There was only one time that my wife help me get dressed, and that was for a Halloween party just this year, not only did I feel more accepted, loved and cared for I was in heaven.
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There was only one time that my wife help me get dressed, and that was for a Halloween party just this year, not only did I feel more accepted, loved and cared for I was in heaven.
I have had it done by a stranger and she made me feel like such a special lady. She carefully put on each article of clothing and told me how pretty I looked. We picked out outfits together and she would put them on me. She did my makeup and wig. It is definitely role playing but it is very satisfying. I highly recommend.
I actually like having my makeup done by someone else. A few years ago I was in Chicago and had a makeover at Transformations by Rory and I felt so fabulous!
I enjoy having advice on outfits, but that's rare. Does it make me feel better? Not really...
I don't know; when I discussed the scenario with my ex while we were at the therapist, one of the possibilities was exactly that; that I would play 'barbie doll' and she could dress me any way she wanted, so she could express how she saw me. Needless to say, my ex didn't go for the idea, but I found it enticing; maybe not having a woman do ALL the dressing of me, but maybe doing a lot, much like the royalty of old had women help them get dressed and primped and such. I think for me, it comes from being ignored so much as a kid, and seeing my sister get mom's efforts to make her look so pretty. Anyone know of a good transformation studio in the NYC tristate area? This sounds like something I'm way overdue for.Quote:
If you're talking about someone actually putting on your clothes as though you weren't willing/able to dress yourself, that's infantilism or humiliation. The crossdressers who dress for mostly fetishistic reasons have probably had that that one cross their minds a few times, though.
I would particularly enjoy playing barbie for a woman who wanted a lifesize barbie to dress up, put make up on, etc. Other than halloween trying on costume situations or my makeup artist friend practicing on me (in the case of the latter I wear ordinary clothes), I have not experienced that yet. And because this is something that probably 99% of women would have a problem with, I am not about to look for the needle in the haystack on this.Quote:
Originally Posted by Paige.
However, I should note in lieu of my avatar picture (which is of course not me) that while I have some features that are enhanced by certain things -for example my eyes when dolled up look really lovely due to my naturally long eyelashes, my legs look presentable in black stockings and heels- that I do not look even remotely like barbie of course. But a :doll: can always dream right?
It's never happened to me but I suppose it could be fun.
I think it would be a nice change to have someone else pick all your clothes and makeup out, and then make you over into their idea of what you should look like.
I'm not sure I would want to do it every time, but there would certainly be a need for trust of the person doing the choosing, and I would think a definite feeling of vulnerability on the part of the person being dressed.
sometimes_miss posted this; I think being a bit of a "Barbie" doll would be neat to try.
Good question Paige; I am helped to get dressed by a GG when I visit my make-over studio and am fine with that - we are just two women chatting comfortably away together about all sorts of things. Where I do REALLY appreciate someone elses input however, is in putting on make up - particularly eyes. I simply cannot get it right. Because I need glasses for close-up work, I can't see and put on eyeliner at the same time!!!
Yes, the first time a GF of mine helped me slip into pantyhose she slid them up my legs and said they were a "pretty fit" She had matching hose on and we both enjoyed the night :)
I lived with an SO for nearly two years and was full femme at least 5 days a month or so, she picked out all the clothing down to what shoes to wear. I did my own hair and make up. There was some rather serious role playing going on:chained:
So at that point in life it was a good fit. Even today there is something special about having someone else help out. One daughter gave me some lovely silver heels for my birthday just past and another helped pick out an outfit to go with the shoes.
I have a ggbf who also likes me to dress when I come over to play cards and such. To have a level of acceptance about who you are by the people you care for is a wonderful experience.
I'm still in the closet most of the way, but the door is ajar.
hello Paige
It would be an incredible fantasy fulfilled to be dressed by a GG whom I knew well, a good friend, largely because of the incredible emotional intimacy it would generate. I have never done the makeup and wigs thing but if she decided it was to be, then i suppose i would go along. Nicest though would be if she underdressed me and we went out and she played with my straps, stocking tops and silky layers.
Overlooking that I don't have a wife/husband/partner, can you imagine many GG's being ok with their partner deciding how they'd dress & look?
