bondage is apparently one of those things, especially since so many seem attracted to it. For me, however, it just seems counterintuitive to a fulfilling sexual experience.
Everyone's different, and every adult certainly has the right to do whatever pushes their buttons. I just don't think I'll ever understand the attraction to bondage--it's never made any sense to me. To each their own, I guess...that's the beauty of free choice.
In any case, and whatever you do, have fun and please be safe.
Wish I had seen this post earlier. My bondage fetish kicked in around the same time as I started to crossdress (around the age of 13). I like to pretend I'm a "damsel in distress" like in the movies struggling for all it's worth. Rope bondage primarily. I've done self bondage while dressed and this year at FetishCon I had a photo shoot with a model friend of mine and we were tied up together! We even shot a couple of video clips for her online store. It was one of the happiest experiences of my life. She knew me for several years and she is one of the few people who knows about Audrey. All I can say is she was very positive seeing me dressed and the next time we get together we plan on doing another "damsel in distress" shoot.
-Audrey
Not really being a regular practitioner of it, but having tried it in the past I guess it can be said that the act of totally submitting to another and not having any say in what they do to you sexually can be a turn on. The understanding of both partners to take it to the extremes of being submissive while the other is very dominate.Quote:
Originally Posted by Vanessa Sheridan
If in the dominate role, it can also be a turn on to have total control over your partner and make them feel totally submissive to your wishes, realizing that its turning them on as well for you to "take them and make them yours" which is generally what the submissive one wants to feel.
The feeling as well of just being "used for sexual pleasure only" is also a factor for some. Everyone has a different reason why they may like it, these are just general examples.
I'm sure you'll have better responses to your question by others that practice it more often. Nothing offensive in your question BTW, curiousity is what I've read into it.
We do it quite often, although she is the submissive side of our relationship.
When done right and with the right person the reality can far outstrip
the fantasy. And as she 'enjoys' Kari's presence she has the best of both
worlds, she has a Master and a Mistress all rolled in to one.
We have tried switching but it didn't do much for me and she wasnt
comfortable in the role of a Domme.
Bondage isnt the be all and end all of our sex life but it does play a part in it.
I would tell, but the gag is preventing me :daydreaming:Quote:
Originally Posted by Tammy298
Always safety first Vanessa.Quote:
Originally Posted by Vanessa Sheridan
Clearly, you don't understand the attraction and the sexual rush from this stimulus, and that's okay. Like you said, there are many varied fetishes and kinks that exist, many that I don't understand either. And I would not chastise or condemn the majority of them. Most are basically harmless and victimless.
Too bad Minnesota is so far away, I'd ask you what you're doing friday night.
LOL
You'll never know until you've tried it at least one time with the right partner.