Do you see a therapist

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Originally Posted by Lady JayDee

I dont think there is anything wrong with CDing per say. The problem arises when it takes over everything else.
I agree that us GGs (if we decide to accept the CDing) should bd e open minded and allow our other halves to express themselves.
HOWEVER, I also think that the CDers should be thoughtful and sensitive to the GGs and understand that the revelation is often a major shock and allowing our other halves to dress is a HUGE compromise for us. The problems arise when the cross dressing takes over everything else, the pink fog takes over and nothing else matters. THEN I think that councilling can be helpful. I think this because I think that seeing a councillor can help give perspective about whats important in life. That dressing should be an important part of your life but not the ONLY part. That you can dress but not to the detriment of everything else in your life.

Im sorry if this is a huge sweeping statement. Im not labelling everyone who CD's. Im just going from my own experiences.

I dont mind my husband cross dressing and I dont think he needs therapy for that. But I do think he needs help to control it and to be able to function normally in other aspects of his life rather than everything being affected by his dressing. I feel like his dressing should be one aspect of his life, not affect EVERY aspect of his life which it is at the moment - in a negative way. For that I think he needs help - to balance it all out.

Does that make sense or do I sound like a horribly neurotic GG?!

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This is probabbly the most supportive and logical GG comment on this site I have read so far. Cheers to you dear :drink:

You are correct, but think about it from the other side too. You go on vacation or out on the weekend and have a good time, you come to work on Monday and share with all your coworkers/girlfriends. We cant say a word, we have to bottle all that excitement up and hide it. It becomes to much for some and we feel we have to tell someone we can truly share it with. Sometimes our judgement is misguided. Imagine you have a great weekend and cant tell a sole, it is consuming and overwhelming.

Your SO is lucky you are so open and excepting.

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Originally Posted by Lady JayDee

I dont mind my husband cross dressing and I dont think he needs therapy for that. But I do think he needs help to control it and to be able to function normally in other aspects of his life rather than everything being affected by his dressing. I feel like his dressing should be one aspect of his life, not affect EVERY aspect of his life which it is at the moment - in a negative way. For that I think he needs help - to balance it all out.

Does that make sense or do I sound like a horribly neurotic GG?!

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You are not neurotic. It makes perfect sense to me.

Wow , lots of different perspectives on whether to or not to.
My experience with therapy has been nothing but positive with the exception of marriage counseling but that had nothing to do with cross dressing , we grew apart in all other aspects of life.
Anyway I started to see a therapist to work on relationship problems and to not make the same mistakes in another relationship , and over the coarse of time I became comfortable enough with her to talk about my cross dressing , which turned out to be a very big help to me. She was and is very supportive and understanding , when I told her my story she told me that she had several years of experience working with people with gender issues.
I feel fortunate to have found a therapist that has helped me to grow and accept this part of me.
Tomara

I used to see a therapist and, overall, it was very good for me. Long story short -- I grew up in a very abusive family and I had a difficult time coming to terms with who I am.

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Originally Posted by christinek

Your SO is lucky you are so open and excepting.

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Lolz. That's exactly the word I would have used to describe that post as well.

As in:

"Exceptng this one little problem, you are a good person. Now let's get you to a doctor to help tell you what's really important in this marriage, (hint: it's not you) because you obviously can't on your own, so you need psychiatric help."

Look at Dawn Marie's post to see the result of this kind of 'exceptance.'

There are many things people do to excess; golf, hunting, fishing, drinking, gambling, shopping, etc. etc. And crossdressing can be one, too. So maybe the problem isn't crossdressing, but maintaining balance. If a person needs to see a therapist about maintaing balance, fine.
The pink fog? I know folks with a serious case of camo fog.

I dont see a therapist, use to when I was alot younger but I dont anymore. Comfrotable with who I am now so there isnt any reason for me

I don't see one. However when I was married the second time my wife had me join her in her sessions so she could talk about my dressing. Unfortunately, all things considered her therapist seemed to side with me and after four lessions my wife drop them.