Now if a pretty woman like Paige was picking out my clothes ( beginning with lingerie ) & putting them on me, it'd be enjoyable. ;)
That's an interesting question. I've never heard a GG give her opinion on that, since I've never heard someone ask a GG to play dress-up.Quote:
Originally Posted by Fab Karen
Personally, I like getting ready with CDs and helping them with their makeup, and I would totally love to completely dress a GG, although it would be very difficult to be composed if she were attractive.
If my partner knew my tastes then that would be OK for her to pick something out and complete my look, but preferably I'd rather make my own choices on dress and makeup look.
I think there are 2 levels here. There is the sharing of your inner self with someone else, a loving, intimate and nuturing exchange as she helps you dress. I see this as a long term (or short term if you're lucky) relationship situation. This seems to me to be a person who accepts and is a willing participant. I think this would be a special time for the couple. I think the other issue may be more sexual, with an element of domination and humiliation. Could be part of a relationship in which both enjoy the power exchange or "letting go". I see a paid professional component to this if the person is not in a relationship.
Well Paige, I for one have been dressed by a GG on occasion. Although I do not require it, I do enjoy it. As to how it makes you feel, it all depends on the situation. The first time I dressed en femme was because a girlfriend wanted me to go to Halloween as Mrs. Doubtfire and she was going as Ross Perot. This was obviously around the time he was running for President. She gave me a bubble bath and I shaved all of that manly hair off of my legs and chest. I even shaved my mustache for the first time in twenty-five years or so. I haven't grown a mustache since that day either.
She chose my clothes, went with me to buy shoes and provided one of her wigs for me to wear. We drank wine while she was doing my make-up and had a great time. She kept saying, "Stop licking you lips. You'll ruin the lipstick." I was very self-consious but was determined to go through with it because I was probably a little (maybe a lot) too conservative to ever consider doing such a thing. Honestly, I had never even dreamed of doing it. Although she had total control, she didn't pay that much attention to me as she was putting on my make-up. She was a little (maybe a lot) self-centered and she was mostly excited about how she would be dressed. When she finished she looked at me in the mirror and a look of total surprise spread across her face and she said, "My God Glenda, you really are a woman!" That's where I got my name. I was speechless. I suddenly understood why I had feelings that I would never share with my "buddies." I did actually have a girl inside! Suddenly so many things made sense.
Long story short, we (I) had a wonderful time and dozens of my friends said, "I can't believe how natural you look as a woman." I didn't want the night to end and we stayed out until after the sun was up. She and I broke up some time after that but I never stopped dressing.
Since then, I've had other GG friends (as well as the original one) who have invited me over to go through their closets to see what would fit or do each other's make-up. There have been a lot of nights spent acting as girlfriends.......talking about things they don't want to talk to other guys about......going on girl's nights out.......shopping for clothes and then trying on everything when we get home. For all who feel it would not be natural, let me assure you.....if you want to let the femme side show, there is nothing more natural. Don't you think GG's dress their friends at times or do each other's make-up?
It really makes you feel so accepted and natural. So much more than just dressing as a girl. Thanks for the thread.
I think it would be kind of cool! It would be a sort of submission, so I guess it would feel like that person was being more loving to me in wanting to share in the fun, and yes, it would feel kind of like a sexual game and role play.
Laura
Wow Glenda. I wish I had girlfriends like that.
:love:Portia
I'd like to be dressed by you Paige!:battingeyelashes::daydreaming:......Michell e
I've been dressed / Assisted in finding good wardrobe choices from my SO, and it's nice to have a GG input in regards. As for makeup, I'd have to say that I'm still certianly in the learning stages of building my warpaint collection and application techniques. She's done my makeup for me a few times now and it's been a great feeling to have her hands on my face, just working away.. Since then I've been getting much better at makeup though still need help finding / choosing cute clothing so far.. :P Still working down that personal style avenue.
She's told me that it's made her happy to help me explore my femme side, and I'm glad for it..
It has been especially fun during the very rare occasion when a genetic female has assisted me to dress up. The pleasure has been result of being both accepted and supported.
To me part of the fun of being a CD is learning how to dress and do make-up, when I come home from shopping I can not wait to try on the clothes and when everything fall in to place it is very rewarding.
LA CINDY LOVE
Being dolled up by a woman I care about is probably one of life's greatest joys, at least for me.
In high school I went steady with a girl who became our homecoming queen.
She was really into glamour, and did some part-time modeling as well.
I slowly introduced my desires to her, and for a little while at least, she was very enthusiastic.
One weekend we had the house to ourselves, and she styled my hair (I was a bit of a hippie back then, with hair down past my shoulders), painted my nails, and did my makeup as well.
It honestly felt the same as if someone had injected me with the most powerful and pleasant narcotic there was.
(Not comparing crossdressing to drugs, only that the euphoria was so intense)
There were other supportive women since then...but none yet who really enjoyed it past the novelty phase.
It's a very intimate moment for me...I feel both vulnerable and open at the same time.
I look forward to other chances like that in the future.
Got an older sister Paige? :battingeyelashes:
Chris
Gee, everyone thinks Paige is cute. no wonder she's in the Witness Protection Program! :tongueoutQuote:
Originally Posted by Michl41
For sure, being dressed by a woman is among my deepest and sweetest desires. I love feeling vulnerable, and feeling loved when I am vulnerable.
All my life, every time I have loved a woman, I have had the deepest desire to be lovingly dressed by her.
For sure, I associate this experience with being deeply loved.
If that were to really happen, I think that I might cry my heart out, and never let go.
Sorry for being so emotional, but this strikes a deep chord within me.
Paige,
I think it would be the ultimate fun thing to do but the reason for it would be for the experiance of having a gg who has years of experiance teaching me things I have not discovered myself. I'm a big girl now and can do my own dressing but the idea of help would be great. Keli
I want to add to my previous comments that, for me, being dressed by another (in a loving fashion) would be the farthest from kink or fetish. It would, rather, be intensely romantic--finding a longed-for care and acceptance.
Hi Paige
I have a very close GG friend who knows all about me.
I find it so wonderful when I dress in front of her. It's like being real girlfriends.
She helps me from a comment view point i.e. what she feels is good/bad etc....She also helps by putting some make up on for me. It is so important to me to be accepted by someone who I can be girly with. It's all about someone accepting you as female rather than anything erotic.
The feeling of being accepted as a woman and therefore treated like a woman is so strong it's frightening sometimes.:daydreaming:
Yes I believe this would take some of the fun out of CDing. Although having someone help me with makeup would be an absolute pleasure, hope someday to get up the nerve to go to the mall and have a makover.Quote:
Originally Posted by jasmine57
Laura
I think being dressed by someone else would be similar to going out in public enfemme for the first time.Very vulnerable...probably very femme...would be how I would feel.
Helen
One night my GG asked if I wanted to play dress up and she syled my wig, did my make up, picked out my bra, panties, pantyhouse, slip and heels. For the rest of the night she had me try on different dresses while she took pictures of each one. It was a great night hat I will never forget.
I would love for someone else to dress me, or at least help. It may be that I am still inexperienced though and I would think of it more as a learning experience, but knowing I could trust someone would be a big bonus too.
I would love for my wife to dress me. She does on occasions do my makeup for me, and I love that. It shows that even though she isn't crazy over my xdressing at least she is accepting . Maybe someday she'll go the hole routine
What a bunch of wonderful replies. In general I think I see two basic replies, those that want to dress and present themselves to be seen, to emerge from the dressing room already looking resplendent and feminine and those who need or want assurance, approval and the acceptance that is inherent in the act of letting someone else guide you. Both are valid and have their place in the scheme of things.
To be fair I should probably give my own answer to my own question. Personally I side with those that do not want someone else picking out their clothes and dressing them. I definitely do no want anyone dressing me. As others have said, I can do that myself, and I wouldn’t find it to be a turn on. But there have been times I have been asked to wear a particular outfit or piece because my partner or date finds it flattering or whatever. But that isn’t the same.
I wouldn’t want someone else telling me what to wear and how to wear my clothes. One intriguing aspect is the power exchange that occurs by giving total control over your appearance to your partner. I think it has to deal with the fact that when we dress, it is a form of self expression. But when someone actually dresses you, you lose this control over your image. But then along comes eroticism, and a fuzzy line can be drawn between it and normal dressing.
I think to dress someone else you would have to know them quite well. Originally I was thinking more along the lines of an erotic experience, of helping someone else dress and doing it together, rather that the idea picking out each item and actually putting them on. I guess it is role play, yet I don’t want to be on the receiving end. I would not in any way want to humiliate or make anyone feel small. I would never want someone to feel that way and would always make my approval absolutely clear, approval of him being a man, approval of dressing and having the desire to experiment. 'Ultimate comfort' with one another is a huge plus, not to mention a turn on. The lurking doubt/shame is one thing that bothers me the most about many CD’s. It should be an experience to be celebrated and enjoyed.
I think some men underestimate themselves in regards to how they will be accepted by a GG, or maybe it’s just that they don't let themselves go to that place where they can be whoever they want to be without a loss to their sense of being. Just as some women have no idea what they are missing. I find that when a couple is alike, yet different, there could be so much fun had in experimenting; each bringing something different to the table.
I had never thought myself about having a “Barbie” complex though but it is something for me to think about. Ken maybe.
It all seems so complicated sometimes when it shouldn't be.
This says it all for me Thx. MorganQuote:
Originally Posted by GailTulane
Exactly what I wanted to hear from a GG! Can you call my wife? LOL. Seriously, this is a great answer and is what I personally hope for. P.S. Let me clarify that. While the eroticism you allude to is alluring, it is only a part of the picture. It can exist, and be fun, but the validation you give is what I seek. I am sure that my feelings on this are shared by many crossdressers. Paige gets it! She gets what many of us want, and she wants the same thing it seems. Where's the cloning machine. LOL!
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Originally Posted by Paige.
I would LOVE for someone to pick out my lingerie and outfit for the day/night. I believe this shows understanding, acceptance and a desire not only to have control of my dressing but to know what looks good on me and how she likes me dressed. Always, I need help with the make up. I would take on a role of a female in the relationship, girlfriends or girlfriend.
[QUOTE=Paige.;1509197]I’m not interested in knowing who likes to xdress or what it feels like to wear a dress. There are tons of threads and posts about that. I am asking if there are CD's who specifically would like to be dressed by someone else and if there are emotional differences or issues, if any, that you can share. How is it different for you?
Paige,
It is certainly a sign of being loved and cared for. Getting more turned on, goes without saying but yess when your SO picks out sexy body hugging clothing for you and either gives you hers to slip into or buys some for you the sexiness and sex is mind blowing. Having hose cladlegs sliding along your SO legs when you both have on pantyhose is great.
Kinky role playing is part of sharing yourself. So around the holidays,
A stocking stuffed with stockings(, and leotard:) is a great gift.
How go most GG feel about this? If you think they are worried about getting us to try on their clothes or recieving some sexy night wear as a gift they shouldnt. Most times it is a difficult thing to sense if your SO will accept your love of her clothes. (If they bring it up so much the better)
So if more GG were like you life would be that much more wonderful.
I think I would go crazy with excitement.
I don't know where to start.
I would love it if my SO took control and told me what to wear. It would show she was into it as much as I was, and that it wasn't a one way street. I haven't even dressed with anyone in some time and it would be nice to share the experience.
I always dress myself.
I dress myself, only once did I let my best lady friend dress me, but I found the experience just to much. For some reason I became very embarrassed and we had to stop.
I think that I have good enough taste to dress myself - however - I would love a facial makeover and a wig styling - I would rather they teach me how to do it myself .
JoAnne Wheeler
Let's say that I would be just *fine* with being a *kept woman* in any sort of way imaginable. What ever produced the maximum effect for my SO from the fem. side of the spectrum is all *great*. As the song of seduction says, "Let me entertain you, let me make you smile" :)
Was that clear enough ? :heehee:
I would love a gg to help me with any or all parts of dressing
No thank you...I'm old enough to dress myself...LOL.
Although my spouse and i share clothing and discuss styles, etc regularly, I have no interest in her "dressing" me. I don't do it for the clothes, but for the emotional freedom I gain by being able to fully express the woman inside.
Hello Paige!
I would loveto be dressed by a woman. How better to learn, see how to dress better and best of all gain acceptance from someone I am trying to emolate.
Over the years, I 've grown (and my wife has grown) to accept the two sides of me (guess I should change my avatar "Saying!"")
She's an absolute dream-come-true, and I'm deeply blessed to know her more deeply each day!
I only really dress for the sexual feel of it. I have no intention to go full time with my dressing. I would love to be fully dressed, and have my hair and make up done by a GG.
Maybe a cute little maid outfit. Then she can whip out the ropes and I'll be hers for as long as she wants! :o
No one has ever assisted in my dressing. I've often dreamed of having my wife be accepting enough to even put polish on my nails, let alone zip up a dress, hook my bra, or help me with my makeup. Sexual gratification wouldn't have anything to do with it... but feeling that loved and accepted would be overwhelming.Quote:
Originally Posted by Paige.